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Just Needing to Vent (Long)

Warning, this is not a crazy wanting to be engaged story :D

Anyways, so I really needed to vent about this past weekend. This year we have been invited to a total of 8 weddings (2 of them destination weddings) and have to attend them all (my BF is dressed in 5, the other 3 are my family members). So this weekend was wedding 3 of 8, on top of one of the destination weddings. 

I am going to start from the beginning so you all can get an idea of how much of a mess this has been.  This is one of the wedding’s my BF was dressed in. We received all the information and found out that it is a destination wedding, so all of us from Long Island, NY had to travel up to New London, NH. A little back information about the couple. They both come from very wealthy families and sure show it. They drive ridiculous fancy cars, have a beautiful house together, etc. (no jealousy, good for them!). I have to state this information because it is important.

We receive all the information about where and what time, but no information was given for hotels to stay in, etc. No rooms were even blocked for us, so another girl and I did all the research. Finally found a place (btw, everything up there is B&B’s that cost a fortune!!!!) and booked all of our rooms because the other places in the area were already booked! So fast forward a few months and some of the guys in the bridal party found out that the bridesmaids rooms had been paid for, meanwhile they didn’t even reserve rooms for the groomsmen. That made everyone pretty angry.

Now fast forward to the wedding weekend. We all had to take off Friday to get up for rehearsal dinner. We arrive and everything is disorganized and they didn’t seem to know what is going on. Rehearsal itself started one hour late (they even had a wedding planner). After rehearsal is said and done, we all meet at a restaurant for our dinner. Well there was potato salad, macaroni and cheese, ham, and eggs being served buffet style. Whatever, it was no big deal except they did run out of food and not all of us got some (everything but the eggs were brought from the home, the restaurant served the eggs).

Now next day. The boys get ready for the wedding, etc. The church was beautiful & everything went well there. Now the reception. We were informed that the wedding was going to be a beautiful enclosed, air conditioned tented wedding on the bride’s parents “estate” property, and that even the kids have their own separate tent. We arrive and had to climb this giant hill up their dirt driveway to get to the hill (thank goodness I brought flip flops!). I found my BF and he wasn’t happy. They haven’t eaten all day since the AM and finally was served a small bag of popcorn to eat (this is at 5:30pm!). No while on their way to take pictures or anything. The cocktail hour was ok, there was a vegetable platter with dip, a few passed hors d’oevres, and drinks. We find our seat, in the tent and noticed that it is not enclosed and no ac. No big deal because it turned out to be an ok day, but we were getting annihilated by mosquitos. After everyone sits, we find out that we are surrounded by a whole bunch of kids (umm, what happened to them having their own separate tent?!?!). I read the menu card, and the food is buffet style. What will be served: Roast beef, spaghetti, chicken nuggets & french fries, and salad. They go through the dances, etc. and then mention that food is ready and that they will be calling each table one by one. After second table is called, everyone just decided to go up. There was one table for the meat, and then one table for the rest of the food. The line for the food took about 40 minutes to go through and that was after I waited about 20 minutes for it to calm down. I get up and noticed that some people wanted seconds and were being rejected because they were running out of food AGAIN!!! The food was awful, the sauce tasted like Ragu and I noticed the french fries and chicken nuggets were in large frozen bags. The DJ played from a computer, which was not a big deal, but between each song there was 20 seconds of silence that really killed the dance mood every time!!! Oh, and to bat, the bride & groom were one of the first to leave and didn’t even say goodbye to anyone. There is no excuse for this unless they had a plane to catch, but they did not because they were staying at the same hotel as us and were awake when we arrived!!! Oh, yea and they kicked one of their friends out of the room because they didn’t book one.

Sorry for the long rant, but this wedding tops the list of the most awful wedding I have ever attended by far. 

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    It sounds like someone didn't organize/plan well.

    Did you at least enjoy our NH scenery?
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    ...and you are?
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    I could not read through all of that. Is there a shorter version of this rant?


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    CN Version:

    She went to a wedding that was a DW on top of being one of 8 they have this year.
    Planning was terrible. Familes were both well off and flaunted it - but ran out of food twice, once at rehearsal and once at reception. All information they were given was inaccurate - type of reception, etc.
    Bridesmaids rooms were paid for, groomsmen's was not.

    ....I think that's the gist of it...
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    Thank you for the wall of text. Paragraphs are your friend.



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    The money part was not needed actually. Any body can have crappy food/no ac. It seems that you were let down because of your own expectations of them. Don't get me wrong..I would be crabby in a no ac tent outside in heat with misquitos. BUT it isn't cool to expect people to spend all this cash just because they can. It's their wedding. They spend the money how they want to.
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    You realise you basically just walked into a room full of strangers and started whining about people none of us know. 
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    New York to NH is not a destination wedding, sorry to tell you.  I'll be making that drive next summer for a wedding and I certainly don't think it's that big of a deal, considering it's near the bride's hometown.

    It kind of sounds like you just wanted to complain because you thought they should have spent more.  And if it was a super fancy, 7 course sit down dinner, you'd be complaining about how "over the top" it was. 
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    I'm sorry, but you sound jealous or something. There was nothing 'OH LORD' about any of that. How would you see frozen bags of chicken nuggets if it was inside the tent being served, did they cook them right there? I don't really get half of your complaints. Get over it.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_just-needing-to-vent-long?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:f8806f6a-50e6-4216-8ea9-1f87c27c5d4ePost:ce01e1f2-7ee1-4e34-a3dd-fb221476167b">Re: Just Needing to Vent (Long)</a>:
    [QUOTE]It sounds like someone didn't organize/plan well. Did you at least enjoy our NH scenery?
    Posted by MrsKathyC[/QUOTE]

    <div>The scenery was beautiful! I have to say, I did enjoy that the most. </div>
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_just-needing-to-vent-long?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:f8806f6a-50e6-4216-8ea9-1f87c27c5d4ePost:ad6689cc-72ab-4aec-86b8-7981f20b65db">Re: Just Needing to Vent (Long)</a>:
    [QUOTE]...and you are?
    Posted by loves2shop4shoes[/QUOTE]

    <div>My name is Kristina, I have posted my information here before. I try to post when I can and have posted in other posts, which is not often because usually very busy, but had off today.</div>
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_just-needing-to-vent-long?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:f8806f6a-50e6-4216-8ea9-1f87c27c5d4ePost:dbcb000f-8747-49d4-b78d-baf621b5d151">Re: Just Needing to Vent (Long)</a>:
    [QUOTE]Thank you for the wall of text. Paragraphs are your friend.
    Posted by rdr716[/QUOTE]

    <div>Sorry for that, it was seperated into paragraphs when I wrote here in this box, I am not sure why it did it this way.</div>
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_just-needing-to-vent-long?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:f8806f6a-50e6-4216-8ea9-1f87c27c5d4ePost:85f9ec51-a8c6-4729-829f-85cb986dea34">Re: Just Needing to Vent (Long)</a>:
    [QUOTE]The money part was not needed actually. Any body can have crappy food/no ac. It seems that you were let down because of your own expectations of them. Don't get me wrong..I would be crabby in a no ac tent outside in heat with misquitos. BUT it isn't cool to expect people to spend all this cash just because they can. It's their wedding. They spend the money how they want to.
    Posted by jnjmommy0609[/QUOTE]

    <div>We didn't expect it, the problem is they promised all this. We were told that there would be AC, a whole bunch of different food table set ups, etc. It's one thing to expect, which again, I didn't but it's another to promise and play up your wedding, as in her word, "it is going to be a Kim Kardashian style wedding" when it turned out to be an incredible let down. </div><div>
    </div><div>In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_just-needing-to-vent-long?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:f8806f6a-50e6-4216-8ea9-1f87c27c5d4ePost:6587942e-a401-4a2a-ac71-74c9f4b0dd2a">Re: Just Needing to Vent (Long)</a>:
    [QUOTE]You realise you basically just walked into a room full of strangers and started whining about people none of us know. 
    Posted by Beads921[/QUOTE]
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    </div><div>Sorry for complaining, I've seen other people post, I will keep it to myself next time.</div><div>
    </div><div>In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_just-needing-to-vent-long?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:f8806f6a-50e6-4216-8ea9-1f87c27c5d4ePost:76b3abec-e244-4702-98c0-43657b187e50">Re: Just Needing to Vent (Long)</a>:
    [QUOTE]New York to NH is not a destination wedding, sorry to tell you.  I'll be making that drive next summer for a wedding and I certainly don't think it's that big of a deal, considering it's near the bride's hometown. It kind of sounds like you just wanted to complain because you thought they should have spent more.  And if it was a super fancy, 7 course sit down dinner, you'd be complaining about how "over the top" it was. 
    Posted by K Everdeen12[/QUOTE]
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    </div><div><p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-size:8.5pt;">I consider it a destination if we have to spend 7+ hours of traveling. And isn't any destination a wedding outside of local area? I'm sorry if I am wrong on that. It isn't the bride's hometown, she is from NY, it is her parents retirement home. And as I stated above, I didn't expect them to pay more, but they made an awful amount of promises and bragged about how extravagant it was going to be. I've been to many weddings both over-the-top and very nice and local which were great. Sorry again for venting. </span></p><p class="MsoNormal">In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_just-needing-to-vent-long?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:f8806f6a-50e6-4216-8ea9-1f87c27c5d4ePost:589c44ef-18f3-45f4-93c5-fb9cfaa2916d">Re: Just Needing to Vent (Long)</a>:</p><p class="MsoNormal">[QUOTE]I'm sorry, but you sound jealous or something. There was nothing 'OH LORD' about any of that. How would you see frozen bags of chicken nuggets if it was inside the tent being served, did they cook them right there? I don't really get half of your complaints. Get over it.</p><p class="MsoNormal">Posted by jaycee7389[/QUOTE]</p><p class="MsoNormal">Again, please read above in this post...it was just very surprising because of how much they bragged about what they were doing for the wedding. And FYI, we saw the frozen bag of chicken nuggets because they were bringing the food up to the tent while we were outside next to it for cocktail hour. It was served during dinner. </p><p class="MsoNormal">I just was trying to make it clear in this post, we didn't expect things, but again, they promised the world and this is how it turned out. Well, sorry for venting, I'll make sure not to do that again. </p><p class="MsoNormal"> </p></div>
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    You don't have to keep to yourself. We just don't know you very well, so it was unusual to see a long vent without much chat time otherwise.
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    [QUOTE]You don't have to keep to yourself. We just don't know you very well, so it was unusual to see a long vent without much chat time otherwise.
    Posted by becunning2[/QUOTE]

    <div>I post when I can here, it is just not everyday because I am busy. But I do try and write when I can. Again, lesson learned.</div>
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    Heck, I was gone for five months because I was teaching. I'll go back into stalker mode and skimming the occasional posts here in August.
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    Tell me, what is so wrong with Ragu?

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    Chicken nuggets, mac and cheese, an outdoor wedding and a dj? Sounds like my kind of wedding!

    I think you're being a bit too judgy. Nothing that you said they did was mouth-hanging-open worthy.
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    If it makes you feel any better we had to go to an "engagement party" this weekend at 9 am, about an hour away from our home, no mimosas (but really good breakfast tacos). And after 2 hours SURPRISE!! it was their actual wedding... people had already left because they had plans at noon, thinking they only needed to stay an hour or two as it was advertised an engagement brunch.

    We were there from 9-12:30, they expected people to stay for dancing, but like I said we made plans. And if you want people to stay from 9-2 then you need to be serving some LUNCH too! :)
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