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kopabeavs

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hetshup

Please tell me Beavs is short for beaver.


Don't do anything, don't rob yourself of the engaged experiance. Plus it's only a little over a month. You can plan a great wedding in 7 months, many of us are doing it already.

PandaBurr

Oh I wish I were an Oscar Meyer weiner. 'Cause everyone would be in love with me.

katanne9

Have you set a budget?

Do that first.

You can get it all done in 7 months. Mine is 9mo, many girls on here are have had engagements in between 6-9mo.

PandaBurr

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[QUOTE]I've searched all over the net, but can't seem to find anything! My boyfriend and I know we want to get married in March/April 2011, but he's going to out of country for a little while and he can't propose until late-August (2010) when he gets back. I know I'll only have 7 months to plan everything and <strong>would like to start planning ASAP</strong>, but obviously some things have to wait until we're officially engaged and Set a date. He told me it was okay to start planning ("secretly") :) without him, but I don't know what to do or plan.<strong> I already know Wedding colors, my dress style, the venue, the photographer/videographers</strong> I want, What else can do to be Productive during this extra month-long wait?? Please help.
Posted by kopabeavs[/QUOTE]

I hate to break it to ya, babe, but it sounds like you've already started planning.

rubyjem00

7 months is plenty of time to plan a very nice wedding. You will be fine. And I agree with the PP, it sounds like you are already planning a wedding.

GreenPepperBurger

If you've already got the basics covered, then it sounds like you're already engaged.

mellimel19

It sounds like you have a lot of the big things covered, 7 months should be plenty of time to plan the rest, together.

PandaBurr

Okay, then my advice is to chill. One month isn't going to make a big difference in the long run, especially since you've already started planning.

Also, I kinda get the vibe that you're really excited about wedding, and slightly stressing out about it. You need to remember that it's about the marriage, and not the wedding, and pretty much so long as you still end up married to your BF(FI, whatever), all the small details don't matter in the end.

Tell us a little more about yourself. How old are you guys? How long have you been dating? How long have you been discussing marriage (NOT the wedding, i.e. guest list, catering, venue)? What do you do for a living?

run21

Although I stopped counting the number of times you used "I", I imagine you want HIM to be involved in the wedding planning too, right? You have plenty of time. While he's away, get ideas for colors, decor, etc. Think about budget and guest list (from your side). Then STOP until he gets home. Day dream all you want but don't get too crazy - he might hate your color choice or want something casual while you are going for formal.

Planning an event for one is called a party. Planning an event WITH TWO is a wedding. Relax. You have plenty of time.

Maere

look for designs of wedding invitations that you would like... then you can narrow down to what style and kind of wedding invitations would be best for you when the time comes.  

catemeg

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[QUOTE] (yes I have already started planning the wedding, I'm just asking for advice on which details to work on now that don't require a date or telling the world)
Posted by kopabeavs[/QUOTE]

Responding to this part, the Knot Checklist has a great idea of what things need to be done at what point in the process. As the girls on this board have told you, 7 months is plenty to plan a wedding, so don't stress!  You guys will be fine when he gets back.

Unfortunately, you're sort of in a Catch-22 - you don't want to set a date yet, but the first major thing you'll have to do is book a venue, which by default will give you a date.  Everything else will depend on that date - you can find caterers, photographers, bands, etc. that you like, but if they're not available on the date you end up with (depending on which venue you choose and when they have available), then it was a waste of your time. You're also definitely going to want to get your FI's opinion on your venue as it's probably one of the most major parts of a wedding, so I think your hands are sort of tied right now on the details.

If you aren't able to pick a venue and put down a deposit to confirm a date yet, then perhaps the best use of your time is to browse around the internet, get ideas from other weddings posted on TheKnot, start putting together a budget.  I know it's hard to miss your guy when he's gone, so hang in there and he'll be back before you know it!

Ana_2985

Assuming your BF really doesn't care if you plan early and without him, you've already got more than enough covered Beavs.

Once you set a budget, the only things that NEED to get done right away are reserving a venue for the ceremony and reception.  And it sounds like you're waiting for your BF to get back before you do that anyway- which is great.  After that you can get to photographers, caterers, music, dresses, etc.

Worrying about anything else at this time would be pretty fruitless, IMO.

sapphirebaby926

I wouldn't do anything other than browse and work on a budget because honestly until you two pick a date and book a venue there isn't a whole lot that you can do. You can't book a venue, photographer, videographer, caterer, DJ or band, or order invites until you have that pinned down.

You can plan a wedding in 7 months - many of the women on this board have worked or are working in a shorter timeframe than that.

rickylee244

I knew I should have quoted that last part .....

GreenPepperBurger

Thank you for quoting, Panda.

I don't get it. We weren't even mean. Why'd she DD?

jeanacorina

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[QUOTE]Thank you for quoting, Panda. I don't get it. We weren't even mean. Why'd she DD?
Posted by GreenPepperBurger[/QUOTE]

For some odd reason, some people have the idea that once their question gets answered they should delete their post.

I guess that's how it works on some websites... but here we like to keep the posts up in case someone else has the same question.

PandaBurr

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re:... : For some odd reason, some people have the idea that once their question gets answered they should delete their post. I guess that's how it works on some websites... but here we like to keep the posts up in case someone else has the same question.
Posted by jeanacorina[/QUOTE]

I've heard of this before too. It's a security thing, I think.

run21

Yeah I don't think we ticked her off. I got a PM from her that seemed pleasant. Maybe she's just used to a different board set up.

PandaBurr

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[QUOTE]Yeah I don't think we ticked her off. I got a PM from her that seemed pleasant. Maybe she's just used to a different board set up.
Posted by run21[/QUOTE]

I'm glad you said that because I got a PM from her too, and I never would've known it! Haha