proposal gone wrong!

beautifulrose09

thank you all.

beautifulrose09

this was all a big mistake, clearly. thank you all for your imput some have been very helpful and others have been very successful in making me look like a fool. but never the less thanks.

caitlin.cave

If it matters that much to you that you know when he's going to propose, tell him his best friend spilled the beans, and that he should do it then.

Swazzle

What's the countdown in your siggy counting down to?

jeanacorina

If you REALLY feel like it's "all over for you" and you're REALLY not excited just because someone MIGHT have spoiled the surprise, then you should probably not get engaged right now and you should take a long look at why you want to get married.

I say that because although the proposal is an exciting moment... it's just a moment. You should be FAR more excited about the rest of your life with the guy you love. That's a LONG time and there will be plenty more surprises along the way-- and there will be more things that don't go exactly as planned, too.

In addition, I promise... even if you know it's coming... it's still incredible. I "knew" my husband was going to propose. But I talked myself into thinking I might be wrong and it could be any other time. Even knowing deep down that he was going to propose that day did NOT make it less special. That's all about how YOU perceive it.

ravenray

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[QUOTE]this was all a big mistake, clearly. thank you all for your imput some have been very helpful and others have been very successful in making me look like a fool. but never the less thanks.
Posted by beautifulrose09[/QUOTE]
<p class="MsoNormal">Good thing I quoted you.<span>  </span>I had a feeling you were a DD.<span>  </span>I fail to see how this was a mistake.<span>  </span>We gave you advice, it wasn't advice you wanted to hear but that really isn't the point of advice is it?<span>  </span>No one made you look like a fool; your actions are foolish though.<span>  </span>Slow your roll.<span>  </span>Wait till you are engaged to do anything that involves weddings.<span>  </span>And be happy with how your relationship is now. That should be all that matters.<span>  </span>And I am very romantic too and I managed to wait to plan my wedding until I was engaged.<span>  </span></p>

caitlin.cave

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[QUOTE]If you REALLY feel like it's "all over for you" and you're REALLY not excited just because someone MIGHT have spoiled the surprise, then you should probably not get engaged right now and you should take a long look at why you want to get married. I say that because although the proposal is an exciting moment... it's just a moment. You should be FAR more excited about the rest of your life with the guy you love. That's a LONG time and there will be plenty more surprises along the way-- and there will be more things that don't go exactly as planned, too. In addition, I promise... even if you know it's coming... it's still incredible. I "knew" my husband was going to propose. But I talked myself into thinking I might be wrong and it could be any other time. Even knowing deep down that he was going to propose that day did NOT make it less special. That's all about how YOU perceive it.
Posted by jeanacorina[/QUOTE]

Very well-said.  I knew someone articulate would come along and say what I was thinking.  Even IF you totally know it's coming, this is the person you want to spend your life with asking you to spend theirs with them.  That's a huge thing no matter whether you know it's coming, no matter whether you're in your PJ's or something else that people don't think is "romantic" (romance is totally overrated anyway).

beautifulrose09

we already had a date planned when we want to get married. its right after we graduate from college.

ravenray

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[QUOTE]Okay so earlier this summer me and BF went ring shopping. I was suppose to be only looking at like 5 rings and he pick his fav and pop the question. But instand he ended up buying the ring that day, so i know what it looks like (and where he "hides" the ring in his room and the day he asked for my parents for my hand in marriage)  SO later that night we where in the car talking about marriage and stuff i said jokingly " what you gonna propose on my b-day" He was like really you spoil everything lol. But he later told me that he wasnt going to do it on my bday because i guessed it so i went on with my life. In like oct. i was texting his best friend and told him i needed help probably like next year picking out my boyfriends ring for our wedding, so he calls and says dont buy him anything he gonna propose on your bday and he already got you the ring and Im like seriously! so he just totally messed it all up! I didnt tell my bf any of this but now the whole proposing thing is all over for me :( like ive spent months thinking about this all and now im just kinda over it. Ladies help what would do in my situation, any of you been in this situation?? I just keep hoping all this is some joke too throw me off or something! i really wanted this to be special for the both of us.
Posted by beautifulrose09[/QUOTE]
Why would you be talking to his BFF for rings for him?  Jeanna has good advice! Even if you "know" the day will be special.

Jenna!!!!  Hi!  I've missed you how are you?

beautifulrose09

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[QUOTE]If you REALLY feel like it's "all over for you" and you're REALLY not excited just because someone MIGHT have spoiled the surprise, then you should probably not get engaged right now and you should take a long look at why you want to get married. I say that because although the proposal is an exciting moment... it's just a moment. You should be FAR more excited about the rest of your life with the guy you love. That's a LONG time and there will be plenty more surprises along the way-- and there will be more things that don't go exactly as planned, too. In addition, I promise... even if you know it's coming... it's still incredible. I "knew" my husband was going to propose. But I talked myself into thinking I might be wrong and it could be any other time. Even knowing deep down that he was going to propose that day did NOT make it less special. That's all about how YOU perceive it.
Posted by jeanacorina[/QUOTE]

please dont get me wrong, im just a very romanticy type girl, i just a fairy tale type of person sorry. I love my bf with all my heart and i cant wait to be with him forever just thinking about him proposing still puts a huge smile on my face, its just i rather not have known at all about any of this. but thank you for the advice :)

beautifulrose09

to help me pick it out because him and his best friend are very close and i wanted to start making payments now while i have the money. And all of us are very close, I just thought he could help being since my Bf wears like no jewerly.

Elle1036

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[QUOTE]In Response to proposal gone wrong! : Why would you be talking to his BFF for rings for him?  Jeanna has good advice! Even if you "know" the day will be special. Jenna!!!!  Hi!  I've missed you how are you?
Posted by ravenray[/QUOTE]

<div>Thanks for quoting, Ray.  I was sad when I saw the DD.</div><div>
</div><div>As for the OP - I have nothing to say.  Maybe write in complete sentences and I'll get back to you.</div>

HULU

I knew my FI (then BF, obviously) was going to propose. I knew he was going to do it on his birthday. I knew what the ring looked like, even though I didn't pick it out. What I didn't know was:

- He was going to propose to me at Disneyland.

- He was going to propose to me at the Wishing Well.

- His parents were waiting on us when we got back to his house with an engagement cake and congratulations!

It wasn't a complete surprise, but it's not like I knew every little intimate detail either. He didn't even get down on one knee (bad knees from surfing injuries), but you know what? I wouldn't give anything in the world for that day. My guy isn't exactly what you would call a textbook romantic, but he's sweet and romantic in his own unique little way, and I love every ounce of it. Like PPs have said, it's not going to make the day any less special.

ETA: I wouldn't start making payments on anything... ANYTHING... until he actually proposes. That's what the engagement period is for, and it would be very unfortunate if something were to happen beforehand that would end up with no engagement at all. I would never wish that on anyone, but it's always best to just "slow your roll" and take it one thing at a time.

SKP82

Don't plan a wedding until you're engaged.  If you had followed that rule, you wouldn't be in this situation to begin with.

That said, just tell your boyfriend that you know.  If you want it to be a surprise that is.

lavenderfields13

Yeah I don't really get why you were asking his friend about his ring. I thought couples usually did that part together but maybe I'm wrong. Also you shouldn't be buying him a wedding ring when he hasn't even proposed yet. You shouldn't have a wedding ticker when he hasn't proposed yet.

ILike PPs have said, it's still going to be special whether you know it's coming or not.

TheMutleys

It is hard for something to "go wrong" when it has NOT happened yet.  Just sayin'. 

TheMutleys

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[QUOTE]t<strong>o help me pick it out</strong> because him and his best friend are very close and <strong>i wanted to start making payments now while i have the money.</strong> And all of us are very close, <strong>I just thought he could help being since my Bf wears like no jewerly.</strong>
Posted by beautifulrose09[/QUOTE]


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SKP82

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[QUOTE]It is hard for something to "go wrong" when it has NOT happened yet.  Just sayin'. 
Posted by TheMutleys[/QUOTE]

True story.

csousa1

I can't take anyone seriously who actually has a Twilight quote in their siggy as a description of their relationship.

lennonkdc

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[QUOTE]I can't take anyone seriously who actually has a Twilight quote in their siggy as a description of their relationship.
Posted by csousa1[/QUOTE]

<div>
</div><div>yup. </div>

Elle1036

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[QUOTE]I can't take anyone seriously who actually has a Twilight quote in their siggy as a description of their relationship.
Posted by csousa1[/QUOTE]

<div>See, I started to say this, but then I realized that her sig quote is not about her BF, but about Jesus.  Right?  That has to be why "Him" is capitalized.  ...Right?</div>