Favorite things about NEY

desertsun

What are some reasons you like NEY? Why is this your "home" board?

For me, I really love going through the whole process. From waiting to engaged to planning to wedding to married. There is just something so wonderful about sharing this important part of other girls' lives. 

I also love that relatively speaking this board has a smaller group of regs and I can keep up with the board. I try to be at least somewhat productive at work even when it's slow, and the pace of this board is just right for me.

And, we get a good mix of fun/silly posts and serious posts. 

Girls here give good advice, and even if you don't always agree with a particular poster, I find that no one is really malicious, and you can expect that people that you don't always see eye to eye with will still be happy for you when good things happen, and will genuinely try to help you if you need advice or support.

So, what do you guys like about NEY? Favorite posts or stories? Favorite posters?

peekaboo2011

Being new, I love that everyone has been really welcoming.  I love that it's been easy to come in and start to get to know people without them being hostile.

And I love that there are quite a few nerds here that understand the geekyness.

Ember01

I agree with everything Desert said.

Back in 2004/2005 when I first started coming on here, I hung out on the Snarky Bride page. When I came back in 2010, I didn't really like that board as much. Since I wasn't engaged, I decided to come over to the NEY. It had a really horrible reputation as being all crazies back in 2004, so I lurked for a long time before I started posting.

I realized the gals on this board were in all different stages of their lives, and that it wasn't a bunch of 18 year olds looking for their pretty, pretty princess day.

I've been trying to decide if I should back off this board and start looking for a new board, now that I am engaged. I have a tendency to want to be a pw about all wedding stuff. I think I need to start a blog or a website or something, to get that out of my system. But, I'm not very good with technology, and I don't know how to do that.

So, I just love that everyone on here is in different life stages, I enjoy the geekiness levels, and I also enjoy the occassional random crazy that comes around and asks some wacky question.

deburnin

I'm not engaged yet so picking this board made the most sense. lol I'm not around often enough anymore, but I love the dynamic on this board. There are so many witty people and so much good advice to be had here! Also when you're going through a shitty time everyone is always so supportive.

desertsun

Ember, please feel free to be a total PW with wedding stuff. I love vicarious wedding planning. Also, setting up a planning bio on weebly is actually pretty easy, just so you know...

DanieKA

These are such great answers! I'm also new and although there is an established group of regulars, they don't seem to "rule with an iron fist." I felt like I could join in and be productive. Also, since I'm NEY, I felt weird on the other boards. I think some might bring out the dreaded pre planning beast in me, though I do lurk on the students and fitness boards. And I really like the idea of starting on the boards before I'm engaged, going through my engagement and then married stuff on the nest (and eventual baby stuff on the bump) with a core group I will get to know through this outlet. I'll probably be on NEY for at least a year, if not longer, so I decided to start now to learn the ropes and build some relationships. Plus, I just like social networking and blogging and things like that, so it fits my personality.

loves2shop4shoes

I like that NEY has more of a mix of posters who are at varying stages in their relationships.  I like the regs.  I like how, even if I'm not someone's particular cup of tea, she will still give me good advice and genuinely wish me well.  I like that the women on here are smart, articulate, funny, REAL women. 

I LOVE the mix of funny and serious posts.  I feel like we're all a big family, disfunctional as it can be at times.  I really have valued sharing the highs and lows of my life over the past 8 months or so with you all.

ETA:  I also like that the fact that I'm 22 (23 in two days...squee!) isn't a big deal around here.  You all respect what I say and the advice I give (even if I am blunt as a spoon in my delivery) and my age isn't a huge deal.  I like that I'm not discriminated against because of my relative youth.

leia1979

I started here when I was NEY, and I started to get to know everyone. Now it's the place I'm most comfortable because of the familiarity with the regular posters. I respect the advice from this smart and funny group of ladies.

Also, as Desert said, it's a slightly smaller group than some boards, so it's easier to remember who's who.

Beads921

Well, being NEY, I have the most in common with the majority of girls on the board. There is a good group of ladies here, and I really appreciate the honest advice, conversation, and respect. 

DanieKA

Loves2shop, that's so funny about the age thing because I feel slightly older than most people on the boards (I turned 29 at the end of January). For a while I didn't join because I didn't want to be that "omg! Old lady who isn't even enaged yet, how sad!" girl. I'm just taking my time. But, I still feel a tad old on this board:) it helps that SO is 27. I'm robbing the cradle! Obviously a joke since 18 months does not a cradle robber make.

loves2shop4shoes

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_favorite-things-ney?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:e37d0cfb-2e2d-4dfc-a660-ba1741043a50Post:b33abd4b-2892-4208-b3f6-4a51afd70140">Re: Favorite things about NEY</a>:
[QUOTE]Loves2shop, that's so funny about the age thing because I feel slightly older than most people on the boards (I turned 29 at the end of January). For a while I didn't join because I didn't want to be that "omg! Old lady who isn't even enaged yet, how sad!" girl. I'm just taking my time. But, I still feel a tad old on this board:) it helps that SO is 27. I'm robbing the cradle! Obviously a joke since 18 months a cradle robber doesn't make.
Posted by DanieKA[/QUOTE]


I think a lot of it depends on where you're from too.  In Boston, it's rare for someone my age to get engaged.  I've fielded a few comments about how I'm too young.

Oh well...

Goldlie11

I like that I know that I'll get an honest answer.  I like that I've seen so many girls go from waiting patiently to engaged, then married (in some cases).  Despite some of the arguing, I feel that most of the ladies here don't go out of their way to be nasty.  They might be harsh, but not nasty.  

Ember01

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_favorite-things-ney?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:e37d0cfb-2e2d-4dfc-a660-ba1741043a50Post:b33abd4b-2892-4208-b3f6-4a51afd70140">Re: Favorite things about NEY</a>:
[QUOTE]Loves2shop, that's so funny about the age thing because I feel slightly older than most people on the boards (I turned 29 at the end of January). For a while I didn't join because I didn't want to be that "omg! Old lady who isn't even enaged yet, how sad!" girl. I'm just taking my time. But, I still feel a tad old on this board:) it helps that SO is 27. I'm robbing the cradle! Obviously a joke since 18 months does not a cradle robber make.
Posted by DanieKA[/QUOTE]

I agree! I am 30 and I feel so old! But honestly, when I read other people's posts (Hahaha... That just made me start singing the song OPP... OK, that shows my age), I don't think "Oh, that person is only 20 or 21" I don't know most people's ages, so I guess I don't even think about age on here. 

sparkles88

I joined The Knot because it was required reading for a wedding/event planning course I was taking, and because I thought it might be helpful when I was hired to plan an engagement party for a couple. When I finally realized there were discussion boards, the name on this board stuck out to me the most. I'm still a few years away from an engagement or marriage, so I thought it would be a good place to talk to other people somehow involved in weddings (i.e. bridesmaids, other future event planners, etc.)

I'm a very social person IRL and I like meeting new people. This board is such a diverse mix of people, and that's why I like it. Everyone has a lot of good advice and there are posters whose humor always makes my day. I also like that common sense is fairly prevalent here, and bad ideas are not encouraged.

[Deleted User]

I love that everyone is so down to earth here.  It's the internets, people are supposed to be crazy, not warm and inviting.  I love how there are NEY posters, engaged posters, and married posters.  You married and engaged ladies should stick around! We need you guys for when we freak about not having that ring yet.  Everyone has an awesome personality on this board and something different to say.  I also love how someone can give the hard honest truth and others don't get overly defensive by it (though there are short lived misunderstandings).  I love the maturity here.

I also lurk around students and the NM board.

desertsun

There are actually quite a few of us in the 28-29 and up age group, so don't feel "too old!" I just turned 29 and my H is turning 27 this month, so I'm right there with you, Danie!

luvdncn90

We're just that awesome...that's why I hang around anyway.

PaigeMcC

I lurves it b/c we're such uppity bitches.

And what Desert said.

AudgiePodge

I love how most people give their honest opinions regardless of topic.  

heyimbren

I like it because a fair amount of the posts are NWR and even non-engagement related. It reminds me of E and SB that way (which I both like) but like Desert said, it's at a pace I can easily keep up with.

Also, I've basically always liked the posters on here. I think what really drew me in were the dynamic of the regs when I was lurking.

bourgehm

My favorite thing of all is probably just the funny stuff that gets posted, and that we all become 'friends' after a while. I really love it. It feeels like IRL after a while.

desertsun

Something else I just realized while reading the post from LSChic To Engage or not to engage...

Talking about our relationships so much really makes me appreciate my husband and our marriage. 

jeanacorina

I'm a very social person IRL- I talk a lot, I make goofball comments, I ask questions, I give advice. All of that is just normal for me. But I joined NEY because at the time I wasn't engaged and I was excited and anxious and sometimes impatient, and I figured out that I needed a) people to talk to- because I was still new to Louisiana at the time and didn't feel close enough to any local girls to discuss relationship stuff, b) people who understood my relationship status better than it seemed my friends/family did at the time, and c) somewhere to chat and figure things out and get a swift kick in the butt when I needed it.

I'm still here because I consider a few ladies to be good friends, and there are some that I want to keep in touch with and know what's going on in their lives and just kill some time chatting when I can't stand to do homework anymore. lol

I feel like I went through a big, important time in my life while here- getting and giving advice, venting frustrations, laughing, crying, what-have-you. I may occasionally disappear for a while because I get tired of drama or I get busy IRL or whatever... but I think I'll keep coming back because I eventually miss you guys. I wonder "where are they now?"

And I want to help girls who might be heading into the same situations I've experienced. I think I've had some unique stuff and some normal stuff, and I don't mind sharing that.

cu97tiger

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_favorite-things-ney?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:e37d0cfb-2e2d-4dfc-a660-ba1741043a50Post:b33abd4b-2892-4208-b3f6-4a51afd70140">Re: Favorite things about NEY</a>:
[QUOTE]Loves2shop, that's so funny about the age thing because I feel slightly older than most people on the boards (I turned 29 at the end of January). For a while I didn't join because I didn't want to be that "omg! Old lady who isn't even enaged yet, how sad!" girl. I'm just taking my time. But, <strong>I still feel a tad old on this board</strong>:) it helps that SO is 27. I'm robbing the cradle! Obviously a joke since 18 months does not a cradle robber make.
Posted by DanieKA[/QUOTE]
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</div><div>Ha, as a 35 year old, I must be the great great grandmother! :) </div><div>
</div><div>The reason I love this board is because you all talked me down off a ledge. I was so into pre-planning (but not calling it that to myself because that would be BSC), but so many of you had sane, thoughtful advice, and I'm a much happier person now for it. I'm still a bit impatient, but whenever I need a kick in the pants, I know you all will set me straight!</div>

NurseyK

The first time I was involved on NEY it was a changing time in my life in regards to growing a backbone, loving myself more than a cheater, and growing up. I'll never forget the lessons I learned through my internet friends, although I don't think anyone on NEY now was on there back then. I am back on NEY because my real life friends are either a) very single and are happy for me, but they don't understand the anticipation of about to get engaged, or they are b) married and are kind of predicting what is happening next, and I don't want my fun ruined by their predictions and "I-told-you-so"s attitudes. I see the support to each other on this board and I feel comfortable just reading your stories... so that I'll start opening up more about Greg's and my story/ lives