I posted on here a few times back in the summer of '09....I didn't really stay too long mainly because the knot kind of made me nauseous at times (it was just that a lot of stuff at once...check list, budget calculator, yadda yadda, the website itself...not necessarily people.... made me very overwhelmed). So I actually went over to the nest and well...I ended up nesting.
I posted a couple of times about moving in with my then BF and mostly commented on other's threads. I posted this little gem:
http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_ummmm-before-married back then, and little did I know I was fortelling my own fate.
The BF and I DID get engaged in September, but the doubts I already had (they came and went) just got more pronounced. A lot of things happened and finally I just told him that he and I weren't meant to be and I coudn't marry him. I took my own advice and let it go. It was more important for me to be happy than to pretend my life was awesome in a marriage that was doomed to fail. I can honestly say that I am so relieved. In the end it was the right thing to do, and next time I will definitely be paying more attention.
.Do you all still get a lot of the following:"
we have been together 6 months and i can't wait for him to propose! We looked at rings and the wedding is already planned, but I am so excited and the anticipation is killing me! Should I give him an ultimatum? He plays video games way too much and his mom still washes his clothes, and she is always at the house (well I can't tell her she can't be there since she will be paying for our wedding and she currently pays our rent). I can't wait to be his wife because I know that I can make him happy and we will live happily ever after!"??? UMMM yeah OMGEWCMBBQLOLZ.... For any one reading this thread that is in the in-lurve-not-engaged-but-hopeful-and-waiting stage, don't give into the hype of wedding planning and don't be blinded by the crap that happens in your relationship. Ignoring red flags and warning signs (like I did) is not going to make for a happy life later on. Be smart. Help us fight the crime of the rising divorce rate! Down with Beebee!!!!!
Anyway, I post under a different name for the most part now (
Pr!nc!pal_Dann!e) and mostly on the nest. I usually don't use this name anymore, but this is the one I did post here under; it wouldn't make much since for a re-introduction if I used a different name, right? Right. Anyway. I just wanted to say "Hi" and I hope all is well.
BTW I read the bylaws....kewl...