Woulda, Coulda, Shoulda....

mattkatt12

To all newlyweds or people that have newlywed friends or just to anyone that has been to a wedding, what are some things that you look back and say " I woulda/coulda/shoulda done/not done "this"? I'm curious to know what you would have changed about yours or someone else's wedding after the fact??

JaxInBlue

I think these are all minor in the grand scheme of things and none of them took away from me having a great time at our wedding.

• I would have been more specific with our photographer about getting shots of other people - my folks, DH's folks, siblings and SOs, etc.  I wasn't really specific about wanting these shots and our photographer followed my list pics we really wanted very specifically. Our pictures are lovely though!
• I also would have worn flats.  I had a pair of heels I absolutely loved and wore around before the wedding - but not for the length of the wedding and reception. My feet were not happy with me by the time dinner was over.
• I would have eaten more for lunch.  I was absolutely famished by the time we got the reception and even then it was about 40 minutes until we ate (after intros, first dance, toasts, blessing).

jemmini6

The only thing that I was really disappointed about with our wedding was the portion size of our dinner.  When we did our tasting, they brought out plates as how they'd be served for our wedding, which was perfect.  But then the banquet chef left and we were assured that nothing would change with the food since the head chef would be taking over, but the portion was about 3/4 the size it was during our tasting.  So if anything, I supposed I would have insisted on doing another tasting with the new chef, but that still might not have changed anything.  The food still tasted great, I just wished there was more of it.

Other than that, I was really happy with how our wedding turned out and there's nothing I really would have done differently.

Simply Fated

I wish I had lurked around more when I was a MOH. I didn't really start lurking around until the week up to my friend's wedding.
Had I known then what I know now, I'd have planned a better bridal shower and bachelorette party with the budget that I had.

I don't think tons would have changed, but I'd have been more aware of the crazy and I think I would have found that comforting.

achiduck

At my brothers wedding the DJ screwed up the grand entrance and didn't announce any of the wedding party members, just my brother and SIL so the WP just had to walk in ahead of them with confused looks on their faces.

ElleB87

I wish I would have had some of our fondue.  I was just too stuffed after dinner.

direy25

I wish we would have hired a videographer.

cwaggoner07

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[QUOTE]I wish we would have hired a videographer.
Posted by direy25[/QUOTE]

Thank you for saying this! We were teetering on getting one, and now I think we will for sure!

cokie216

My friend who just got married said her only regret was not hiring a videographer.

I'm not married yet but I wish that I would have paid more attention to details in the weddings I've been to to help me with my own planning.  I don't have any weddings lined up before my own in October.  Not a big deal just something I wish I had done!

mejai1

I'm not married yet, but I wish I would have trusted my instincts more when hiring our coordinator. 

emarston1

I would have ironed my linens.  They were all wrinkled and I cringe when I look at photos of them.

But considering that's the only thing I would have changed, I say we did pretty good

Cinderella30

I would've given my photographer a "must have" list of photos.  My husband and I thought we would be able to figure it out the day of.  However, things went by so fast we missed out on some shots we really wanted.

littleshrink

I think this is one of the best questions on here.  Nice job.

These answers are so great.  I am two months out to my wedding and the best advice I can give, is stick to your guns and honor you and your future husband's wishes.  It is so easy to get sucked into whatever everyone around is suggesting and wanting you to do.  Just remember the day is about the two of you....