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MizzPerfektionist

hello everyone my name is desmonique i will be turning 25 in january this is my 1st wedding i have a question were on a budget and we dont have enough for our dream wedding so we have to spend less of what i was wanting. my question is im having my wedding in a court house but for my reception i was going to have it at a club called rack daddies in arlington the reason why was because its all free. do you guys think that will be ghetto or off

allychase

This isn't even a good troll....

MizzPerfektionist

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[QUOTE]Wedding = bride, groom, officiant, license, witnesses. I am confused by your saying that your reception will be free.  Nothing is free. What do you mean by "ghetto or off"?
Posted by CMGr[/QUOTE]

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</div><div>the manager of the club told me since its my 1st wedding i can bring my cake and food to the club he will let me host my reception there for free and what i mean by that is i never heard of anyone having a reception at a club its kinda awkward </div>

Chels&Jimmy

By "club" do you mean a nightclub? Will the club be closed that night so that you and your guests are the only group there, or will there be tons of random drunk strangers around? Does not sound like an optimal situation for a wedding reception, especially if you are having children and elderly persons as guests. 

cwaggoner07

It sounds to me like 'free' might mean that the guests will just pay their tab for whatever they get.

OP, you need to host your guests (aka pay for them to eat a meal if it's at a mealtime, or provide cake and punch if it's a non-meal time). It is perfectly acceptable to have a 2pm wedding and then afterwards just serve cake and have a few drinks available, even if there is no alcohol.

If you want to come over to the DFW board, we can help you find a location within your budget so you can properly host your guests.

cwaggoner07

It sounds to me like 'free' might mean that the guests will just pay their tab for whatever they get.

OP, you need to host your guests (aka pay for them to eat a meal if it's at a mealtime, or provide cake and punch if it's a non-meal time). It is perfectly acceptable to have a 2pm wedding and then afterwards just serve cake and have a few drinks available, even if there is no alcohol.

If you want to come over to the DFW board, we can help you find a location within your budget so you can properly host your guests.

HobokensFury

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: help : the manager of the club told me <strong>since its my 1st wedding</strong> i can bring my cake and food to the club he will let me host my reception there for free and what i mean by that is i never heard of anyone having a reception at a club its kinda awkward 
Posted by MizzPerfektionist[/QUOTE]

Are you planning on having more than one?  Sorry but that train of though is pretty ridiculous.  Anyway I would agree with PP. Nightclubs and weddings don't mix.

MizzPerfektionist

theirs no kids there or elderly and yes its just food and a few drinks theres a section cut off from everyone else and yes they have to pay there on tab

MizzPerfektionist

but i am still planning reason why i said night club is because a family member i no had hers at a night club and told me it was ok but my wedding is not till may 18 im still looking for places

HobokensFury

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[QUOTE]theirs no kids there or elderly and yes its just food and a few drinks theres a section cut off from everyone else and yes they have to pay there on tab
Posted by MizzPerfektionist[/QUOTE]

You can not charge your guests to attend your wedding by having to pay for their own food and drinks.  Using your words- that's extremely ghetto.

MizzPerfektionist

im not charging them anything if they wanna buy drinks from the club thats what im talking about im not serving alcohol but if they want to buy alcohol they pay that themselves

gailpete

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: help : You can not charge your guests to attend your wedding by having to pay for their own food and drinks.  Using your words- that's extremely ghetto.
Posted by HobokenBride2012[/QUOTE]


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HobokensFury

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_help-58?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:0d208908-e5f2-40af-8518-2eb8ddc1dae1Post:5906bb12-9f38-4eeb-aa76-9abd2d139ad2">Re: help</a>:
[QUOTE]it was a mistake askin everyone for advice but thanks tho
Posted by MizzPerfektionist[/QUOTE]

You asked a question and you got an answer. What you're doing is not ok. Wouldn't you rather internet strangers tell you so before you look like an ass in front of your family and friends? I guess not by your attitude. 

MizzPerfektionist

o trust sweetheart im not gon look like an ass n i dont have an attitude but your all good thank you

HobokensFury

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[QUOTE]o trust sweetheart im not gon look like an ass n i dont have an attitude but your all good thank you
Posted by MizzPerfektionist[/QUOTE]

You will but no one will tell you because etiquette works both ways. For future reference capital letters, proper grammar and spelling is your friend. Good luck to you.

cwaggoner07

We really did try to be nice and help you. From youe guest's perspective, it will seem weird and rude to pay for their own food and drink. They may not tell you to your face to be polite, but it is what they will be thinking.

MizzPerfektionist

they werent paying for nothing i dont drink alcohol so i wasent serving alcohol if they wanted alcohol thats were they pay 

HobokensFury

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[QUOTE]they werent paying for nothing i dont drink alcohol so i wasent serving alcohol if they wanted alcohol thats were they pay 
Posted by MizzPerfektionist[/QUOTE]

Guests should not be expected to pay for anything, even drinks. So it's still a no.  And for the last time please speak proper English.

Vivi+Pete

I find it interesting that her name is "Mizz Perfektionist" but her "perfektionism" doesn't extend to spelling, punctuation, grammar or wedding etiquette.

a6a14173

As a teacher, I'm sorry that the education system failed you so badly.

If you're looking for cheap, have you thought about doing a reception as either a backyard BBQ (I've been to a few like that, and they were fun because they really fit the couple) or as a BBQ/picnic in a park?  It would be cheaper and more casual, but still not as ghetto as a nightclub reception!

MizzPerfektionist

hey man yall females betta get off my sista she is in school ive been the one doing this for her she dont even no i got this up yall females talk bout everybody else and how they stuff suppose to be yall need to really grow up i didnt no girls can be so shallow and rude

StephBeanWed61502

Here's the thing: it's fine not to serve alcohol at an event you are hosting if you don't want to or can't afford it, bu it's not okay (actually, it's pretty "ghetto" and "off," to use your words) to host a party at an open night club and not host the drinks. If you don't want to serve alcohol, look into hosting the reception at a church fellowship hall, or in someone's big backyard, or at a public park or something. There is no part of "hey, come to my wedding reception at a night club" that makes me think the host won't be paying for my drinks. Seriously, get a grip on yourself, and ask around on your local board. The ladies there will likely have dozens of idea on places in your area that are within whatever budget you have set that won't put you in the position of expecting your guests to pay a dime for anything at the reception. Alcohol is not the magical exception to the "guests shouldn't open their wallets at a party you host" rule. If you don't want to seve it, don't, but then don't host the party at a venue whose main purpose includes alcohol.

HobokensFury

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[QUOTE]hey man yall females betta get off my sista she is in school ive been the one doing this for her she dont even no i got this up yall females talk bout everybody else and how they stuff suppose to be yall need to really grow up i didnt no girls can be so shallow and rude
Posted by MizzPerfektionist[/QUOTE]

I should have known better. OP is nothing more than a troll.

rusngl2

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[QUOTE]hey man yall females betta get off my sista she is in school ive been the one doing this for her she dont even no i got this up yall females talk bout everybody else and how they stuff suppose to be yall need to really grow up i didnt no girls can be so shallow and rude
Posted by MizzPerfektionist[/QUOTE]

For the love of GOD please don't do this to your "sister" You asked for opinions, you got opinions. If you didn't have concerns that this would appear "ghetto" or "off" you wouldn't have felt the need to post on an open forum asking about it.

Do EVERYONE a favor and go read a book instead of attempting to <em>not </em>host a reception

allychase

Everyone stop feeding the troll.

MizzPerfektionist

look man its jus stupid to spend thousands and thousands of dollars on somthn like ths my sister spendin 3thousand dollars on a wedding tht a dress she only gon wear once n a  man she probably gon get sicc of and divorce in a couple yrs i no how woman are and imma 17yr old boy im jus tryn put somthn together thts cheap and within budget so she dont have to spend tht much money thts somthn she can keep n her account

MoniqueAbrahamsen

If you think your sister is going to divorce in a few years maybe instead of trying to help plan her reception you should talk to her about re-thinking the marriage. Also, please use proper English on here so we can understand you better!

HobokensFury

Wow this troll is trying way to hard.

MizzPerfektionist

she not gon divorce him im just saying n general n im speaking english n no im not tryin hard so chill wit tht whoeva u r

RamonaFlowers

StephBeanWed61502

Dude, what we are telling you is DO NOT HOST A PARTY AT A NIGHT CLUB UNLESS YOU ARE GOING TO PAY FOR YOUR GUESTS' DRINKS.  NOT PAYING FOR THEIR DRINKS AT A PARTY AT A NIGHTCLUB IS GOING TO MAKE THE HOSTS OF THE PARTY (your sister and her soon-to-be husband) LOOK CHEAP AND GHETTO.  SO DO NOT DO IT.  IF YOU DO NOT WANT TO PAY FOR ALCOHOL, FIND A DIFFERENT PLACE TO HAVE THE WEDDING THAT ISN'T A NIGHTCLUB.  

Not wanting to spend thousands of dollars on a wedding reception is totally fine.  Deciding not to serve alcohol in order to save money is also totally fine.  Leaving people stuck paying their own bar tab at a party you are supposed to be hosting is the part that's not fine.  What part of this is too hard for you to understand?