calling off my wedding

Nico1018

whats the best way to let everyone know your calling off the wedding?

I <3 Seabass

If you haven't sent out invitations or STDs I would think word of mouth.

Nico1018

ya, i haven't sent anything out yet. I just don't want people to ask me why...

aerinpegadrak

You may want to set other people to doing word of mouth, so they can deflect questions of why.  If people ask why, I think you're perfectly within your rights to say, "I'd rather not go into that" and change the subject.

salt78

[i]I just don't want people to ask me why...[/i] You aren't obligated to answer anyone that does ask, considering that it's really none of their business why you are calling it off. Sorry to hear about this.

redheadfsu

Sorry. If the why questions come up you do not have to answer. Just say it is personal. Then, "Oh how about the nice weather we are having". People will understand.

Leah&Christian09

Sorry to hear that. I think most people will be sensitive enough to not ask you the details. You can say "oh, we're still together or we've split" if you want them to know. Otherwise, just tell them it's personal or you don't want to talk about it. Or you can be a smartarse and make up something sarcastic and awful, like he was a vampire or he tried to kill your pet and then run out of the room. That's what I would do.

jeannigirl

You can do word of mouth or sent a blanketed email to all those you sent an STD or invite to. That way you don't have to answer anyone if you choose not to. I do hate that because some people have no tact and are totally snoopy and will ask.

LesPaul

So sorry about this.  If people are rude enough to ask, just respond with 'it's personal, why do you ask?'

Nico1018

thanks. i totally appreciate the input.. definitly made me feel a bit better

squirrly

I went through this several years ago.  We hadn't sent out any STDs, etc. yet, so we did. . . nothing.  Our friends/WP we told in the normal course of conversation, and they told people, and they told people. . . etc.  Unless you think somebody will tell lies about WHY you called things off and you want to nip that in the bud, I don't think you need to do anything different than you would do if you broke up with a boyfriend.  However, DO call any vendors you booked and explain.  They need to know they can book another wedding that day, and you may get some deposits back.

Nico1018

thanks squirrly that was really helpful. I hope  i'm able to get atleast a portion of my deposits back.

goheels05

I don't have any advice to add, just wanted to say I'm sorry, Nico.I love Leah&Christian's response, hope that cheers you up some!

Tequint

I'm so sorry to hear that. I went through a similar situation a few years ago. I sent an email out to my friends and family, explaining that the wedding was off indefinitely. I just left it at that. Some of my friends knew what happened, but I just requested to them to keep it quiet. I didn't want to open the rumor mills. I also called the vendors we had already booked. We fortunately did get most of our deposits back.Again, I'm so sorry. Hope you're doing ok.