AW:Two Year Anniversary

Peaseblossom55

So yesterday was the two year anniversary of BF.

On Sunday we went into the city, stayed overnight at the Hudson hotel near columbus circle ( the hotel was in the sex and the city episode Let There Be Light) The hotel room was so tiny, but we were only staying one night.  It was actually amusing.

We didn't have too much planned out for our evening.  We walked around a lot.  We went to dinner at an Italian restaurant with rooftop dining.  It was so nice and romantic.  We walked around more and to times square.  We were lucky we had such nice weather in the 80's.  We came back to the hotel for sexy time. 

The next morning we did breakfast and walked to the upper west side, visted my dad at his store.  Then walked through Centrl park.  We avoided the Columbus Day Parade luckily.  After around 3 we came home. It was nice and romantic, nothing too special.

When we got back to his place we exchanged gifts.  He loved the picture collage I made him.  He hung it up shortly after he got it.  He got me an ipod, I was so shocked I wasn't expecting that.  MIne died at the end of August.  He had it engraved with our two year anniversary date and

"This is true love, do you think this happens every day?"

He also got me cards that were so sweet I cried.

I did begin thinking now that it is two year about time lines for the future.  We know we want to get married, no time line has been discussed.

How did you discuss timeline?  Married, NEY, or engaged?  Just curious, I may not even bring it up for awhile.

elannis

It sounds like you had a great anniversary and got a very cool gift! I'm happy he liked your gift for him too.

NEY but we discussed a timeline after we had gone ring shopping and I was expecting it to be sooner than it was happening, so I asked him what his plans were (tentitively) and got a better idea. Although, all I know now is that it is going to be some time within the next 6 months. I think before that, we were kind of going off of what each other said when we would compare how our friends/relatives relationships/weddings were.

tuarceatha

That sounds like a lovely time

Before I agreed to move in with FI (then BF), he brought up wanting me to move in soon. And I said I was not comfortable with that unless we were married and he said, okay then. And I said okay what? And he said we both agree we want to be married, at least engaged, sooner than later. And I said YES! That is what we agreed. (Even though I didn't realize he got that). Then I graduated from grad school and got a job, and spent 6 of the 7 days in a week at his place, and after a heart-to-heart with my dad, I moved in. Then just under a year after that convo I started this story with, I got on here and started b!tchin about not being engaged. And we really didn't discuss specific timelines after that.

I asked him what his timeline was. Why he proposed when he did, and he said "Cause it was our anniversary." Men are so simple sometimes.

cu97tiger

Aww, sounds like a great anniversary!

Engaged - we started talking timelines around our two-year anniversary (June 2010). Originally we talked about getting married by the end of 2011, so I thought we were all set to get engaged EARLY 2011. Turns out he had other plans, and thought that was a really ROUGH timeline, so it ended up being a summer 2011 proposal and a spring 2012 wedding. The one thing I've found with guys, is that you have to be specific. Not 'give an ultimatum' kind of thing, but if it's important to you to reach milestones at a certain time, be open and honest, and also listen to his thoughts.

CleverThought

That sounds like an amazing way to spend your anniversary!

As far as timelines, my BF and I have talked about it. We know a general time we want to get married. The year at least, by no means do we have a date or anything picked out.
 We've also talked about moving in together, but I said that I would perfer to be engaged before we moved in. I come from a very traditional household, not only would moving in before marriage be rough on them, but especially if it is with "just a boyfriend".
I move out in May, so if me and BF are ready for living together and/or engagement that's great. But I make sure to emphasize it's not a big deal to live with my roomate again if he isn't ready.

peekaboo2011

That sounds like an amazing anniversary!!

jedoublefdoubles

What a sweet way to spend your anniversary!
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There's a Columbus Day parade?!
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We have a rough timeline. I like to say we've discussed marriage and whatnot but it's mostly me talking and him nodding. He does say "of course" when I ask if he wants to/can see being with me foreverrrrrr. I'm mostly in the "learning to enjoy now" phase.

Swazzle

Aww Danser it sounds like you had such a great anniversary!! 

I'm engaged.  We hadn't discussed a timeline for getting engaged but I knew he wanted to have a good amount of money saved up to pay for the ring before we even looked. At the beginning of June (we had been together for 4 years at this point) he suggested we go look at rings together where I narrowed it down to the ones that I loved.  I joked that I hoped he wasn't going to then make me wait a year & he told me not to worry, it would be before October.  I kind of feel like that helped a lot with not being BSC, for me at least.  He proposed at the end of August (would have been the beginning of August except everything happened with my grandpop). 

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Danser, it sounds like you two had a very romantic weekend. Sometimes I think the smaller-scale anniversaries are more meaningful to me. I'm so glad you had a wonderful time!

I'm NYE, but BF and I have talked about getting married extensively. I think we've both known each other was "the one" for quite some time, but BF decided to go back to school about 2 years ago so I haven't been expecting anything until he graduates. He actually bought a ring in March...so of course I got a little BSC after that. Now i'm pretty sure he'll propose before the end of the year, but won't be heartbroken if it ends up being after he graduates next April. We've never had a "I want to be engaged/married by xx/xx/xxxx" conversation. I guess I know we'll get married so the hard part (finding the guy) is done and we're enjoying life as it comes.

Peaseblossom55

Thank you everyone for sharing their stories.  No ultimatiums will be given at all.  I just want to make sure we are thinking along the same time frame as each other, I don't want to find out the hard way he was thinking something like... let's get married in 5 years and say I was thinking 2-3.  It doesn't help that my mom keeps thinking and telling me that may be he will do it around Christmas time, sigh. We did have a nice small celebration it was great.

Thank you again as always for sharing in my happiness and sharing in your life experiences as well.

angelmr2

I'm engaged, and we have a date set. Basically we took it easy. We have known eachother for around four years ( we met online ) and been officially together for two and a half years, he proposed when we were at like I guess a one and a half eyar anniversary? We don't really celebrate half years its just how it fell. 

I had a feeling that he was going to, because we had discussed it previously just never set a time frame. I was getting a little restless but was not letting it on, because we were both pretty tight on money. I didn't need a fancy ring or a big ring, but something nice. So I didn't want to stress him out. It was a bit of a let down at first because we went to dinner and I kept thinking that he was going to ask me and he didn't. We went home and got into bed and he was just talking to me and sat in front of me and started telling me how important I am and how much he needs me, then he asked me. It was sweet.

We enjoyed that "just engaged" feeling for a few months then we discussed it again probably at the beginning of the summer, I asked when he would want to get married and how far was too far, etc. He said waiting for me to be out of school was too long (Ill be in it for years) so we decided just to start looking at venues and see what  came up. We decided not to pick a specific month or anything, because it complicates it a lot. We found one at our own pace and its awesome!

Once you both know youre getting married (which we knew probably when we started dating, even) then its nothing to be afraid or apprehensive about bringing up. I think after a few years most guys would be expecting the woman to bring it up anyway, so ask him whatever you want