A Weird Question

dan61079

I have four people who I want for my bm and moh. I don't want to just go up to them and ask them "hey, will you be in my wedding?" I wanted to give them a card or something to show how much I care about them. Anyone have any ideas?

trix1223

Remember that the honor is in BEING asked, not in HOW you're asked.  Do you think that getting a Hallmark card will somehow make asking someone you love to be part of your wedding more special?Really-it won't.  just ask them.  They'll be delighted.  Having said that, your wedding is over a year away.  I'd wait until after the holidays to ask them.Want to know why?  Take a stroll over to the WP boards, and see the countless posts from brides who asked early and now are trying to figure out how to kick someone out of the WP because their friendship has changed.  GL

Asheia

I got engaged last October. I waited until now to ask everyone to be in my WP. I am so glad I did. I'm no longer friends with two of the girls I would have asked and I would never have gotten the opportunity to ask the people I have now due to those two girls being demanding and overly dramatic. (Hence the lack of current friendship.) Regardless of all that, I did do something special for my BM's. I made them all individual cards and in the card wrote a special note explaining why exactly I wanted/needed them in my party. I tried making cookies in the shape of shoes, but that was a disaster. You can look at www.weddingish.com. If you budget allows for it, they make super cute "will you be my bm/moh?" cookies. I've also heard of brides making a day of rescue kit and giving one to each potential BM and ask them if they will use that on the big day. Ultimately its up to you and your tastes. Do something that is special to you and these special girls. Good luck and best wishes!!

goheels05

I've seen some really cute cards that have a caricature-type drawing of each bridesmaid--with their hair color, style of clothing, and something they like (a book if they like to read, etc).  I like a lot of the PPs ideas too (except the party, sorry, but I agree that that could be an awkward situation).  that being said, I highly recommend you wait a couple more months before asking.  I asked too early and had 8 bridesmaids--it was completely out of control, and at least 2 of them I wouldn't ask if I could do it over.

thewayiam

I held a brunch at my fave. restaurant and gave each one a card and asked that way. It was really nice. BUT... they all already knew I'd be asking them. We'd talked about it long before, really. So there was no pressure. But brunch/cards were nice.

futuremrsdawes

ditto what some of the previous posters said - if you still are a ways out from your wedding wait (unless say you have been friends/related to those four people your entire life).  I asked a co-worker right after I got married to be one of my bridesmaids - now with two months left to go till my wedding I no longer work at that job and talk to her maybe once a month - I REALLY wish I would have waited