Wedding Crazy???

e_jakiela

Hi, So I have a question - how long after you confirmed the date did it take to stop talking, thinking and dreaming about the wedding? For the past three weeks I cannot concentrate on anything - work, school, family... anything! but my wedding. I constantly think about the reception ideas, colors, activities. I come up with drawings of the centerpieces I would like, then scratch them and decide on non-flower centerpieces. I search wedding ideas, spend hours on TheKnot then discuss every detail with my friends. I feel like one of the women who just had their baby, and all of a suddden you cannot talk to them about anything else but their baby. Will it ever stop? Not that I don't want to think about it, but I already missed one deadline for a school assignment. I have not read one page of the text book for another class. I don't want to over do it!!! HELP!

kschwedic

I was (and sometimes still am) the exact same way! When FI and I first got engaged, I immediately jumped into full-on planning mode, pushing everything, including work and school, to the side.  I'm not sure exactly when I started to calm down on everything.  I think at one point, I was almost sick of just thinking about it.  Sometimes, it can get to be too much and you'll almost feel burnt out on the wedding details.  It comes at different times for different people, and sometimes it doesn't even happen.  But if that does happen--just take a weekend and forget all about it!But try not to talk about it too much with other people because they may become annoyed with it after a while.  But, don't worry--eventually you'll reach the point of actually thinking about something other than the wedding

pamila51510

I go in and out of crazy planning mode. I dedicate weekends to non-planning just us time. Then other times are full on crazy having fun with it. The Knot helped me a lot. Because we all talk about wedding stuff. No one here is tired of you bouncing ideas off of them. This weekend we are full on doing wedding stuff. Another payment to the Venue, picking up my wedding ring, Going to the Cake designer and paying off the cake. Finishing up some jewelry that I am making for one of the Bridesmaids. Fun Fun Fun!!! Next weekend will be all about us and no wedding planning stuff. It will calm down but you will still have spurts of crazy wedding planning girl!   

AlexiaANDRobert

My advice: move the date up so it's sooner.  The insanity will stop when it's over or you decide you just don't care anymore. 10 days out and I feel like the least productive person on the planet.

kate8987

I was the same way when I was first engaged I've since calmed down but everyonce in a while I'll go into crazy planning mode again lol

SarahPLiz

Im the same way and it hasn't stopped yet. Its been a little over 3 weeks. I told FI that if we set a date and booked a venue I wouldnt bother him again with decisions until Christmas. But then a designer I really want to try on is having a trunk show this weekend at the salon I really want to visit, so its taking all my willpower and frugality to not go, because I don't have the cash budgeted for the dress for another month or so. Im not in school, but I am supposed to be studying for a certification and getting a sort of promotion at work.. and Im on here. at 4:12pm... lol. If it wasnt for The Knot, Id be driving my friends and FI nuts with details!

peachkins

Since we've had an almost two year engagement, I'll be honest and say that at first, I didn't really think a whole lot about the wedding.  About a year out we needed to start booking the big things like the church and reception venue, so I started into all-wedding-all-the-time mode.  After we picked out the BM dresses a couple months after that- which we only did because the girls were all bugging me to death- I really started to calm down. 

Zooloo

I think at first it's overwhelming - you're like a kid in a candy store. So many cakes, dresses, floral arrangements.... ooooohhhh... Once I started wading through all the choices, getting vendors booked and checking items off the list, I was less wedding crazed. In the beginning, I could not wait for a few weeks or months to pass so it would actually be appropriate to start a certain task (our total engagement will be 2 years). Now, I'm actually behind on a few things... and I don't care. heh. ;o)

sugiepie

FI and I only worked on wedding things on Sundays in the beginning.  That's the only day we would talk or work on stuff for the wedding.  Now we are 20 something days out and are spending a lot more days on stuff.  But the one day a week was adequate to get things done.  Why don't you try to set one day aside per week to go wedding crazy and the other 6 days to accomplish what you need to.

Stephileigh84

I'm having the same problem... And instead of wedding planning, I NEED to be working on my house... which is quickly becoming 'our' house... But canNOT get motivated. : )Truth is we can't even officially set a date until he puts in for vacation and that might be another month... It's all just so exciting.

Spim7

Ummmm.... I think we're probably all on here because we can't stop thinking about weddings and planning. I wish I could tell you it'll go away but it doesn't it just kind of fades in and out at times.

brownhenry

I am the same way. I kind of go in and out of it one week I am all wedding nuts then I will forget about it for a few weeks. I don't have much of a suggestion for how to control it except try your best... save wedding thoughts for night time before bed.