PCOS

randeea0829

After a previous post and some advice from another knottie I was just curious if there are any other knottie's out there with this issue and infertility? What you're doing to stay positive, how your FI/husband feels, just general things i guess. TIA

NillaWafer10

I had radiation during the beginning of my puberty years, so I have a chance of facing fertility issues when I decide to have children.  It's definitely a hard reality to face, and H and I have discussed a lot of our options.  If we aren't able to conceive, we both want to adopt.  The idea that we will have children someday, whether by adoption or a miracle is what keeps us positive.  

How are you feeling about your diagnosis?  Do you have any options to conceive?  Have you looked into surrogacy or adoption?

Muffin'sMom

My daughter has PCOS and just got married last year.  She has known for a while, and so has had 7 years to wrap her head around the issues.  They decided to go off BC and spend a couple of years just having a lot of fun .  If nothing happens, they will look toward adopting.  She is not willing to go through the emotional time and money to do fertility treatments.

randeea0829

I mean it sucks obviously I have had it for quite some time now...we are currently trying to conveice and are on our 2nd cycle of clomid. The 1st time didnt work, my quant was only 2 out 5. I havent discussed or put a whole lot of thought into adoption or surrogacy but when I do just randomly think about it i kind of get sad. I know they are great ways to have a child but it's not fair that some of us wont get to experience pregnancy. So I will know by the end of this month is the 2nd cycle of clomid worked or not....fingers crossed!

JenGin74

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_pcos?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:0c363a3c-4928-44eb-b916-6f41c8424eb8Post:32e13fb6-00c2-47f3-be86-60eeae1231ce">Re: PCOS</a>:
[QUOTE]I mean it sucks obviously I have had it for quite some time now...we are currently trying to conveice and are on our 2nd cycle of clomid. The 1st time didnt work, my quant was only 2 out 5. I havent discussed or put a whole lot of thought into adoption or surrogacy but when I do just randomly think about it i kind of get sad. I know they are great ways to have a child but it's not fair that some of us wont get to experience pregnancy. So I will know by the end of this month is the 2nd cycle of clomid worked or not....fingers crossed!
Posted by randeea0829[/QUOTE]

Baby dust to you!!  I'm on my third (and final) Clomid cycle, but I don't have PCOS. apparently my body doesn't like to ovulate when it's supposed to  :(

If you ever need to talk or vent, I'm here (usually on SB board)

jmkes

Just read your last post from your other thread, it's so good that you have a supportive FI and family.  Just remember that this diagnosis is not a 100% death sentence to your dream of having a baby.  It just means it may take a little more to get to that dream.  Anything is possible, but it's good to talk things out for the very fact that you don't know what is going to happen.

I don't have PCOS but I don't have regular periods when I'm not on BC, thus no regular ovulation cycles.  I've been told that I will likely have to go on clomid to conceive.  FI and I talked about it and we are going to be faithful  that God will work in this situation (this is part of our religious beliefs, but I'm certainly not forcing them on you.)  If we get pregnant we will be extremely happy and thrilled.  If we can't, we have decided that we will try the clomid, but beyond that we do not want to do invasive infertility treatments and would rather adopt.

[Deleted User]

OP:  Ok, I found the one girl I was thinking about that has the PCOS siggy pic. I PM'd her for you, so check your PM's later today. I am hoping she can answer some of your original questions.

AmeliaAndSeth8890

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_pcos?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:0c363a3c-4928-44eb-b916-6f41c8424eb8Post:26735f0a-25c3-45c5-be54-b04d7f4fa3da">Re: PCOS</a>:
[QUOTE]OP:  Ok, I found the one girl I was thinking about that has the PCOS siggy pic. I PM'd her for you, so check your PM's later today. I am hoping she can answer some of your original questions.
Posted by MissySue20[/QUOTE]

Hey that's me. :) PMing you in a sec - just FYI.

AmeliaAndSeth8890

Just thought I'd come back and share for those of you also wondering --

Yes I was diagnosed with PCOS about a year ago. We are not TTC just yet - but at the same time we are not NOT ttc - make sense?  We want babies and I really wanted lots of them. I would be happy with just one healthy one at this point. HOWEVER, I have learned that once you do get pregnant with PCOS it drastically reduces your symptoms and problems. 

To stay positive - well FI helps out with that a lot. He was with me when I got the diagnosis. He is always pretty positive about treatments in the future working, etc. He and I both REALLLLY want kids biologically, but have come to terms with the fact that my body just may not want to do this. We have decided that once we are married (got about a year and some change months-wise) we will start Clomid, the medication.  We are very open to adoption but I have this "maternal instinct" that has always made me want to have babies -- so I get it.

I know that adoption is a beautiful thing. Backstory: My Mom AND Dad were adopted as infants. My Mom and StepDad adopted my much-younger sister even though they had three perfectly healthy kids StepDad didn't have any "of his own." And my mom is a firm believer in adoption. Is it a viable option for us? Yes. Is it our first choice? It wasn't exactly our ideal, no, but I have a lot of positive experiences with it.

 In general...yes, I feel like crap some days. And on my worst days I feel like a failure as a woman. I know logically it's ridiculous and stupid, but those are my rare, really bad days. They happen, and you get over it, but during that really bad day where you are blaming yourself for your ovaries, you can really get all out of sorts.

Anyways. That is my experience. OP I PMed you a minute ago with more detailed answers and more feedback. Hope I was helpful.

randeea0829

I PMed you back sorry it to me a bit. Thanks for all the thoughts ladies You've given me a sort of peace with all this...I will keep you all posted, Im starting my 2nd cycle of clomid this morning, so at the latest I will know something by the end of this month!