This is totally odd, because before I was engaged I was totally psyched about our wedding (yes, the party aspect). But once I started planning and looking at numbers, I just realized that I don't want a wedding. I want a house with a yard, and then to have a backyard BBQ wedding/housewarming party. But even with this awesome idea, there are problems. As of now, we want to stay in WA, but my parents live in So Cal. Now, they would totally travel for the wedding, but none of my mom's friends will. She's a total psychopath (which some of you already know), and doesn't want to interact with ANY family members other than my cousins. The original plan was to have it in So Cal, so her friends would go, and so she wouldn't be lonely and stay off my back. But if we have it up here, where we plan to buy a house, none of her friends would come, and so she'd be free to go all Senorita Psychopath on me the whole day. Blah.