He bought a ring!

KelaRenee

He told me last night.  He bought it two weeks ago and it came in the day before my uncle died so he has been holding onto it.  Now I just have to wait for a proposal.  I think he is anxious too, but he wants to be able to surprise me.  

I'm so excited.  I was really getting antsy waiting but I don't mind waiting now that I know it's coming!  

tuarceatha

How very  exciting!

Who are you? I'm Jen. Nice to meet you.

Elle1036

Hi!

How old are you?  What do you and your BF do for a living?  How long have you been together?  Do you have pets?

In short, introduce yourself please.

ETA:  Also, where in Houston do you live?

marleylikeair

Hi Kela! Can you tell us more about yourself and your BF? We love introduction posts.

Since you're new, definitely read this, if you haven't already: Welcome to Not Engaged (Yet!) - Please Read before posting!

Very exciting that your BF has the ring! Feel free to stick around and talk to us. TONS of girls here have been right where you are now. As many of them will tell you, sometimes it takes men some time between buying the ring and proposing. This is a fun place to hang out in the meantime. We'll help you put your patient pants on if needed! 

KelaRenee

I'm Kela.  I'm a teacher and my bf is a mechanical engineer.  We live on the northeast side of Houston near the airport.  We met last summer after he started working in Houston after getting his PhD.  He works with my best friend's husband and we met at a party they had.  I monopolized his time but he didn't ask for my number so my friend and I gave her husband a script to bring me up in conversation at work and give him my number if he was interested.  It took them a while to run into each other again since Russell didn't know where his lab was but he called the day he got my number. 

We do have several pets.  We have a cat (who he says is 98% fluff) and a dog.  Both were already mine when I met him (although the dog only briefly.)  I also have two turtles that he's not overly fond of since they are a lot of work. 

Also, he told  me where he is keeping the ring (his desk drawer) to torture me or something...Okay, maybe that wasn't his actual plan.   It's not a big deal because I know it's a princess cut tiffany solitaire.  Just knowing it's only a few feet away is hard though.  I think I'll have to tell him to hide it somewhere until he is ready though. 

peekaboo2011

Hi Kela!  Glad you're here, and good luck with the waiting!!

What do you teach?

KelaRenee

I teach middle school science.

lavenderfields13

I could use some help putting on the patience pants too haha. Sometimes I read these posts (I'm mostly a lurker so haven't introduced myself!) and feel like I'm the only one that so freakin antsy to get engaged!
an early congrats Kela!

hannahnola

Hey Kela! Welcome! This forum is very fun, the people are funny and nice.

Congrats on your ring purchase. I was in your boat 2 months ago, I finally got engaged almost 2 wks ago. I knew he had the ring and where it was I posted on here a few times about wanting to go grab the ring and I was dying knowing where it was lol. But when it happens on his time it is worth the wait.

I am going for my certification to be a middle school English teacher. Props to you for teacher middle school haha. Well congrats very exciting time.

SeaTea02

You never know what they have up their sleeve. FI had my ring for about 2.5 months before he proposed. So try your best not to think to much about it, you will drive yourself crazy. 

KelaRenee

I don't think he's going to wait very long.  I'm pretty sure he'd planned on doing very soon, but then my uncle died so that complicated matters. 

Elle1036

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_bought-ring?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:d6bb0f3d-2a5c-4cdd-832a-5084123b290aPost:ae2282b4-b395-4935-842f-8f56df187d61">Re: He bought a ring!</a>:
[QUOTE]I don't think he's going to wait very long.  <strong>I'm pretty sure he'd planned on doing very soon</strong>, but then my uncle died so that complicated matters. 
Posted by KelaRenee[/QUOTE]

I thought that, too.  You can ask the rest of the girls on here.  Pretty much every weekend after he got the ring I would post a freaking out "oh-my-gosh-it's-going-to-be-this-weekend-I-just-knooooow-it" thread on here...  and every weekend, I was wrong.  It still took him almost 4 months.

Here's hoping your BF doesn't torture you.

PaigeMcC

Hi.

KelaRenee

4 months?  That's way too long!  

Waiting a long time after buying a ring is fine if the girl doesn't know about it, but if she does that doesn't seem very nice.  Although I suppose it could depend on the girl.    A few months I understand though.  The reason I think I won't have to wait that long is that he's also impatient.  You never know though.  Also, we've already talked about getting married next March.

Elle1036

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_bought-ring?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:d6bb0f3d-2a5c-4cdd-832a-5084123b290aPost:22bd9cf5-3233-4f8e-a03d-a113b9ec5552">Re: He bought a ring!</a>:
[QUOTE]<strong>4 months?  That's way too long!</strong>   Waiting a long time after buying a ring is fine if the girl doesn't know about it, but if she does that doesn't seem very nice.  Although I suppose it could depend on the girl.    <strong>A few months I understand though.</strong>  The reason I think I won't have to wait that long is that he's also impatient.  You never know though.  Also, we've already talked about getting married next March.
Posted by KelaRenee[/QUOTE]

"A few months" is ok but 4 is way too long?  I'm not following you there.

deburnin

BF's had a ring since last July. Four months seems like a really short amount of time to me. lol

Elle1036

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[QUOTE]BF's had a ring since last July. Four months seems like a really short amount of time to me. lol
Posted by deburnin[/QUOTE]

Is he going to wait until Disney?  Do you know?

deburnin

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: He bought a ring! : Is he going to wait until Disney?  Do you know?
Posted by Elle1036[/QUOTE]

<div>I'm pretty sure that's the plan. He won't come out and say it, but he hinted that I still have a few months to wait and he knows it's always been my dream proposal place. I'm surprisingly chill about the whole matter, but that will probably change once we get closer to the trip if he still hasn't asked. lol</div>

Elle1036

I hope he waits.  It'll be so worth it for you if he waits until then.

KelaRenee

I mean that I could probably wait up to 2 months without going crazy.

Elle1036

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[QUOTE]I mean that I could probably wait up to 2 months without going crazy. :)
Posted by KelaRenee[/QUOTE]

Ha.  I didn't even make it that long.  I was nuts within 2 weeks.

Yeah... do what I say, not what I do.

AJesteram

Hiiiii and welcome!

KelaRenee

Well, my cousin is getting married at the end of June and I'll be in her wedding. I really want the ring by then.  Tomorrow would be better though.

calindi

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: He bought a ring! : Ha.  I didn't even make it that long.  I was nuts within 2 weeks. Yeah... do what I say, not what I do.
Posted by Elle1036[/QUOTE]


Oh yeah, totally!  I knew he had bought the ring last week, and I knew it wasn't ready last weekend (I took him on a cruise, and that's when he spilled the beans that he had tried to get it rushed in time for the departure).  So I was already getting antsy just a little.  He told me he was going to give it to me before he leaves for the summer (he has an internship with the Marines), which is the middle of May.  So I was fully prepared for a full month wait, and I think I would have gone crazy!

heyimbren

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[QUOTE]Well, my cousin is getting married at the end of June and I'll be in her wedding. I really want the ring by then.  Tomorrow would be better though.
Posted by KelaRenee[/QUOTE]

The proposal is a big deal for the guy too- give him some time, and let him do it on his own. Don't set up these ideas in your head of when you'd like a ring by, just in case he doesn't do it by then and you're disappointed. Enjoy these last few (days/weeks/months) of just daitng before you're engaged.

KelaRenee

I know he's trying to think of a good way to propose without making me suspicious.  Problem is, he's too easy going.  He never cares what we have for dinner, if we eat in our eat out, what we do on a Saturday, etc.  When we first dated it kind of annoyed me having to always pick what we are doing, but overall it works well.

But basically that makes it so that if he does suggest doing something I'll be immediately suspicious.  I suspect he'll wait for the perfect moment at home to do it.

Wrkn925

In Response to Re: He bought a ring!:
[QUOTE]I know he's trying to think of a good way to propose without making me suspicious.  Problem is, he's too easy going.  He never cares what we have for dinner, if we eat in our eat out, what we do on a Saturday, etc.  When we first dated it kind of annoyed me having to always pick what we are doing, but overall it works well. But basically that makes it so that if he does suggest doing something I'll be immediately suspicious.  I suspect he'll wait for the perfect moment at home to do it.
Posted by KelaRenee[/QUOTE]

See, then you are the kind of person who can set your own trap.

Example:
My mom turned 50 last year.  She was adamant that there would be no party.  She told us she was not getting the the vehicle and going to some 'random' place.  She was watching for our family vehicles so no one could pull one over on her, she was on her toes.  Bigtime. 
In an effort to keep the family busy on the weekend of her birthday, she offered to throw my cousin's baby shower.  At her house.  She had everything covered.  She knew who was going to be there, what the decorations were, everything.  She thought she was in the clear.

Until I asked her to go into the basement to help me find something.  That's when the family upstairs changed all the baby decor to black balloons and black cake.
We found what I was 'looking' for, and she walked upstairs in to her surprise 50th birthday party.  Which she basically planned, without her knowledge.

Sometimes people are good.

So, one day when you make dinner plans, and nothing out of the ordinary is going on, he'll surprise you.  Just relax and go with the flow.  Don't expect it or anticipate it, it will be better that way.

KelaRenee

That's too funny!

I know, that's probably what will end up happening.  He'll just pick the moment when it feels right and that will be perfect.

MLekathLEEN

Wrkn- That is a good one! I bet your mom was so surprised.

OP- Try not to stress and think about it and don't worry about him surprising you, he'll figure something out. My FI had lost his license the week before he proposed so I had to drive to where he wanted to propose. He mentioned that we should go get some ice cream. I had a feeling that *might* propose there but I didn't really think anything of it.  I just drove our happy selves down to the park where he soon proposed...and I never got my ice cream.
Moral of the story- Even if you do think he might, just go with it. Being suspicious won't make the moment any less special when it happens.

KelaRenee

He proposed tonight while I was cooking.  He got down on one knee in the kitchen.

Elle1036

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[QUOTE]He proposed tonight while I was cooking.  He got down on one knee in the kitchen. :)
Posted by KelaRenee[/QUOTE]

Aw, yay!   Congrats!

Do you have pictures to show us?  If not, we're going to accuse you of making this up.