Rehearsal Dinner Advise

LCGabrick

OK- so we sat down to make our "rehearsal dinner invitation list".  And due to some major problems with both our families we have cut them out of the wedding (they are still invited as guests, but will not be a part of it) and therefor they will not be invited to the rehearsal dinner.Do you think its ok that we just invite our attendants and some close friends?  Let me know your thoughts!  Thanks always!

kmmssg

Family wise, the RD is usually parents, siblings, g'parents, bridal party and any SO's.  Are you cutting out siblings or something?

lissa71679

The only people at RD thats I have been to is the bridal party and their significant others and mothers and fathers.  I guess anyone who goes to rehearsal.

Leah&Christian09

You really should invite parents and siblings to the RD even if they aren't participating in the ceremony. If your issues with them are moderate enough that you would still invite them to the wedding, you can stand them for the RD also. If you're talking about aunts, uncles, cousins, etc, no, you don't need to invite them.

natmwilliams

I would invite them! But that's just me! I know that I have a whole bunch of family coming from out of town and it is proper ettiquet to invite any out of town quests to the rehearsal dinner!

Leah&Christian09

It is not proper etiquette to invite all out of town guests to the RD. This is a custom, but it is not a requirement. Proper etiquette only requires that you invite everyone at the rehearsal and their dates.

SarahPLiz

I agree with PP, it is not necessarily proper etiquette to invite all OOT guests to the rehearsal dinner.ALL of my guests are OOT guests, so that would be like having 2 receptions and I just can't handle that expense. I am thinking about doing the rehearsal earlier inthe day and having a lunch at a really nice place for hte wedding party and our parents and any Out of the COUNTRY guests (we may end up with a few). Then we will use Evite to let all of out OOT guests know where we will be hanging out that night and that they are invited to join us if they want to. That way, we can all hang out together, or the ones that have been driving all day can choose to go to bed, or whatever, at no additional cost to us. While I would love to be able to afford to entertain all of my OOT guests all weekend on my dime, its just not feasible, so I think this is the best alternative. 

sudslover

It's your wedding.  If you want to invite the attendants and close friends to the rehearsal dinner, that is your choice.  I wish you the best.