First wedding meltdown...

hollandgirl1981

... And hopefully they last...

(sorry if this is waay long)

So I had a complete 2 day (yes 2 day) meltdown about my wedding, which is about 9 months away... really loooong story, but the short and culminating facts were-  My MIL doesn't like ANYTHING about our plans ("why do you need a hippie ceremony" aka no church wedding, doesn't like the date "its hot, poeple have been known to faint" or the place "why don't you get a catering hall like everyone else" <-exactly why, I don't want the same wedding as everyone else) I felt unsupported by my fiance, my MOH blurted out how unhappy she was that I told my bridesmaids "just pick a navy dress, the rest is up to you guys" (she got married 2 years ago, but is SUPER traditional when it comes to weddings) the caterer i wanted was taking a week at a time to get back to me, and the straw that broke the camel's back- my cat wouldn't take his medication...

I seriously had thoughts of calling off the wedding celebration and marching my fiance down to town hall, that way if I couln't be happy nobody could be happy about the wedding, lol

so now that i've calmed down, talked (well cried) to my fiance, found out he was a 100% behind me, realized my MOH will just have to find a navy dress and the caterer FINALLY called back this morning and we are meeting later this week,  I feel like all is well in the world, its amazing what a few kind supportice words and a hug from your true love can do :-)

I'm sure there will be stresses down the road, but i'm hoping nothing nearly as bad as I percieved the stresses of this weekend... I hope :-)
I just wanted to share, not for sympathy, but maybe to help another bride on the verge (or in the middle) of a bridal meltdown that you aren't alone and that you will get through this :-)

oh, and Norman finally took his pill YAY!!!

jessienjeremy

Just take a deep breath. It will all come together and be gorgeous and everything you wanted. People need to remember that this is about what you and your FI want.  Especially if you are paying for it. You have 9 months just get you a calender and plan to do something every week so you dont get overwhelmed.

good luck!

crose29

You are not alone! I also had a meltdown when my outdoor garden ceremony turned into a catholic church wedding pretty much without my ok and then everyone wants an explanation of why I dont want it when its like, hello! I already planned everything for my beautiful outdoor wedding!

My advice: Do what you want but there is always a little room to fit others opinions. I am now doing the church ceremony (short version, no mass) but having the reception in the garden.

Maybe offer to go shopping with your MOH to help her find a suitable navy dress and then she wont be so stressed out.

Final note: It is you and your fiances wedding, do what makes you happy!

Tula214

I just went through a meltdown last weekend. Once I sat down with FI and talked about it... I felt sooo much better. Glad to see everything is okay now, and just remember when you get stressed that you have your man standing right next to you.

vlizz

For me, talking to my FI always helps with stressful stuff.

So glad you got through it, and that your kitty is back to normal.

sarahbutchin

I had a complete meltdown about centerpieces. I wish I was kidding, but i'm talking "running away from home" for the day total meltdown. It was very 3rd grade. Weddings make people crazy!

JJWillis3

I went through this yesterday. I have been getting very stressed. My fiance and I have a budget and know how much we need to be putting into savings. Buuuuut... nothing has been going into savings. We have three kids and a heaping load of things that always need to be taken care of. Yesterday it got to me so bad that I almost canceled our day at our venue. Which broke my heart.

I had been applying for part time jobs over the passed few months. Yesterday I got the news that one of them wanted me! Which means that will be able to put all of those checks into savings.

Good luck!

lindsaynewbride10

You are definitely not alone- just hang in there, everything will be fine. Just remember that the only opinions that matter are yours and your fiance's (unless someone else is paying, and if that's the case you're screwed.) lol good luck!

hollandgirl1981

hahaha CMGr thats great!

thats almost what happened when he started his valium regimen (looonger story) now i just smoosh it into a soft treat and he scarfs it right up, but not that day, he was being a total jerk, and not supportive of my fragile mental state, lol :-)

bobbiann

I feel your pain.  I am also having issues and we near did have a breakdown here about the heat situation.  I also wanted something different but the groom is nearly freaking out that it is not affordable to have ac in a tent.  Fans will have to do.  It's all about us and despite people wanting things to be simple and in a catering hall everyone will love your unique wedding in the end and talk about it for years to come.