depressed H

KatyRoseM

H has been depressed lately and I'm not sure what to do.  Part of the problem is job related (money is tight, an its stressful starting a new firm) but that's only part.  He also has started saying that he misses his friends (who he never ever talks about).  He will just say one sentence and then he doesn't want to talk about it.  He just gets quiet and eats a lot.  I do little things to try to make him feel better but it obviously doesn't help in the long term.  I'm not sure what to do at this point. 

jaycee7389

Could you maybe call up one of his friends and have them over for dinner? Maybe you can even set up a guys night with a case of beer and some snacks, then go out with your friends or something?

KatyRoseM

His friends (the ones he was talking about) died about 2 years ago.  The fact that it was also in December is probably adding to this problem.  I could see if one of his other friends could come over, maybe that would work. 

jaycee7389

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[QUOTE]His friends (the ones he was talking about) died about 2 years ago.  The fact that it was also in December is probably adding to this problem.  I could see if one of his other friends could come over, maybe that would work. 
Posted by KatyRoseM[/QUOTE]

Aww, I'm sorry to hear that. Maybe spending time with some friends though and getting his mind off of things will help, or a special date night with you instead?

polkadot111

Since you said money is tight I'm assuming you don't have money to have him see a counselor?

If you do have money for that, I would highly suggest it. The loss of his friend (espeically since it is the same month) probably makes it even worse. Hopefully it's just a tough time and he is able to pull out of it.

lunarsongbird

Would he be open to seeking counseling?

When Andrew's mother got diagnosed with breast cancer- he slowly started to slip into a funk. He said that NOW's Mood Support really helped- http://www.amazon.com/Now-Foods-Support-Veg-capsules-90-Count/dp/B000TD0PXU

KatyRoseM

We could have him go to the VA, but I'm not sure how open to it he will be.  Generally he isn't a huge fan.  I'll see if he will though. 

KatyRoseM

So he is really not into going to a Dr at this point.  He thinks its normal because he has stress and so its no big deal that he is upset.  I'll see if he will go to a regular Dr.  Thanks, I won't be back for a bit. 

KatyRoseM

Thanks for the perspective.  I know its hard on him, I'm just surprised because he was finally getting to the point he could talk about them in normal conversation, now its worse.  He won't take drugs, at all, so thats out.  I suppose there isn't much else I can do.  Thanks for all your help, if anyone has other ideas let me know.