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    Beads921Beads921 member
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    edited December 2011
    1)  How old are you?  How old is BF?
    We are both 21
    2)  How long have you been together?
    3 years and 8 months
    3)  What are your current living arrangements?
    We share a 2 bdrm apartment
    4)  Fur babies? 2 adorable kittens
    5)  How many days a week do you see each other? 7
    6)  Describe, briefly, your conversations about marriage:
    We don't really have any of any great seriousness. It's not a priority right now. Future discussions generally involve when we hope to buy a house, not when we hope to get married.
    7)  Have you gone ring shopping? No...well, not seriously
    8)  Do you two want children?  If so, how many?
    We're not sure...we both flip flop on the issue constantly. If we do have children, we'll probably have 2, and it won't be for another 10 years
    9)  What religion are you?  Your BF?  How religious are each of you? Neither of us are religious, although I am more spiritual than he is
    10)  Where do you live?  State and big city/small town is fine:
    Ontario. In a mid-sized city, but it's kind of a mash-up of rural, urban, and suburban around these parts. Hard to explain.
    11)  What's your relationship like with each other's family?
    He fits right in with my family. They have really embraced him as part of the family, and he is really close with my parents. His extended family (on his Dad's side) has really embraced me, and we get along great, but I don't have a great relationship with his Mom. I'm friends with his siblings.
    12)  If you have discussed it, what season would you like your wedding to be in?
    I personally don't really care what season, but I think fall could be pretty. We haven't discussed it.
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    csousa1csousa1 member
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    edited December 2011
    I like Game On! Haven't been there in quite a while though. We were at the White Horse for my friend's bday about a month or so ago and got a round of them and they were delish. No idea if that was the norm or a fluke for that bar, but I would be willing to try them again for research :)  
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    marleylikeairmarleylikeair member
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    edited December 2011
    I like it! Do me!*

    1)  How old are you?  How old is BF?
    I'm 27, BF is 31.
    2)  How long have you been together?
    About a year.
    3)  What are your current living arrangements?
    Living together!
    4)  Fur babies?
    One kitty, Marlon, who is nutso but very lovable.
    5)  How many days a week do you see each other?
    Every day. :)
    6)  Describe, briefly, your conversations about marriage.
    We've told each other we both think about it, happily, but aren't ready to have any serious talks about when.
    7)  Have you gone ring shopping?
    Not for an engagement ring, but he bought me a very fun ring for my birthday at Zales last weekend. :) Cushion-cut pale green quartz with white sapphire halo. I LOVES it.
    8)  Do you two want children?  If so, how many?
    We're both kind of on the fence about kids. He leans towards it someday. I think about it sometimes, but I haven't ever had much desire in the past to procreate. I'm pretty sure 2-3 would be on both of our radars if we did decide to.
    9)  What religion are you?  Your BF?  How religious are each of you?
    We are both quite non-religious.
    10)  Where do you live?  State and big city/small town is fine.
    Duluth, Minnesota. (This is about 2 1/2 hours North of Minneapolis.) We've both lived in the suburbs, then big cities before coming here, though.
    11)  What's your relationship like with each other's family?
    His family is wonderful towards me. He hasn't met any of my family yet, except my sister. (This is partly due to my being on the outs with my mom currently.) He and my sister get along well, and I know he'll have tons in common with other members of my family. Hopefully they'll meet him later on this year...
    12)  If you have discussed it, what season would you like your wedding to be in?
    We haven't discussed this yet. I think we'd both be in agreement that there shouldn't be snow on the ground, though.
    Shoes, if you feel this is relevant, we met at our best friends' wedding, and I caught the bouquet; then, I grabbed him to dance with me when the DJ called last song. ;-) I'd also like to add that he has been getting more and more cuddly lately.

    *I know you made that dirty in your head. Wink
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    edited December 2011
    Oh man...

    That took time.  I legit made an excel spreadsheet.  If you'd like to know how I came up with the answers, feel free to ask or PM me.  Some of these I have stronger gut feelings about than others...so I'd wager those are more accurate.  But we shall see.

    (Side note:  Me lurves Whitehorse!)

    NurseyK:  May-June 2011

    LivLeighton:  December 2012

    Cate:  1st Child will be a boy.  Methinks you'll be KU by Fall 2014.

    CdeChristopher: October 2012

    CSousa: December 2011/Jan. 2012

    Blue & White:  November 2011

    SKP:  July 2011

    CCO2012: September 2011

    Wrkn925:  July 2011

    Lmwilber: May 2012

    CU97Tiger: August 2011

    Lunar:  March 2012

    Ravenray:  April 2012

    Jenjennifer:  August 2012

    Skidevil:  November 2011

    Beads:  October 2013




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    edited December 2011
    Marley:  April 2012
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    edited December 2011
    How can we keep track of this to see how accurate it is? This is sooo interesting! :) And I love the baby prediction!
    ~~December 3, 2011~~
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_shoes-predictor?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:f1536d40-d247-4f99-be7b-38bbf119bb60Post:0513b597-afeb-453a-ab6e-32347ceb5033">Re: Shoes the Predictor...</a>:
    [QUOTE]Ok I want to know how you came up with mine! You can say it here or PM, doesn't matter.
    Posted by LivLeighton[/QUOTE]

    Ok.  He's 34 and has never been married, which immediately suggests that societal pressures to marry and procreate do not phase him.  He'll get married when he feels ready.  Also, since you're pretty set on not having children, you're not in a rush to meet the needs of your biological clock.

    He also said he doesn't feel ready yet because of parents' and friends' failed marriages.  His parents are divorced and he doesn't have a good relationship with them.  That seriously affects people, and he's probably terrified that he will follow in their footsteps.  (Which also explains why he doesn't want children.  He doesn't want to eff them up the way his parents effed him up.)

    So, all that being said.  I figure he sounds like he needs at least another year of a relationship with you to make sure that this is right and he won't fail as a husban the way his friends and father did.  Then once he's ready, he still has to save up for the ring, buy the ring, and plan a proposal...which will be another 6 months or so.

    So, December 2012.
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    ravenrayravenray member
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    edited December 2011
    OOh it is so cool to here how you did it!  Tell me mine please!! :)
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    becunning2becunning2 member
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    edited December 2011
    Wow, shoes, you've put some serious thought into this!  Do you have anything quite so deep for mine or is it pretty much, "he said he wanted to finish school, duh!"

    ...

    Of course, he's been saying he'll graduate for as long as we've been together now too, so I don't know if December is going to happen either. He's certainly working hard--lots of setbacks on his Ph.D. Poor guy.
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    lunarsongbirdlunarsongbird member
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    edited December 2011

    Hehe...This is really fun.

    I'm guessing you picked March 2012, because we'll be out of Andrew's parents house and a bit more settled. His mom should also be done with her cancer treatments by then. Am I right? :)

    Here is the list in chronological order if anyone is interested:

    NurseyKJun-11
    SKPJul-11
    Wrkn925Jul-11
    CU97TigerAug-11
    CCO2012Sep-11
    Blue & WhiteNov-11
    SkidevilNov-11
    Allusive Nov-11
    CSousaDec-11
    Becunning Jan-12
    LunarMar-12
    RavenrayApr-12
    Marley Apr-12
    LmwilberMay-12
    BethJul-12
    JenjenniferAug-12
    CdeChristopherOct-12
    LivLeightonDec-12
    Beads Oct-13
    CateFeb-14
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    csousa1csousa1 member
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    edited December 2011
    I'm so interested as to how you came up with them! Also who you had gut feelings on. This whole thing is just interesting as hell, even if I hadn't participated myself!
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    becunning2becunning2 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_shoes-predictor?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:f1536d40-d247-4f99-be7b-38bbf119bb60Post:84eb2399-e71c-4e2c-a188-e868d6b810eb">Re: Shoes the Predictor...</a>:
    [QUOTE]IThis whole thing is just interesting as hell, even if I hadn't participated myself!
    Posted by csousa1[/QUOTE]

    That's because it's AWESOME!  And fun!  And informative.  Major props to Shoes.
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    SKP82SKP82 member
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    edited December 2011
    I love this!  We definitely need to find a way to keep up with this and see how accurate it is.

    But I think we will have more than 1 engagement in the next 2 months.  :)

    How did you come up with mine?  Do you have a strong gut feeling there? 

    I hope you're either right or it's earlier!!
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    LizzyTish88LizzyTish88 member
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    edited December 2011
    Haha! I love this. How did you get mine and was it a gut feeling? I'm DYING to know! lol.
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    cu97tigercu97tiger member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_shoes-predictor?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:f1536d40-d247-4f99-be7b-38bbf119bb60Post:37906bb3-0b93-4bb1-adec-7e2dad36b04f">Re: Shoes the Predictor...</a>:
    [QUOTE]7)  Have you gone ring shopping? Not for an engagement ring, but he bought me a very fun ring for my birthday at Zales last weekend. :) Cushion-cut pale green quartz with white sapphire halo. I LOVES it. 
    Posted by marleylikeair[/QUOTE]

    <div>Picture or it didn't happen! How did you not AW this before now?? :)</div><div>
    </div><div>Shoes, I'd love to hear how you came up with mine and whether you had a strong 'gut' feeling about it or not. PS My birthday is in August, so that would make for an awesome birthday month!</div>
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_shoes-predictor?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:f1536d40-d247-4f99-be7b-38bbf119bb60Post:62dd168f-bc31-46ea-b2f6-ced8ed3cc06b">Re: Shoes the Predictor...</a>:
    [QUOTE]OOh it is so cool to here how you did it!  Tell me mine please!! :)
    Posted by ravenray[/QUOTE]

    <div>Ok.  Raven, you're young, so it's tougher.  There are so many variables when you're so young.  But here's my thought process.</div><div>
    </div><div>You've been together for 2.5 years, so you're decently serious.  You live apart, which is probably a testament to your youth and your religious beliefs.  You also live in a small town, which may suggest that it's more socially acceptable to get engaged/married at a young age.  You almost got engaged in January, but you wanted to wait another year...which tells me that at earliest, we're talking December 2011.  Then you have to factor in time for ring purchasing, proposal planning, and overall male sloth and indecisiveness (especially at 20), and you get April 2011.</div>
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    ravenrayravenray member
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    edited December 2011

    Tell us shoes!  And tell us who you have strong gut feelings about!

    EDIT oh you told me.   :)  YAYA.  My BF laughed when I read it to him.  Especially about the male slothfulness.  :)  I was surprised that you had me that early.  Most people would want us to go much later. :)

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    lunarsongbirdlunarsongbird member
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    edited December 2011
    Shoes is the most popular girl on TK today!
    I bestow on you this radical award:


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    SKP82SKP82 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_shoes-predictor?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:f1536d40-d247-4f99-be7b-38bbf119bb60Post:ce03795a-aab7-4772-b4b4-66c1a2a62a6a">Re: Shoes the Predictor...</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Shoes the Predictor... : Picture or it didn't happen! How did you not AW this before now?? :) Posted by cu97tiger[/QUOTE]

    I second this.  I want bling porn!
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    edited December 2011
    Becunning:

    You're both approaching the age of general serious flirtation with marriage.  And you've been together for about 2.5 years, so it's on track.  You live together, which suggests you're serious.  You have fur babies, but you didn't get them together, which indicates that you're not immediately on ZOMG MARRIAGE BABIES 401K rush track.  

    You're both wanting to make sure it's not a rush, but after 2.5 years it's probably not.  He needs to finish school, and that's a big thing right now.  So, I give him about 6 months to start ring shopping...then a month or so to figure out a proposal and pop the question.

    If you have a yearlong engagement, you can start pushing out babies by 29.  In the male mind, this should work great.
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    Wrkn925Wrkn925 member
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    edited December 2011

    Trying to not sound BSC here, but I think BF will propse after closing when we settle into our house.

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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_shoes-predictor?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:f1536d40-d247-4f99-be7b-38bbf119bb60Post:4fb54040-eb45-4024-91a8-17d8e08daf5b">Re: Shoes the Predictor...</a>:
    [QUOTE]I'm guessing you picked March 2012, because we'll be out of Andrew's parents house and a bit more settled. His mom should also be done with her cancer treatments by then. Am I right? :) 
    Posted by lunarsongbird[/QUOTE]

    <div>Yes.  Also, you've only been together for a year, so he'll probably want a bit more time.</div>
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    becunning2becunning2 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_shoes-predictor?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:f1536d40-d247-4f99-be7b-38bbf119bb60Post:8b280084-408b-4614-965a-6a0b9212d369">Re: Shoes the Predictor...</a>:
    [QUOTE]Becunning: If you have a yearlong engagement, you can start pushing out babies by 29.  In the male mind, this should work great.
    Posted by loves2shop4shoes[/QUOTE]

    I love it, thanks!  I'm totally on the I want babies track.  I'll finish graduate school next spring a few months before I turn 29, and so I'll definitelyI want to start the baby pushing for sure.  But to heck if I'll have a year engagement. That'd drive me nuts!
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    edited December 2011
    SKP:  If you think he's had the ring since February, I doubt he'd hold on to it too much longer.  You've been together for a WHILE and you're both getting up there in age.  (No offense, I'm a beebee myself.)

    If you want children, getting engaged this summer would be good for a timeline.  It just makes sense.
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    lmwilberlmwilber member
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    edited December 2011

    Shoes for the win today!!!

    I am totally going to tell my self that it will not happen before May 2012. So, thanks shoes, I can just relax and enjoy the next year (ya know minus the bar exam and all).

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    edited December 2011
    Cde:  Yours is a gut feeling.  Methinks he's not quite ready yet, but you've been together for so long, you're essentially a part of each other's families already...so to him it's probably more of a formality.

    Also, you've gotta give him time to buy the ring and plan the proposal.
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    edited December 2011
    Cu97tiger...yours was my strongest gut feeling.  Yesterday, when you asked what I thought, my mind immediately said "August.  Early September at the latest."  And then I had a dream that you got engaged last night.

    I didn't even know your bday is in August.  That's weirdddd...

    Oh, and I had a strong gut feeling that Cate's first child would be a boy.
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    ravenrayravenray member
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    edited December 2011
    This is fun.  I like reading everyone's stories. :)  and Why Shoes think it is. 
    "Love is not affectionate feeling, but a steady wish for the loved person's ultimate good as far as it can be obtained"-C.S. Lewis

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    SKP82SKP82 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_shoes-predictor?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:f1536d40-d247-4f99-be7b-38bbf119bb60Post:c47d8e2a-a39b-4c56-ba68-e66a016caa05">Re: Shoes the Predictor...</a>:
    [QUOTE]SKP:  If you think he's had the ring since February, I doubt he'd hold on to it too much longer.  You've been together for a WHILE and you're both getting up there in age.  (No offense, I'm a beebee myself.) If you want children, getting engaged this summer would be good for a timeline.  It just makes sense.
    Posted by loves2shop4shoes[/QUOTE]

    I agree.  We shall see...
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    cu97tigercu97tiger member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_shoes-predictor?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:f1536d40-d247-4f99-be7b-38bbf119bb60Post:d6bee5ef-c8eb-4b03-b741-3acff8cf8ebe">Re: Shoes the Predictor...</a>:
    [QUOTE]Cu97tiger...yours was my strongest gut feeling.  Yesterday, when you asked what I thought, my mind immediately said "August.  Early September at the latest."  And then I had a dream that you got engaged last night. I didn't even know your bday is in August.  That's weirdddd... Oh, and I had a strong gut feeling that Cate's first child would be a boy.
    Posted by loves2shop4shoes[/QUOTE]

    <div>I love it! I think the only competition you have is our trip to Vegas next month (alone this time) and three year anniversary. But now that you have August in my head, I'm going with that :)</div>
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