help! pregnant bridesmaid!!

amymaysa

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[QUOTE]I have a 1 old daughter. I know what its like to be that pregnant. The last thing I wanted to do was put on a pair of pants never mind a dress and to stand up infront of 200 plus people when I was 9 months pregnant. If the baby comes earlier than the date, who wants to leave there new born...I sure as sh$t didn't. Doctors don't even want you to leave your house for 3 weeks once your home. I have no replacement bridesmaids, I'm not some uptight crazy bitch that's nervous about her looking different in the dress. Not even close. I'm looking out for both her and I. I think she feels shed be letting me down if she wasn't in it. Which isn't the case. I was looking for a little more support from fellow brides... its a very upsetting situation.
Posted by Tote[/QUOTE]

I don't see how this is such an upsetting situation.

Isn't every pregnancy different? If she feels up to it, she'll e there. If she doesn't or has the baby day before, she won't. I'm assuming if you asked her to stand up for you, she's a good friend. Why is this such a crisis?

NcsuPsych

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: help! pregnant bridesmaid!! : *whips out a yardstick*  22.5 inches.  Yours?
Posted by crash2729[/QUOTE]

O.o

Mine is uhh. . . 23? Yeah! It's 23!! 

Cynthia1207

Oh dear OP....
Your bridal consultant is not a doctor, she's a bridal consultant.  How can she tell you that being pregnant that far along is dangerous for the baby when doctors are encouraging women stay active as long as possible throughout their entire pregnancy?  And the two dresses thing is BS.  I'm a MOH in my cousin's wedding in 3 months from now.  All they need is some extra material here and there to fit whatever belly I'll have at that time.

As for the "I've already been pregnant so I know it all" excuse, it's bull.  You should very well know that no 2 pregnancies are alike.  Your friend just might be one of those lucky women who only gain from their belly, have no swollen anything and who feel perfectly fine. 

Stop being so self-righteus and judgemental.  Thank her for her support and let it go.  Make her comfortable on that day, have a seat for her at the ceremony, during pictures, etc.  If she doesn't feel good, she can sit and not take a couple of pics.  It's NOT a big deal.  Be grateful she even wants to be a part of it.

crash2729

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: help! pregnant bridesmaid!! : O.o Mine is uhh. . . 23? Yeah! It's 23!! 
Posted by NcsuPsych[/QUOTE]


Man. You won!
Lol.

kristielar

I know this is an old post, but I was very offended that someone referred to your bridesmaid as selfish for "getting knocked up" before your wedding. You have no idea what someone's experience with fertility and pregnancy are. Not everyone can just spread their legs and get pregnant immediately. I am in fact going to be the MOH in my best friend's wedding, and I found out that I'm due three days after the wedding. She knows my husband and I have been struggling for over a year to get pregnant and that I wouldn't purposely try to steal her thunder. She has been nothing but supportive of me and knows that I can't completely stop my life and family planning for her wedding. I think you should support whatever your bridesmaid wants, and in turn she should support you through your big day however she can. 

themuffinman16

Let her get a maternity dress in your color. It doesn't have to be an exact bridesmaid dress.  That way, if she can't attend, she can always return it..  Let her sit down during the ceremony.  It won't make or break your wedding.  If she goes into labor, bring her bouquet with you to the hospital when you visit.  Write her a sweet note telling her she was with you in spirit and her support throughout your wedding planning has meant so much to you. I have two pregnant bridesmaids.  One will be due a week and a half before our wedding, and my MOH will have her baby the month before. Nobody feels like a rockstar after a baby.  That's not the point, the point is to show their support for you. If she feels up to it, then let her. It is a personal decision.  She may be having a hard time, early on the pregnancy, but it could get much easier. Be as supportive as you can, and everything will turn out beautifully.  I promise.

HobokensFury

@KnotPorscha please kill the zombie!

JCbride2015

kristielar said:

I know this is an old post, but I was very offended that someone referred to your bridesmaid as selfish for "getting knocked up" before your wedding. You have no idea what someone's experience with fertility and pregnancy are. Not everyone can just spread their legs and get pregnant immediately. I am in fact going to be the MOH in my best friend's wedding, and I found out that I'm due three days after the wedding. She knows my husband and I have been struggling for over a year to get pregnant and that I wouldn't purposely try to steal her thunder. She has been nothing but supportive of me and knows that I can't completely stop my life and family planning for her wedding. I think you should support whatever your bridesmaid wants, and in turn she should support you through your big day however she can. 

Hopefully I'm not doing too much damage by reviving the zombie since it's already at the top.  But the funniest part of this statement is that the poster who said the BM was selfish was so OBVIOUSLY being sarcastic and making fun of the OP.  

Internet failz times two.

FiancB

What is so dangerous about having a BM that's close to giving birth? Is she having a baby dragon?

Oh boo, I see it's a zombie.