Just needed to talk this one out... my FMIL doesn't believe in "weddings" and think they are a huge waste of money - and she is entitled to her opinion - but she brings this up every time I see her. Wedding planning has been a real joy because of this too.
Anyway, we got engaged about 14 months ago and I'm a super busy person but I like to stay organized. About a year ago, I had asked her if she wanted me to book hotels for her guests because most of them are coming in from Europe. She looked at me like I was crazy and said that she would never expect her guests to stay in a hotel and they would all stay in her house. Meanwhile, lots of things have happened since then and she can't house the guests.
Sooo last month I reserved hotel rooms for my parents guests and I asked her if she changed her mind and of course she said yes. Thats fine. And she also said she would be picking up her guests from the airport and bringing them to RD, wedding, etc. Also fine.
Yesterday she told me she had no idea how she was going to transport her guests because more are coming in than she anticipated. I know I am probably overreacting but I'm really annoyed because if I had known that her guests had needed hotel rooms and transportation a year ago, we would have had a shuttle in our budget. But we don't because I have almost everything reserved with deposits etc.
So what do I do? Do I shell out extra money for a shuttle for her guests who she knows will not rent cars? Or do FI and I talk to her about her providing transportation? If I had known this a year ago I definitely would have had that in our budget. Sorrry that was so long!