Am I being unreasonable?

[Deleted User]

So I need advice and I'm not sure if this is the right board to be posting my question but here it goes!!

We're planning a wedding for September 8 in Pennsylvania.  I've always wanted to get married on my family farm, so the ceremony location was a no-brainer for me (my fiance is from Germany and doesn't have any emotional attachment to a certain area).  HOWEVER, I'm finding it difficult to find an indoor reception venue near our farm and everyone is concerned about keeping the reception outside for weather purposes.  Everyone's telling me we should just find a venue I like and have the ceremony and reception there.  Should I go with the majority and give up the idea of saying my vows on the family farm?

I'm including a picture of the farm.  I wanted it to be under the weeping willow, next to the pond.  (The barn isn't an option)


 

AdeleDazeem

If the farm is what you want and your family is okay with it, go for it.

September in Pennsylvania is beautiful.  It's not too hot and it's not too cold.

Could you have the reception on the property under a tent?  It would work rain or shine.  Tent companies will also rent you floors so people wouldn't have to stand in wet grass.  You would most definitely need to bring in bathrooms for that, but they have lovely rental bathroom options now.

The other choice would be to find an indoor venue for the reception and have that be your "in case of rain" choice for the ceremony.

We had an outdoor wedding.  I loved it.  And, while I wasn't thrilled with the rain plan, I was happy to take the risk and get the outside wedding that we wanted.

[Deleted User]

I didn't know you could rent the floors too!!  That might be my selling point!  I wanted it outside at my dad's house, which is on the other side of the farm (and the bathroom is accessible).  Everyone was concerned about wet grass, which is why they're against it.

Thank you!

cwaggoner07

I haven't priced this out, but doing that and staying there might actually end up being the cheapest option! Also, I'm having my ceremony and reception in the same place and I could not be more thrilled with our decision to do that.
Good luck!

crnflkgirl75

But don't forget to get insurance for the day if you go that route! Just in case, you don't want the family losing the farm!

[Deleted User]

Ok, Thanks!!

cwaggoner07

I've used those bathrooms before at events and was worried they would be porta-pottyish but I was VERY impressed by how nice they were. I would have no reservations if you needed to use something like that.

AurorasEnvy

I agree with PPs, you could definitely rent everything you need to have the reception right at the farm - however, you definitely wouldn't be saving much money versus having it at a reception venue, and it might even be more expensive.  I'd price it out and see if the price difference is worth having it on the farm.