Honoring a Deceased Parent

amatadei

My mother died when I was young and my father remarried. I'm very close with my step-mother (I don't even think of her or call her "step"... she IS my mom). Still, I would like to honor my first mother in the ceremony in some way. Any suggestions?

amatadei

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_ceremony-ideas_honoring-deceased-parent?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:10Discussion:e8c86f79-3609-4d7e-8d86-0e71668f2057Post:a6268359-fcb3-4162-b0a7-fcfec9ad1fb7">Re: Honoring a Deceased Parent</a>:
[QUOTE]Do you have her wedding ring or other piece of jewelry? Wear it. Carry her Bible. There are a ton of things you can do. One caution that I always issue:  Memorials are very personal, and can be beautiful, but they can also be a dreadful shock to a guest who arrives to a wedding (joyous occasion) and is suddenly jolted with a reminder of their grief. If the losses are recent, please be sure that other grieving family members are aware of your plans.
Posted by RetreadBride[/QUOTE]

Actually, I will be wearing my special ring that my parents made for me using the diamond from her ring, the diamond from my 2nd mom's original ring, and some sapphires in the middle from a necklace my dad and gotten me, so that is one way that I'm honoring all of my parents, both the two that are alive and the one that is no longer with us (AND that's my something blue!).

The Bible idea  brings up a question-- my mom was Jewish and I have her Bride's Prayer Book that my grandmother passed down to my mom and that she would have passed on to me on my wedding day. However, I am not very in-touch with my Jewish heritage, so I don't know if this book has any specific purpose in the actual ceremony or if it's just meant to be a private prayer book? Anyone know?

superjules916

FI's mom passed two years ago and to honor her, during the seating process we are playing Josh Groban's "To Where You Are" I feel like it is a subtle way to remember her and the fact that we would love her to be here with us. The song will continue into the seating of the "mothers" which has now become the seating of my mother.

bookgal77

I am in the same position as OP. My mother died when I was 7 and my father remarried. I consider my step-mom to be my mom. I only use "step" when differentiating her from my birth mother.

So all 3 families will be at the wedding. I don't want to make anyone uncomfortable but not do something for my mom either, so what I am doing is having a grave flower arrangement made out of the same flowers for the wedding. I will take that the morning of the wedding, by myself, to honor her. Then the next day I will take my bouquet and place it on her grave. They will be very private memorials.

My biggest memorial is that I am getting married on what would have been her and my dad's 50th wedding anniversary. So I don't feel the need to bring others into my memorial process by having it be a part of the wedding.

But the death of a parent is very personal to each person, so I would say do what makes you feel right and makes your family feel right too.

Fiona David

I'm looking for a poem that I found here a while ago..It was basically from a mother ( who is deceased) talking about her little boy who is getting married today..Can anyone help me with this???

Thanks

Fiona David

I read a poem a while ago regarding a mother watching from above her son on his wedding day on this board! But I can't no longer find it. It went something to the effect of her watching her little man get married..Does anyone have any idea what I'm talking about??

Thanks