oot wedding...friend joining on drive down??

joylee101409

So, an old friend of my FI wants to DRIVE to Fla from MO with us and our dog.   He was not on my list, no biggy there, but he says he wants to come...ok fine, fly down like the rest or drive yourself...am I wrong??This is our wedding and to celebrate my 40th b-day.  It's not our official honeymoon, but we are just getting married.  I do not want this guy driving across ctry. 24 hrs and then he is there with us the whole time too...am I being selfish or rude??It just seems very presumptuous to invite yourself and then assume you can hitch a ride as well.

ellinger84

If you're ok with him inviting himself then that's your call.   I agree he's being rude assuming he can just invite himself and hitch a ride with you.  I would have FI politely tell him that there won't be room in the car.  You + FI + dog + your luggage + wedding stuff + wedding presents (on the way home) = no room for anything else. 

goheels05

That's crazy rude.  I would have FI put his foot down. 

ffmaid

" I'm sorry but between the two of us and our dog and lugage our car will be full. I'm sorry we can not accomidate your vactaion plans in ours. So why are you going down anyways? do you have a special event or some such?" ,... When he says for your wedding.." Oh I am so sorry but we were unable to invite everyone we would have wished and we will be unable to invite you to the wedding but would love to hang out with you another time. So how is your yoga/wii/sailing/running/ underwater basket weaving going?"

joylee101409

This guy is very unique as well.  He lives basically where ever he can.  Doesn't have an actual mailing addy ever.  He is an artist and very bohemian.  Nothing wrong with that just not any structure in his life.  It is just odd to me to invite oneself and then assume you are riding down with us too...?? Crazy to me.  I AM concerned with the room factor as well.  Was thinking my dress would be opposite the pooch hanging up back there!! And then what if we get presents we have to lug back??  Thanks gals just had to vent a little bit.FI says he could chip in on gas from Missouri to Fla. but I would rather pay more than be saddled with a "stray" for 10 days....geesh.

ffmaid

Well if he gets thru life mooching off of others then it is not a shock he wants to mooch off of you and fi during this time too. Say no and be firm and polite. He is not invited to the wedding nor to join you on the drive.

jeannigirl

OK he is rude and presumptious to invite himself to your wedding and also hitch a ride. I think that you need to let your FI know that you do not want anyone to go with you two on this trip. Your FI needs to be the one to tell him No that he will need to find another way to get to the destination he needs to be.

joylee101409

Thanks for the input....:))I totally agree.