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Eloping Thoughts

Hi every1. my mate & I are thinking about eloping rather than have to deal with family, drama, mayhem & over budgeting. Just wondering if your thinking about eloping, or have eloped & what your thoughts & ideas are on such topics? Thanks

PS,I'll try to be a little more outgoing here. I'm sorry if i offended anyone. I'm new here & just jumped in. I've been in a relationship for over 2 years now & we're living in a condo in Edmonton, AB. My partner and I are common law now. Hoping this helps. Any questions, I'll try to answer.

PPS, would anyone be able to help me with the acrynyms? I'm good with most but some are lost on me hahah!!
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    Do it.
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    There are times I really wish BF wanted to elope. Between my family and his friends I am dreading wedding planning. That said I've always wanted the traditional wedding and so does BF so we aren't going to elope.

    I think its fantastic if it's what you really want but make sure you won't have any regrets before you do it.


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    Ollie08Ollie08 member
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    edited January 2012
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_eloping-thoughts?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:e7975c89-52b8-43c9-baca-deeb409cd268Post:5791a1c5-fe2c-440e-9248-86bc33d157c0">Re: Eloping Thoughts</a>:
    [QUOTE]There are times I really wish BF wanted to elope. Between my family and his friends I am dreading wedding planning. That said I've always wanted the traditional wedding and so does BF so we aren't going to elope. <strong>I think its fantastic if it's what you really want but make sure you won't have any regrets before you do it.
    </strong>Posted by bethsmiles[/QUOTE]

    This. Especially the part about not regretting it. I honestly would like to elope but it is SUPER important to FI to have his mom and grandmother there. And I want to make sure that my girls are there. That being said, we're compromising and having a total of like 40 people max for our wedding.

    I also agree with yaga that wedding planning is as difficult or easy as you make it. What does your FI want?

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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_eloping-thoughts?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:e7975c89-52b8-43c9-baca-deeb409cd268Post:6685d8c5-cf9d-44b6-974b-579f907c04ef">Re: Eloping Thoughts</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Eloping Thoughts : This. Especially the part about not regretting it. I honestly would like to elope but it is SUPER important to FI to have his mom and grandmother there. And I want to make sure that my girls are there. That being said, we're compromising and having a total of like 40 people max for our wedding. I also agree with yaga that wedding planning is as difficult or easy as you make it.<strong> What does your FI want?</strong>
    Posted by Ollie08[/QUOTE]
    I'm pretty sure she doesn't have a FI. .  rather, a BF.<div>
    </div><div>OP - what is your story? </div>
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_eloping-thoughts?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:e7975c89-52b8-43c9-baca-deeb409cd268Post:d2fafc27-8071-4013-8831-29827cbad08a">Re: Eloping Thoughts</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Eloping Thoughts : I'm pretty sure she doesn't have a FI. .  rather, a BF. OP - what is your story? 
    Posted by cschiano[/QUOTE]<div>
    </div><div>None of the above.  She has a "mate".  Like a penguin.

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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_eloping-thoughts?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:e7975c89-52b8-43c9-baca-deeb409cd268Post:95e05923-3d43-483d-8bfd-f6f5c3d6e011">Re: Eloping Thoughts</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Eloping Thoughts : None of the above.  She has a "mate".  Like a penguin.
    Posted by Elle1036[/QUOTE]
    I'm not really into seeking out quotes, but she did say this in her other random thread. <div>
    </div><div>[QUOTE] <span style="font-family:Arial;font-size:12px;" class="Apple-style-span">Hi, just wonder how long the 2 of you were together before he popped the question. Or, if your still waiting for him to pop the question (like me, lol) [/QUOTE]</span></div><div><span style="font-family:Arial;font-size:12px;" class="Apple-style-span">
    </span></div><div><span style="font-family:Arial;font-size:12px;" class="Apple-style-span">Regardless of if he is a penguin or not, she's made it clear that they're not engaged. Unless she plans on eloping alone, she should do that part first. lol</span></div><div><span style="font-family:Arial;font-size:12px;" class="Apple-style-span">
    </span></div><div><span style="font-family:Arial;font-size:12px;" class="Apple-style-span">
    </span></div><div><span style="font-family:Arial;font-size:12px;" class="Apple-style-span">Seriously OP, what's up with you? You've asked us two random questions today. I refuse to play with you anymore unless you tell us something about you. </span></div>
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    SKP82SKP82 member
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    edited January 2012
    Every1 just calm down.

    She iz a plannar and wld rather plan now than l8r.  Isn't that wut this board is 4?

    ETA:  That was hard to type.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_eloping-thoughts?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:e7975c89-52b8-43c9-baca-deeb409cd268Post:9ae3660c-375f-421b-a055-7dc7aa5ff338">Re: Eloping Thoughts</a>:
    [QUOTE]<strong>Every1 just calm down. She iz a plannar and wld rather plan now than l8r.  Isn't that wut this board is 4? </strong>ETA:  That was hard to type.
    Posted by SKP82[/QUOTE]

    <div>And dead. I just died from the funnies.</div>
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    All the cool people elope.
    I'm not good at feelings.

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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_eloping-thoughts?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:e7975c89-52b8-43c9-baca-deeb409cd268Post:24e6b6a1-1f39-4de6-bd3b-c74de4a3a793">Re: Eloping Thoughts</a>:
    [QUOTE]All the cool people elope.
    Posted by AudgiePodge[/QUOTE]

    "You ain't cool unless you pee your pants."
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_eloping-thoughts?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:e7975c89-52b8-43c9-baca-deeb409cd268Post:da125956-9e95-4292-9f65-d9b06b2a290f">Re: Eloping Thoughts</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Eloping Thoughts : "You ain't cool unless you pee your pants."
    Posted by SKP82[/QUOTE]
    I must be super cool, cuz I've done that too.
    I'm not good at feelings.

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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_eloping-thoughts?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:e7975c89-52b8-43c9-baca-deeb409cd268Post:9b1730d6-e05b-4d22-999e-474a88ec437f">Re: Eloping Thoughts</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Eloping Thoughts : Then consider me Miles Davis.
    Posted by yaga13[/QUOTE]

    Yay!
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_eloping-thoughts?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:e7975c89-52b8-43c9-baca-deeb409cd268Post:da125956-9e95-4292-9f65-d9b06b2a290f">Re: Eloping Thoughts</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Eloping Thoughts : "You ain't cool unless you pee your pants."
    Posted by SKP82[/QUOTE]

    You be ice cold then if you pooped in your pants.  Just saying...
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    EdmqueenEdmqueen member
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    Hi guys, for those of you who are really nosy, I'm not offering you guys anything. I'm just a girl who's fascinated with weddings & what others  thoughts are, thats all so deal!!!
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_eloping-thoughts?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:e7975c89-52b8-43c9-baca-deeb409cd268Post:5d3c0488-21b8-458b-81f1-e95c00aaf926">Re: Eloping Thoughts</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Eloping Thoughts : I'm not really into seeking out quotes, but she did say this in her other random thread.  Regardless of if he is a penguin or not, she's made it clear that they're not engaged. Unless she plans on eloping alone, she should do that part first. lol Seriously OP, what's up with you? You've asked us two random questions today. I refuse to play with you anymore unless you tell us something about you. 
    Posted by cschiano[/QUOTE]

    Hi hI!!! Um, look at where the thread is POSTED

    NOT ENGAGED YET

    I'm just firing off ideas & if you girls can't deal then too bad. =)
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_eloping-thoughts?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:e7975c89-52b8-43c9-baca-deeb409cd268Post:b028046a-4ca5-4fbc-b970-503f4d88f0cc">Re: Eloping Thoughts</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Eloping Thoughts : Hi hI!!! Um, look at where the thread is <strong>POSTED NOT ENGAGED YET </strong>I'm just firing off ideas & if you girls can't deal then too bad. =)
    Posted by Edmqueen[/QUOTE]
    Oh my god, is that what this board is? I've been totally lost for the last year and a half posting here. Silly me. <div>
    </div><div>What you're firing off is crazy. . . and I'm way too much of an OMH to deal with it. Good luck with your life. </div>
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_eloping-thoughts?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:e7975c89-52b8-43c9-baca-deeb409cd268Post:b028046a-4ca5-4fbc-b970-503f4d88f0cc">Re: Eloping Thoughts</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Eloping Thoughts : Hi hI!!! Um, look at where the thread is POSTED NOT ENGAGED YET I'm just firing off ideas & if you girls can't deal then too bad. =)
    Posted by Edmqueen[/QUOTE]

    Wow, Cshiano.  You should pay more attention to where you are.

    OP - not everyone on here is NEY.  There are many engaged, married, and even single ladies here.  We all are quite accustomed to helping BSC Knotties such as yourself squelch the BSCness.

    Oh, and planning a wedding before you're engaged is BSC (bat sh!t crazy, since I'm sure you haven't lurked).

    I think you should plan a SURPRISE elopement.  Possibly at an ice skating rink.  How fun would THAT be??
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    motoLynmotoLyn member
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    edited January 2012
    Look I usually will stay out of threads like this because I don't have the patience for it.  But today against my better judgement and in the face of going against the grain I want to say....

    If you had phrased the post better then we all wouldn't be here.  Sure I can support that you came here to just ask hypothetical questions.  Its slow and I don't mind partaking in that.  If you and your mate aka boyfriend have discussed eloping in passing or as a "someday" topic that's fine.  Acknowledge that it's a some day topic or that you were hypothetically thinking about it and we all here can get along.  Pre-planning and BSC are very big ticket issues here from what I can see and those who exhibit those quirks get struck down quick.  Just drop the thread and go back and offer an olive branch and tell more about YOU and let is get to know YOU.
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    AudgiePodgeAudgiePodge member
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    edited January 2012
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_eloping-thoughts?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:e7975c89-52b8-43c9-baca-deeb409cd268Post:0c93535c-76a7-440b-a71b-f80ccca96e5e">Re: Eloping Thoughts</a>:
    [QUOTE]Hi guys, for those of you who are really <strong>nosy</strong>, I'm not offering you guys anything. I'm just a girl who's fascinated with weddings & what others  thoughts are, thats all so deal!!!
    Posted by Edmqueen[/QUOTE]

    <div>Pot, meet kettle.</div><div>
    </div><div>ETA: Do you blog?</div>
    I'm not good at feelings.

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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_eloping-thoughts?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:e7975c89-52b8-43c9-baca-deeb409cd268Post:da125956-9e95-4292-9f65-d9b06b2a290f">Re: Eloping Thoughts</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Eloping Thoughts : "You ain't cool unless you pee your pants."
    Posted by SKP82[/QUOTE]<div>
    </div><div>This had me cracking up. thank you!

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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Eloping Thoughts : There are random questions on a bunch of other boards too. Either you're a. nosey b. trying to convince your BF to propose like tomorrow or c. trying to write a thesis on wedding planning.  Own up, which one is it? (P.S.  I said fiance in my reply because I was trying to make a point that one plans a wedding with a fiance, not a boyfriend.  I doubt it worked though.)
    Posted by yaga13[/QUOTE]

    You know this Topic is

    Not Engaged Yet.

    There fore, I'm not engaged yet.....
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_eloping-thoughts?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:e7975c89-52b8-43c9-baca-deeb409cd268Post:95e05923-3d43-483d-8bfd-f6f5c3d6e011">Re: Eloping Thoughts</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Eloping Thoughts : None of the above.  She has a "mate".  Like a penguin.
    Posted by Elle1036[/QUOTE]

    <div>love <3</div>
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Eloping Thoughts : I'm pretty sure she doesn't have a FI. .  rather, a BF. OP - what is your story? 
    Posted by cschiano[/QUOTE]

    I know I'm really late to the party and it looks like you had so much fun! But to be honest I didn't even relate this poster to the other thread. I was trying to give her the benefit of the doubt since she didn't give many details up front and only used the term mate which has been used anywhere from referring to a friend all the way to a spouse.

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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_eloping-thoughts?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:e7975c89-52b8-43c9-baca-deeb409cd268Post:28a7b16d-71bc-4ff6-afbc-ea9d83f33628">Re: Eloping Thoughts</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Eloping Thoughts : You really know how to make friends. I'm not even going to bother replying to your PM privately.  There's nothing wrong with being curious about wedding planning.  There is something weird and a little cray cray about running onto 4 boards asking everything ever about weddings and engagements in one day.  On TWO boards, people assumed you were trying to do research for a paper.  This doesn't strike you as weird?  Because this isn't how to make friends with people.  You don't demand information without sharing anything about yourself.   I learned plenty about weddings before becoming engaged.  But I didn't do it by badgering posters on TK.  I did it by coming onto NEY, making friends by having conversations about common interests, and lurking on the boards that interested me.  (I lurked a lot on E because I was curious about all the terrible etiquette my FILs were practicing.)  
    Posted by yaga13[/QUOTE]

    Ok, you've made a point, I'm not welcome here!!! What is your problem??? No, I'm NOT ENGAGED, but thats what this Forum IS FOR!! Geez, get off your high horse!!
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_eloping-thoughts?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:e7975c89-52b8-43c9-baca-deeb409cd268Post:cda6c331-b6a1-4592-aa5e-92b59ab84576">Re: Eloping Thoughts</a>:
    [QUOTE]I think you should plan an elopment and surprise your boyfriend.  You could plan a weekend getaway, arrange for a Justice of the Peace to be there on Sunday to marry you at a romantic champagne brunch. It would be super cute, and I'm sure he would be very surprised!  (Just make sure you pack him a sport coat or suit and get him to wear it to your romantic brunch--pics will look a lot better if you're both dressed up!)
    Posted by freebread03[/QUOTE]
    This needs to be done at an ice rink.
    I'm not good at feelings.

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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Eloping Thoughts : what is this i don't even ETA: And I read this to my boyfriend and he too thinks this is one of the sh*ttiest ideas ever.
    Posted by ahstillwell[/QUOTE]



    I'm hoping it was sarcasm...
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    Sorry that some couldn't see the sarcasm font...I hate it when I forget to turn that on!

    But admittedly, her boyfriend would be super surprised right? :)

    #WorstIdeaEver
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    [QUOTE]Sorry that some couldn't see the sarcasm font...I hate it when I forget to turn that on! But admittedly, her boyfriend would be super surprised right? :) #WorstIdeaEver
    Posted by freebread03[/QUOTE]
    Your posts made me laugh.
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    [QUOTE]Sorry that some couldn't see the sarcasm font...I hate it when I forget to turn that on! But admittedly, her boyfriend would be super surprised right? :) #WorstIdeaEver
    Posted by freebread03[/QUOTE]

    <div>I was pretty sure (or at least very hopeful) that it was a joke, but you never know around here.</div><div>
    </div><div>Funny enough, I think my FI would actually geniunely love the surprise elopement idea.</div>
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_eloping-thoughts?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:e7975c89-52b8-43c9-baca-deeb409cd268Post:77686865-6205-461a-ad2c-84dc063ea7c0">Re: Eloping Thoughts</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Eloping Thoughts : I was pretty sure (or at least very hopeful) that it was a joke, but you never know around here. Funny enough,<strong> I think my FI would actually geniunely love the surprise elopement idea.
    </strong>Posted by Elle1036[/QUOTE]

    Probably not so much if you weren't engaged.
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