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Wedding Pet Peeves

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Just a fun topic of conversation, by no means meant to insult or offend. What are some wedding styles, traditions, etc. that just rub you the wrong way? Not even necessarily considered "tacky," or against etiquette. I'll start:

Gloves. I HATE the way long, white, satin gloves look on a bride. It makes me think of an old 19th century wedding and just bothers me.

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  • tafft1tafft1 member
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    edited December 2011
    I *personally* and can't stress that word enough - don't enjoy formal weddings. I've attended several where I felt like I should be meeting royalty and have a minimum salary just to attend..just not my style.
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  • Elle1036Elle1036 member
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    It drives me crazy when/if the officiant says "I now pronounce you man and wife.". I don't get why the groom is still just "man" and not "husband." I read a lot into some things, I know, but there's a lot at weddings that drives my feminist side insane.
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  • jaycee7389jaycee7389
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    I hate dances like the hokey pokey and chicken dance at weddings. I think it's lame.
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  • GreenPepperBurgerGreenPepperBurger
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    Good point, Elle.
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  • becunning2becunning2 member
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    I hate tossing the bouquet.  I think it's chintzy and stupid.  And then it's a recipe for disaster in high heels with alcohol and competitive girls. OH, and way to call out all the girls who aren't married.  It just looks really low class, to me.  Same with the garter toss.

    Another pet peeve:  I hate it when the couple is introduced as Mr. and Mrs. John Last Name.  Same kind of thing as man and wife with me, but worse!  (For that reason, I can't ever imagine myself addressing an envelope as Mr. and Mrs. John Last Name). Etiquette be darned, it's just not happening on an invite I send out. 

    Hehe.  :)
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  • Elle1036Elle1036 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_wedding-pet-peeves?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:eb2d224b-09ee-4f5d-bc16-2b5a39236a07Post:016607f1-7fd1-47c0-bb38-8a20e0a5b2fe">Re: Wedding Pet Peeves</a>:
    [QUOTE]Another pet peeve:  I hate it when the couple is introduced as Mr. and Mrs. John Last Name.  Same kind of thing as man and wife with me, but worse!  (For that reason, I can't ever imagine myself addressing an envelope as Mr. and Mrs. John Last Name). Etiquette be darned, it's just not happening on an invite I send out.  Hehe.  :)
    Posted by becunning2[/QUOTE]

    Right there with you.
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  • GreenPepperBurgerGreenPepperBurger
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_wedding-pet-peeves?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:eb2d224b-09ee-4f5d-bc16-2b5a39236a07Post:c53fe727-2102-4bde-a5ad-71ad2b117088">Re: Wedding Pet Peeves</a>:
    [QUOTE]I hate dances like the hokey pokey and chicken dance at weddings. I think it's lame.
    Posted by jaycee7389[/QUOTE]

    I have to admit, I'm all about the Cupid Shuffle and Cha Cha Slide. Are those passe now?
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  • gottadance64gottadance64 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_wedding-pet-peeves?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:eb2d224b-09ee-4f5d-bc16-2b5a39236a07Post:b8b37eb5-b44d-4875-8e27-4d8cc864bf26">Re: Wedding Pet Peeves</a>:
    [QUOTE]I *personally* and can't stress that word enough - don't enjoy formal weddings. I've attended several where I felt like I should be meeting royalty and have a minimum salary just to attend..just not my style.
    Posted by tafft1[/QUOTE]

    <div>That's interesting - I get what you're saying but if you can't be formal on your wedding day, when can you be?</div>
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  • gottadance64gottadance64 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_wedding-pet-peeves?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:eb2d224b-09ee-4f5d-bc16-2b5a39236a07Post:009bd394-543b-421c-b36a-c30963fee85e">Wedding Pet Peeves</a>:
    [QUOTE] Gloves. I HATE the way long, white, satin gloves look on a bride. It makes me think of an old 19th century wedding and just bothers me. Now you go.
    Posted by GreenPepperBurger[/QUOTE]

    <div>I like gloves on certain brides, with certain dresses, in certain weddings. I've thought about wearing them to mine! :D</div>
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  • lavenderfields13lavenderfields13 member
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    edited December 2011

    GPB I HATE gloves too! They make me think of Cinderella..like really you're not a Disney princess.

     




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  • gottadance64gottadance64 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_wedding-pet-peeves?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:eb2d224b-09ee-4f5d-bc16-2b5a39236a07Post:c53fe727-2102-4bde-a5ad-71ad2b117088">Re: Wedding Pet Peeves</a>:
    [QUOTE]I hate dances like the hokey pokey and chicken dance at weddings. I think it's lame.
    Posted by jaycee7389[/QUOTE]
     <div>Why does everyone hate these so much - I'm not big on HP, but chicken dance is sort of old-school fun. </div>
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  • gottadance64gottadance64 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_wedding-pet-peeves?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:eb2d224b-09ee-4f5d-bc16-2b5a39236a07Post:c779e906-362d-4920-9391-99a85931832c">Re: Wedding Pet Peeves</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Wedding Pet Peeves : I have to admit, I'm all about the Cupid Shuffle and Cha Cha Slide. Are those passe now?
    Posted by GreenPepperBurger[/QUOTE]

    <div>I am wondering the same thing...</div>
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  • IrishDreamerIrishDreamer member
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    edited December 2011
    I hate pushy people who practically force you to do the money dance, and do it more than once...or make a comment if you only give/have a small bill. I don't ever carry cash....and I think it's kind of tacky. That's what showers and gifts are for. The last wedding i was in did this, and it was just terrible.. Soooo not gonna happen at my wedding
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  • polkadot111polkadot111 member
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    edited December 2011
    I like the chicken dance and hokey pokey. My wedding guests can suck it up.

    I agree with the long gloves, I think it's dumb. I also have a thing against colored wedding dresses. If it's a formal wedding, then I think the dress should be white (or off white, or ivory). I'm mostly talking against those pink dresses you see on SYTTD. I have an issue with those for some reason. Also the see through wedding dresses- the ones where you can see your stomach through the sheer fabric. Save it for the bedroom, please.

    I also have an issue with ceiling drapings. I get that if you have the money, then I guess go for it, but I just think it's a waste of money. No one is going to remember if you had a ceiling draping or not. I don't know, I just think it's too expensive for what you're getting. Some fabric on the ceilng for a few hours while you have a party. Seems obsessive. But, I'm not a fancy person.
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  • GreenPepperBurgerGreenPepperBurger
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    edited December 2011
    I have never been to a wedding with a money dance. We don't do those in New York. Although a guest at BF's sister's bridal shower brought some sort of money jar, and it was passed around (for the bride and groom, of course). I didn't contribute to it. BF's grandmother was livid that the jar made an appearance.
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  • gottadance64gottadance64 member
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    edited December 2011
    My pet peeves:

    *inappropropriate music - I knew the bride when she used to rock n' roll; songs that are overtly sexual. Just doesn't seem right for a wedding

    *weddings that have NO uniqueness and are like every other wedding. SNORE

    *bad entertainment - why do people feel like they need to have entertainment at a wedding/reception - isn't the wedding the entertainment, plus dinner and dancng. I HATE "the little people." One couple had some rollerskate dj, who came out and performed on rollerskates!!!!!
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  • lunarsongbirdlunarsongbird member
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  • gottadance64gottadance64 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_wedding-pet-peeves?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:eb2d224b-09ee-4f5d-bc16-2b5a39236a07Post:69e144b7-40e0-44e2-837e-aa299ed3538c">Re: Wedding Pet Peeves</a>:
    [QUOTE]I hate pushy people who practically force you to do the money dance, and do it more than once...or make a comment if you only give/have a small bill. I don't ever carry cash....and I think it's kind of tacky. That's what showers and gifts are for. The last wedding i was in did this, and it was just terrible.. Soooo not gonna happen at my wedding
    Posted by IrishDreamer[/QUOTE]

    <div>I hate the money dance - that is so tacky - people are already spending money on your shower gift, wedding gift, maybe an outfit, maybe a hotel stay. Then you're going to hit them up for money during a dance where everyone's watching you - TACKY!</div>
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  • bethsmilesbethsmiles member
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    edited December 2011
    I think things like unity candles or sand ceremonies are redundant and pointless.

    I think dancing down the asile isn't unique it's lame.




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  • lunarsongbirdlunarsongbird member
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    I hate cake smashing. ::shrugs:: Just my preference. I think it looks mean, rude, and disrespectful.


    And the knife against the neck photo op- Don't like that either.



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  • heyimbrenheyimbren member
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    I dislike headtables with the entire wedding party being put on display. I don't get it, I just don't like it. And I don't like the reasons people use to justify why people should have them (uniformity, photo ops, etc.). Same with matchy matcy bridesmaids.

    I absolutely hate buck/stag and does. The fundraising ones. I know they're super popular where I am but I just can't stand them.
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  • bethsmilesbethsmiles member
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    I also don't like wedding party dances or head tables. I forgot to add those.


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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_wedding-pet-peeves?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:eb2d224b-09ee-4f5d-bc16-2b5a39236a07Post:80633a53-fd57-4c7e-8817-f0b6afad1b34">Re: Wedding Pet Peeves</a>:
    [QUOTE]I dislike headtables with the entire wedding party being put on display. I don't get it, I just don't like it. And I don't like the reasons people use to justify why people should have them (uniformity, photo ops, etc.). Same with matchy matcy bridesmaids. I absolutely hate buck/stag and does. The fundraising ones. I know they're super popular where I am but I just can't stand them.
    Posted by heyimbren[/QUOTE]

    It's like you are reading my mind!


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  • lunarsongbirdlunarsongbird member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_wedding-pet-peeves?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:eb2d224b-09ee-4f5d-bc16-2b5a39236a07Post:e7fc6f15-1d33-488a-94e2-1b203c9c559f">Re: Wedding Pet Peeves</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Wedding Pet Peeves : I hate the money dance - that is so tacky - people are already spending money on your shower gift, wedding gift, maybe an outfit, maybe a hotel stay. Then you're going to hit them up for money during a dance where everyone's watching you - TACKY!
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  • heyimbrenheyimbren member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_wedding-pet-peeves?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:eb2d224b-09ee-4f5d-bc16-2b5a39236a07Post:15b9411d-6929-41a8-bcc1-d5e122454afc">Re: Wedding Pet Peeves</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Wedding Pet Peeves : It's like you are reading my mind!
    Posted by bethsmiles[/QUOTE]

    Great minds think alike ;)

    I had a conversation with my friend about this today, so those two things were at the forefront of my mind with wedding talk aha.
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  • lunarsongbirdlunarsongbird member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_wedding-pet-peeves?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:eb2d224b-09ee-4f5d-bc16-2b5a39236a07Post:80633a53-fd57-4c7e-8817-f0b6afad1b34">Re: Wedding Pet Peeves</a>:
    [QUOTE]I dislike headtables with the entire wedding party being put on display. I don't get it, I just don't like it. And I don't like the reasons people use to justify why people should have them (uniformity, photo ops, etc.). Same with matchy matcy bridesmaids. <strong>I absolutely hate buck/stag and does</strong>. The fundraising ones. I know they're super popular where I am but I just can't stand them.
    Posted by heyimbren[/QUOTE]

    I had to google this- <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Stag_and_doe" rel='nofollow'>http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Stag_and_doe</a>

    Gosh...I wouldn't like that wedding tradition AT ALL! It's worse then a money dance!!
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  • becunning2becunning2 member
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    Oooh, I also hate the money dance.  And so help me, if I get married and my husband smashes cake in my face in front of everyone, I would be SUPER mad.  (Boyfriend knows this is an unforgivable offense).

    Lovely photos Lunar!
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  • lunarsongbirdlunarsongbird member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_wedding-pet-peeves?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:eb2d224b-09ee-4f5d-bc16-2b5a39236a07Post:fd169d32-b173-4c59-8c54-8626a3757aa1">Re: Wedding Pet Peeves</a>:
    [QUOTE]Oooh, I also hate the money dance.  And so help me, if I get married and my husband smashes cake in my face in front of everyone, I would be SUPER mad.  (Boyfriend knows this is an unforgivable offense). Lovely photos Lunar!
    Posted by becunning2[/QUOTE]

    I told Andrew I would go in the bathroom and cry is he smashed cake in my face. I'll probably spend HOURS getting my hair and makeup done to look beautiful for him...and photos...

    I would be devistated if he did it. It just seems so mean!

    ETA: Besides- if Andrew wants to play dirty with cake...it should be naked in the bedroom. Ha.
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  • Elle1036Elle1036 member
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    I think there's a good chance that FI and I will be, if not full-on smashers, at least icing-smearers. Our relationship is silly that way. We pull immature pranks on each other on a near-daily basis; I see no reason for our wedding day to be different.
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  • jaycee7389jaycee7389
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_wedding-pet-peeves?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:eb2d224b-09ee-4f5d-bc16-2b5a39236a07Post:c779e906-362d-4920-9391-99a85931832c">Re: Wedding Pet Peeves</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Wedding Pet Peeves : I have to admit, I'm all about the Cupid Shuffle and Cha Cha Slide. Are those passe now?
    Posted by GreenPepperBurger[/QUOTE]

    Meh, I just think they're over done..just my opinion.
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