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At my wits end!

Background info:  I'm in my last year of college.  I've been living with my boyfriend of two years for the summer.  We have a serious, wonderful relationship and want to get married in the future.  For financial reasons (long story), I'm going to be moving back on-campus to be an RA (and get free housing) for the school year.Ok, so real problem.  My mother comes up to Boston for the weekend to help me move from my boyfriend's place into my on-campus apartment.  We're all at dinner, having a nice time...and suddenly she starts rattling on about "the sleeping arrangements this summer..." and how we've been "living in sin".  I stop her right away, completely mortified (not only that she would say such a thing, but especially in front of my BF) and ask her to please stop because it's offensive and I ask her to apologize.  (I knew she wasn't happy about us living together, but she doesn't really have much to say since I'm financially independent from her.  Also, she's NEVER used the phrase "living in sin" before.)  So she essentially tells me to get over it and then says it again and continues!I'm ready to kill her and I have to move all of my stuff with her today.  I can't understand why she knows she's offending me and CONTINUES!  If that's what you think, keep it to yourself.  Don't come up here, after months of not seeing me, and make a stressful (and sad) time worse for me.Thoughts?  Or am I out of line?

Re: At my wits end!

  • My feelings are its your business and your business only.  I would just tell her in a calm way that you know her views on living together and you would appreciate her keeping them to herself.  I guess if she brings it up again you can try and cut her off right away or ask her to leave and move yourself. My FI dad made a comment when he bought a house and we moved in.  They are just from a different generation.  He isnt even religous at all and he mad the comment of living in sin so I asked him when did he get to be so religous and he stopped right there and never said it agin.  
  • Make sure that as she helps you move, she conveniently picks up the half open box of sex toys and magazines. That should teach her.
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  • No your not out of line.Yea sounds familar my mom says the same thing. Big deal shrug it off your an adult. Just simply say thats enough mom. Conservation is over and you voiced your opinions so thats the end I do not want any further talk of this matter.
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