So, I had my family bridal shower yesterday and it was wonderful. Mostly. My aunt C and I have a very, VERY strained relationship, but I invited her because she's my aunt and it would have been too much drama to not invite her. She was on her best behavior for most of the shower, but then at the end she started snarking at me and my mom and then started guilt tripping me for not inviting my grandparents to my wedding. So, the thing is, my grandparents both have pretty advanced dementia and/or alzheimers. My grandpa has advanced alzheimers and he really can't handle large crowds or anything that's a break from routine. He gets super agitated and impossible to handle. My grandma has dementia and she gets really overwhelmed by crowds as well (both have a long list of special needs and live in separate homes, grandpa being in an alzheimers facility).
My parents and I decided that it would be best to not bring them to the wedding because they can't handle it. So in front of everyone aunt C tells me how disappointed she was that I didn't invite them and that if I really loved them, I wouldn't be worried about them embarrassing me (which is not it at all). My mom jumped in and shut her down, but it was very awkward. Hopefully she behaves better at the wedding, but this is just another reason why we don't get along. I'm not letting it ruin my shower because she doesn't deserve that, but I'm still kind of pissed that she had to go there, because it was a hard decision to make, and I know that we made the right one, but she doesn't get that.