Really rough decision! help!

nmayer2

My wedding is in 43 days and I can't decide if I should invite my brother....he's addicted to drugs and there's a 50/50 chance he would come and cause a huge scene, even if he promises not to.  He can end up getting really belligerent and obnoxious.  I'm torn because I love my brother to death and I really want him there on my wedding day, but then again I don't, if that makes any sense.  Please help! I need advice!

tidetravel

I don't think that anyone here can tell you what to do in your case.  There was a similar situation posted on another board a couple of days ago.  Read through the responses and see if anything is applicable to your situation.  http://talk.theknot.com/boards/ShowPost.aspx?PostID=61454700

mouse10031978

I had a friend who had this same issue.  He was invited, but basically they hired a security guard that was sort of associated with the venue to basically babysit or watch him.  The guard knew that is he caused the slightest problem he was to escort the brother out immediately.  If you cannot afford to hire a security guard, maybe have a trusted friend(s) that could maybe keep tabs on him, etc. 

becky33333

I have that same issue with my father and 2 of my aunts. One of my aunts is doing great and has been sober for like a year or more. But I made the choice not have anyone of them attend. I am having a 5 hour open bar and just think its to much temptation. But its a personal choice, others are not happy with my decision but I had to do what I felt was best for and my special day. [url=http://<a href="http://www.weddingcountdown.com" rel='nofollow'>www.weddingcountdown.com</a>][img]<a href="http://img.weddingcountdown.com/ticker/senwdtm.png" rel='nofollow'>http://img.weddingcountdown.com/ticker/senwdtm.png</a>[/img][/url]

jeannigirl

I surely wouldn't tell you not to invite him has he is family. I can totally understand where your coming from has my FI's brother is that way to and he has to be really loud and let everyone know he is there. If you catch my drift.You will have to make that hard decision on your own and know it won't be easy at all. My heart does goes out to you. Like another bride said maybe if they have Security or even an Event Coordinator to keep taps on him and take care of business if it needs to be. I wouldn't suggest another friend/guest to babysit it wouldn't be fair to them.