Wear a Wedding Band as the Engagement Ring?

cecilia0218

Hi!  I'm very close to being engaged, and my soon-to-be-fiance as let it be known that I need to chose what type of ring I want and let my Best girlfriends know so that he'll get advice from them.

This is going to be my second marraige.  I had the traditional diamond engagement ring as well as diamond wedding band the first time 'round.  This time I'm thinking I just want an interesting and wide gold band with no stones.
 
I'm confused on one point.  Can I wear a wedding band as an engagement ring?  I'll look like I'm already married...I'm really curious to know if others have done this.

katanne9

I think it's fine. You should do whatever you want.


But why do you need to tell your girlfriends so they can tell him? Can't you just talk to him yourself?

paintgirl

One of the gals on this board had a temporary twist-tie ring. (It was a spontaneous proposal.) Seriously - if it works for you, go for it! Shouldn't matter if you "look married" already, unless you were planning on picking up some new dude in the next few months!

whitelilies86

Well, my FI actually got me a wedding band instead of an engagement ring. I think it's fine and it actually fits my style better. I say go for it

**Mutley**

My MIL did not get a traditional e-ring when she got married to SFIL.  She had just a simple gold band.  Over the years, he has added to her stack for various milestones.  I think she has 4 stacked rings now and it looks great. 

cecilia0218

@ katanne9  - haha i know it's silly - but we're trying to keep some of the elements of surprise and romance here - I want him to pick me out a ring and "surprise" me with it...but I also know he's completely clueless as to what I'd like  :-)  We'll see how it goes.  So I'm planning to pick out a few favs and take my best friend around...then she can show him when he's ready to pop the question.  Basically the only surprise here is when.

Thanks ladies - I think I will just wear the band as an engagement ring, and lobby for a gorgeous anniv diamond ring - maybe at 5 or 10 years ;-)  One of the many things I learned from my first marraige is to avoid marraige/wedding debt - it's not a fun way to start things out.  I want to keep things simple and save for things that are really important to us, like kids and a home

KD+BC

Telling your friends or sisters is very common in my circle. I don't see that as strange. I also don't see having a band with no stone as strange either. The only thing I wanted to offer is this, would you mind not having an engagement ring? A friend of mine didn't have an engagement ring and just has a nice band that she got when she got married. She didn't want to wear the ring before the wedding day so she just didn't have an engagement ring. Just a suggestion!

BriarRose84

I don't think there is anything wrong with it. A friend of mine got a wedding band as her engagement ring. It worked better for her since she is a nurse and didn't want to fight with the ring ripping her gloves. Besides, it is what you want that matters. Who cares what other people say or think! Do what makes you happy!

oceana919

I don't see why that would be a problem. I actually have a friend who got a vintage wedding band (thin, with diamonds) from an antique store as her engagement ring. She plans to get a matching band as a wedding band and wear them stacked.

its apelila

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[QUOTE]Well, my FI actually got me a wedding band instead of an engagement ring. He was hopelessly clueless and thought that you get the bigger stone when you get married. I think it's fine and it actually fits my style better. I say go for it
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My BF also thought this!  I just discovered this last week when we were discussing wedding related expenses.  He thought he was going to have to save up twice as much for the wedding band!