jitters?

jleabailey

Hi! My wedding is in a month! YAY and yikes!!! I'm so excited but at the same time I am having doubts. I just don't know if its normal to be nervous about committing my life to someone or if I should rethink the entire thing. We've been together for 8 years and I feel like I really know him but I've heard stories of couples that are together for many years before they get married and after they do are divorced within a year. What are your thoughts? Do you feel this way? Any advice?

lissa71679

I think some amount of jitters is normal.  I think I have been commitment phobic...dated 3 guys for over 3 years each and once marriage was brought up I bolted.  It wasnt until I met jason that I knew why I bolted...they werent the right guy for me.are there major problems in your relationship or is it just jitters?  Only you know if he is the man you want to spend the rest of your life with.I would assume (not knowing you at all) that its just typical jitters.  I think at some point or another we all think...I will never get to experience that honeymoon stage of a new relationship...but then I think of all the dating hell I went through and all the excitng new things Jason and I will get to experience together, like a baby.

sunflower1998

DH & I were together for over 8 years when we were married. I didn't have a single doubt or jittery feeling within a few months of the wedding. I did have thoughts about it during the engagement. I think it's perfectly normal since marriage is a huge step! I think so long as you communicate with your FI well and verbalize your emotions, you'll find he's probably had the same thoughts.

hall_ky

My wedding is in five days and when I begin to feel a little jittery I think about would my life would be without him. I missed him so much when he wasn't in my life. He is truly my best friend, I love spending time with him. I know by marrying him my life will be more complete. I guess its hard to put into words, but when I think about marrying my best friend, there is no doubt. I know we will be together as long as we are best friends. I think this is why we will last. Not to say that sometimes he doesn't drive me crazy, he does. But I know those moments of craziness are worth it because he completes me and makes me so happy. Hope that helps a little. I think I have an advantage because we broke up for a year and when I get jitters I think about that time and how much I missed him.

clseale13

I've been having serious cold feet lately so I can relate. We've been together for 9 years and I definitely have some axiety. In the moments where I'm able to relax and really look at the situation I realize that it's more about my feelings/doubts/reservations about marriage in general and NOT about the actual person I'm marrying. That's an important distnction to make. GL!

jleabailey

I've been thinking about what you all have said and I am happy with my fiance I'm just nervous about the wedding. Thank you for helping me see that.