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Dilema in who should walk me down the aisle

I recently chose my mother because i was worried she make me pick between my dad and stepdad because she kept saying my real dad didn´t deserve it. I told my dad and he was really hurt. I am not sure what to do for the best. It is true my dad hasnt really been there for me in the last few years but he is still my dad and my mam is a bit controlling. Any suggestions? Thanks

Re: Dilema in who should walk me down the aisle

  • If your mother raised you, it would make sense that you'd feel closer to her than your dad.  Surely your dad will understand that.  I'd say something like "Dad, I'm just not into the tradition and don't feel like I need a male to walk me down the aisle.  I love you, but since I grew up in mom's house, I feel closer to her than I do to you.  I would like to share a special dance with you at the reception.  Do you have any ideas for songs?" 
  • thanks for such a prompt reply. Your words are nice I just need to find the courage to say them, I have always been scraed of confrontations with him. Not really got any ideas for songs yet. My fiancee is mexican so we will have to have a mixture of spanish and English songs
  • I am walking partway down the aisle where my fiance is meeting me and we are walking together. You could always go with a different option like that. Plus, you don't have to be "given away".
  • This is a hard subject as I also have had my dad not been in my life as much as he should have been. My suggestion to so that you will not be hurt so that your mom will not be hurt and that your dad not be hurt is let them both walk you down the isle and save the dance for your step-father. Enjoy your wedding day most of all!
  • I say save the drama and walk the aisle on your own. Have your FI meet you halfway I think that would be totally sweet.
  • I was at a wedding last year where the brides' father and stepfather both walked her down the aisle. One on each arm. It was beautiful to see that she had two men who had important though different roles in her life. Something to consider, if you would like to have them both take part...
  • picture walking down the idle on that day. thinking about it, what would make you sad if you didn't have your mom walk you? then think what would make you sad about not having your dad? the answer may come quicker than you think. go with your gut instinct. I am having my mom because she has always been there for me and my dad was just an ATM and thought that was "taking care of me" yeah, no thanks.
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