No MOH

MuppetOverlord

I am not choosing a MOH for my wedding. I was thinking of dividing the tasks for the ceremony. 1 sign the marriage certificate, 1 hold my flowers, and 1 do the speech.

Are there any other tasks I'm forgetting?

AddieCake

It's improper to assign anyone to give a speech. Those are gifts and are volunteered for, not assigned.

MuppetOverlord

I haven't "assigned" it. One of them has offered it.

Are there any missing tasks?

mlg78

Check with your local court. Where I am only the officiant signs, no witnesses.

MuppetOverlord

oh good point, the person who suggested that is from a different state.

mrsbobfilson

Typically traditionally the Best Man gives the toast. Are you not having a maid of Honor because you do not have a friend close enough? Your mother would be honored to do so! Do you have a sister over 18 who can sign as a witness who can stand beside you?
...I think you should look in any information you have or search online the duties of the matron of honor and the bridesmaids,you seem a little confused,

AddieCake

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[QUOTE]Typically traditionally the Best Man gives the toast. Are you not having a maid of Honor because you do not have a friend close enough? Your mother would be honored to do so! Do you have a sister over 18 who can sign as a witness who can stand beside you? ...I think you should look in any information you have or search online the duties of the matron of honor and the bridesmaids,you seem a little confused,
Posted by mrsbobfilson[/QUOTE]



Sorry, but this is not very good advice. A MOH is not necessary. I didn't have one. Anyone can sign the certificate; it doesn't have to be a best man or maid of honor. You don't know her mother would be honored to do it unless you've personally spoken to her. I'm sure if she has a sister she wants in her wedding party, she has already asked her.


OP, to answer your question, you have pretty much covered all the "tasks" that would need doing.

MuppetOverlord

I love my friends equally and simply don't want to choose one to stand out more than another.

kipnus

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[QUOTE]Typically traditionally the Best Man gives the toast. Are you not having a maid of Honor because you do not have a friend close enough? Your mother would be honored to do so! Do you have a sister over 18 who can sign as a witness who can stand beside you? ...I think you should look in any information you have or search online the duties of the matron of honor and the bridesmaids,you seem a little confused,
Posted by mrsbobfilson[/QUOTE]

<div>I think it seems weird that the Best Man would give a toast and not the MOH...</div>

MuppetOverlord

One of the girls is giving a speech...

Viczaesar

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[QUOTE]Typically traditionally the Best Man gives the toast. Are you not having a maid of Honor because you do not have a friend close enough? Your mother would be honored to do so! Do you have a sister over 18 who can sign as a witness who can stand beside you? ...I think you should look in any information you have or search online the duties of the matron of honor and the bridesmaids,you seem a little confused,
Posted by mrsbobfilson[/QUOTE]
You generally have terrible advice. 

a6a14173

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[QUOTE]Typically traditionally the Best Man gives the toast. Are you not having a maid of Honor because you do not have a friend close enough? Your mother would be honored to do so! Do you have a sister over 18 who can sign as a witness who can stand beside you? ...I think you should look in any information you have or search online the duties of the matron of honor and the bridesmaids,you seem a little confused,
Posted by mrsbobfilson[/QUOTE]


I don't know that that's great advice...

And as an aside, not having a maid of honour has nothing to do with not having close friends.  For me, I have three bridesmaids, one is a family member, one is an old friend who no longer lives in town but who has remained really important to me, and one is a more 'current' friend.  I'm close with all three, but in different ways.

erinlin25

I'm doing the same thing. My 3 best friends are sharing that "role" without the title.  The one standing closest to me will hold my boquet; one will sign the marriage certificate; all 3 of them want to do the toast together. 

rachillsk8

I was a MOH and I gave a toast at the wedding (as did the best man).

I'm probably not having a MOH (or a wedding party). My wedding is going to be small, low-key and simple. My best friend lives 1,000 miles away and I don't really expect her to spend money to fly in for my wedding, especially if we are going to time our honeymoon so we leave the next day. We will already have some out-of-town relatives coming in, so I would not be able to spend much time with her, and I only get to see her a few times a year!!!  Likewise, 2 other close friends of ours also live in different states. I'd ask them to be bridesmaids above anyone else local, but I'd hate to ask them to make such a financial committment (flights, dresses, etc).  My best friend did the same thing when she got married--her wedding was very small (30 guests), none of us were in it or even there, instead the 4 of us met up in Atlanta for a girls weekend and had a great time together.  (It's not that my best firends wouldn't be invited...I'd just rather spend time with them when I can actually enjoy their company since I don't get to see them all that often, so I'd rather do a girls weekend, so I would not expect them to come.)

If my fiance does want a best man, then I'll ask my sister.  I have a lot of local friends but I don't feel like any of them are as close as my friends who are all out of town.  I was the MOH in one of my local friends' weddings, but honestly I've only seen her twice in the 2 1/2 years since she got married, and she's never even met my fiance. (She turned into one of those "I'm married now and can't have a social life outside my husband" types.)