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Re: Singing at my wedding

  • What song are we even talking about here, OP?
  • Seriously, dude, how many more people need to come into this thread and tell you that singing at your own wedding is just incredibly gauche before you actually get it?

    Or if 100 people tell you not to do it, but then 1 person is all "IT'S YOUR DAY, DO WHAT YOU WANT!", are you seriously going to do it knowing that the majority of your guests are probably giving you the side-eye?

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  • I'm late to the thread, but I read all the replies and this is getting weird. The vast majority of people are telling you this is not a good idea. Your insistence is just strange. I mean, at this point maybe you should just go ahead and do it, since after everything that's been said, you don't get it. JIC you're starting to, though, let me just say that your whole wedding is already sentimental. It's a sentimental occasion. And wedding traditions are already in place so you can have a special moment with your dad. He can walk you down the aisle, you can have a father-daughter dance, he can even give a toast if he wants to. You don't really need more special, sentimental elements to showcase your father-daughter relationship. Also, your whole wedding is a big giant spotlight on you and your new husband. If you're not a super AW spotlight seeker, why do you want people to spend time watching/listening to you sing when they could otherwise be dancing, mingling, drinking champagne, or eating cake? And the less time you spend singing with your dad, the more time you can spend greeting your guests or taking a moment to soak it in with your husband! Win-win.

    Shift your focus from searching for elements to make your wedding more "sentimental" to making sure both you and your guests have a great time, and I think you will see that this idea just doesn't work.
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  • I'm not saying I wouldn't think someone who sang at their own wedding was totally cheesy...because I most likely would, but my uncle sang a song dedicated to my cousin at her wedding and it was very sentimental. Everyone seemed very moved.
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Singing at my wedding : Honestly, I wouldn't care if the dad sang a song to the bride and groom.  In that case, the bride and groom are the audience, so I don't need to pay attention if I don't want to.  Whereas if the bride is singing at me, I am the audience, and then I'm getting sucked in to something when I might want to just get a drink instead.
    Posted by kwitherington[/QUOTE]

    I agree with this. I still think its AWish, but much less AWish than if the bride and dad were singing.  Either way, I think it's a bad idea.. but, slightly less of a bad idea if it's only Dad.
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re:Singing at my wedding : But it's easier to politely ignore a dance between two people than to ignore a song that they're singing while they look out at the audience.  So your dad can be a showman during the dance, and those who want can watch and be touched by it - those who don't can go to the bar or bathroom or check their phones and you won't notice.  The same can't be said of singing. I<strong> like the idea of dancing to a song you used to sing together, and singing to each other if you'd like.  Then it's actually about you, not about your audience</strong> - your guests should never be your audience! ETA: clarity
    Posted by kwitherington[/QUOTE]
     
    This is what I was thinking. Just dance to an already special song, sing along if the mood strikes you, but avoid planning an actual performance with microphones.
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  • It just makes no sense that in your OP you say you don't want to be the center of attention at all, but then you want to get up and sing in front of everyone, which exactly that--being the center of attention!

    If you want a moment with your dad, you can have that privately. If it's just about singing with your dad for a sentimental value, then why not do what Stage suggested and sing with him before the wedding in the car or in your room after you put your dress on? Why does it HAVE to be in front of an audience if you swear up and down you're not doing it for attention?


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    [QUOTE]So I want to sing with my dad at my wedding... is this something that could come off as AWish? I do not want to be the center of attention at all- even though it is my wedding. In fact I'd rather have someone else be, but singing is a passion of mine and my dad does it as a career so singing has always been something we feel strongly about. I am a pretty good singer but don't want to come off as though my father and I are trying to show off. Should we not do this? Does this generally come off as good or bad at weddings?
    Posted by OwningAHome1981[/QUOTE]


    What are you trying to sing? My sister has a beautiful voice and she sang to her husband at their wedding. Everyone loved it. Half of the guests were in tears.

    I'm surprising my fiance and having her sing at our reception as well. She will be singing a song that him and his grandmother used to dance together to (she passed a few years ago and they were extremely close).

    I guess it depends what kind of performance you're trying to do. Honestly, it's your wedding. Do what makes you happy. As long as you're not inconvienencing your guests in some way then who cares what other people think?
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Singing at my wedding : What are you trying to sing? My sister has a beautiful voice and she sang to her husband at their wedding. Everyone loved it. Half of the guests were in tears. I'm surprising my fiance and having her sing at our reception as well. She will be singing a song that him and his grandmother used to dance together to (she passed a few years ago and they were extremely close). I guess it depends what kind of performance you're trying to do. Honestly, it's your wedding. Do what makes you happy. As long as you're not inconvienencing your guests in some way then who cares what other people think?
    Posted by SJM7538[/QUOTE]

    Oh my
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Singing at my wedding : Oh my
    Posted by cmgilpin[/QUOTE]

    Aaaaaaaand, now that ONE person in 50 posts said it's okay, OP is 1,000,000% sure that this really is the greatest idea evarrrrrrrrr.

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    [QUOTE]In Response to Singing at my wedding : What are you trying to sing? My sister has a beautiful voice and she sang to her husband at their wedding. Everyone loved it. Half of the guests were in tears. I'm surprising my fiance and having her sing at our reception as well. <strong>She will be singing a song that him and his grandmother used to dance together to (she passed a few years ago and they were extremely close</strong>). I guess it depends what kind of performance you're trying to do. Honestly, it's your wedding. Do what makes you happy. As long as you're not inconvienencing your guests in some way then who cares what other people think?
    Posted by SJM7538[/QUOTE]

    Are you sure that's a good idea? I am not saying this to be snotty or rude at ALL. I just want to make sure you know how this will go over with your FI. I'm sure his grandmother will be in his thoughts on that day, and having <em>your sister</em> sing a song that was special to <em>them</em> might bring up sadness or even anger. I just... I don't think it's a good idea. If my H had played my stepmother's favorite song at our wedding, I probably would have bawled my eyes out and not in a positive, that's-so-sweet way.
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Singing at my wedding : Oh my
    Posted by cmgilpin[/QUOTE]


    oh my to what part? lol

    I know my fiance well enough to know how he will react and that he will appreciate it, so I'm not worried about it. And his mom loves the idea to. I'm not going to announce it as a dedication or anything, just have her sing it.

    If the oh my is to the other part - IDK maybe its just me but I think some people just care to much what others think. She's not inconveniencing her guests in some awful way so I guess I just don't see the big deal. If they don't want to listen or pay attention then they don't have to.
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Singing at my wedding : If the oh my is to the other part - IDK maybe its just me but I think some people just care to much what others think. <strong>She's not inconveniencing her guests in some awful way so I guess I just don't see the big deal. If they don't want to listen or pay attention then they don't have to.</strong>
    Posted by SJM7538[/QUOTE]

    I agree that when it comes to ways you can inconvenience or badly host your guests, this isn't one of the worst. But we're all just trying to answer the OP's questions. She asked if this would come across as AWish, and we all said yes, it would. She asked if it was a good or a bad idea, and we all told her it was a bad idea. Then she refuted every single solid point by simply repeating that singing is so super special to her and her dad and even though she hates being the center of attention, she wants to do a performance anyway.

    It's just another classic example of someone asking a question solely because she wants to be validated when she's already made up her mind.
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Singing at my wedding : I agree that when it comes to ways you can inconvenience or badly host your guests, this isn't one of the worst. But we're all just trying to answer the OP's questions. She asked if this would come across as AWish, and we all said yes, it would. She asked if it was a good or a bad idea, and we all told her it was a bad idea. Then she refuted every single solid point by simply repeating that singing is so super special to her and her dad and even though she hates being the center of attention, she wants to do a performance anyway. It's just another classic example of someone asking a question solely because she wants to be validated when she's already made up her mind.
    Posted by Ali092011[/QUOTE]


    I guess I just wouldn't care if I was a guess. But I totally see what you're saying now. Makes sense.
  • Yeah, the points have been made, and no matter how much OP says it's a "special moment" I'm going to throw my hat behind this being a bad idea. It would make me feel awkward at least... but yeah, if OP just wants people to tell her it's fine and great and so so special, this post won't make any more difference than the other 50.
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  • I just think it's uncomfortable to watch, talented or not. It sort of says it's my wedding so I get to put on a show. OP what are you thinking of singing? I attended a wedding once where the bride's sister sang at the reception but it was a fun jazzy tune that everyone got up and danced to so no one was really watching the sister. Also my step-sister had a band at her reception and someone tipped the band off that the groom plays the drums so they pulled him in for a song, but again people were dancing and watching the band not just the groom and it wasn't really his idea.
  • OP, I get the feeling that you're the kind of individual that would argue with a brick wall.

    You also seem to be searching for validation, even if you haven't explicitly said it. In my opinion, I strongly agree with PP's in that, I see this as a bad idea. I'm all for celebrating the bride and groom, but if I want to go see a concert, I'll go to one I want to see, not one I'm forced to sit through at a wedding reception. A reception is supposed to be a 'Thank You' for your guests, for taking the time out of their lives to spend time with you and celebrate your marriage.

    Just my opinion though.
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Singing at my wedding : Ahhhh, well, maybe consider having the rehearsal dinner somewhere more private, or in a restaurant with a private banquet room. No matter what, doing this is going to be AWish.  I know you say that you probably won't do it at all, but I get the feeling, in the same way I got the feeling about your other post about the donation cards, you really just want someone to co-sign this idea.  Like, waaaaaaaaaa, but I wanna do this, and this is why... Dad loves to sing, his feelings will be hurt, I really want to, No one will be offended, people are asking me already, people will already being enjoying the music, there is music and entertainment already, it won't disturb anyone, we are providing free food and liquor, why would this bother them?, people will be there for us... etc. etc. etc. etc. If you want to do it so badly, then do it.  But, if you think people won't be side-eyeing you, and being like, "um, WTF was that.  I thought this was a wedding and not a lounge act", you are kidding yourself.  Yes, of course, people love you and want you to be happy, and they will still talk shittt about you behind your back.
    Posted by cmgilpin[/QUOTE]

    THIS.  All of this.  OP - stop asking for validation about these awful ideas then refuting every helpful piece of advice everyone gives you. If you're going to do whatever you want and not care if your guests are offended, uncomfortable or side-eyeing you - then just stop asking.
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Singing at my wedding : oh my to what part? lol I know my fiance well enough to know how he will react and that he will appreciate it, so I'm not worried about it. And his mom loves the idea to. I'm not going to announce it as a dedication or anything, just have her sing it. If the oh my is to the other part - IDK maybe its just me but I think some people just care to much what others think. She's not inconveniencing her guests in some awful way so I guess I just don't see the big deal. If they don't want to listen or pay attention then they don't have to.
    Posted by SJM7538[/QUOTE]

    My "oh my" was in response to you basically validating that this is a good idea.  

    And it's not just about inconveniencing guests. It's also about making them uncomfortable. And sitting through an AWish, lounge act performance by the OP in her wedding gown and her show-off father WILL make people uncomfortable.
  • Some things in life are more important than having a perfect, "classy" wedding. People might think you're weird, or even get a little bored. Whatever, they're there to sit through a wedding. It's not like it's intolerably rude to anyone. No one is going to be alienated by your singing unless they had some issue with you already.

    I think you should sing your little heart out if that's what you want. Friends who won't be your friends just because your broke into song at your own wedding don't deserve to be your friends.
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    [QUOTE]Some things in life are more important than having a perfect, "classy" wedding. People might think you're weird, or even get a little bored. Whatever, they're there to sit through a wedding. It's not like it's intolerably rude to anyone. No one is going to be alienated by your singing unless they had some issue with you already. I think you should sing your little heart out if that's what you want. Friends who won't be your friends just because your broke into song at your own wedding don't deserve to be your friends.
    Posted by pesematology[/QUOTE]

    But why is singing with her dad at her wedding more important than having a "classy" wedding that her guests enjoy? This is a serious question. What is more important than being a good hostess at your wedding reception?

    No one is saying she will alienate people or that her guests will stop being her friends because she sings at her wedding. We are saying that people will feel uncomfortable and will probably be rolling their eyes on the inside.

    I guess I just don't understand performances at weddings. I see it on Four Weddings all the time, too, and I'm baffled by it. I feel like fire spinners, hula dancers, and singing performances are better off at a birthday party.
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  • Look I get that this is a bad idea- but no one is forced to listen. If they want to go to the bathroom, get a drink, go outside to smoke then by all means go ahead.
     
    If people get uncomfortable, no one is forcing them to listen.

    The bottom line is dad is paying and he pretty much had his heart set on singing with me just as I did with him- how do I break the news without hurting his feelings?

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    [QUOTE]Look I get that this is a bad idea- but <strong>no one is forced to listen</strong>. If they want to go to the bathroom, get a drink, go outside to smoke then by all means go ahead.   If people get uncomfortable, no one is forcing them to listen. The bottom line is dad is paying and<strong> he pretty much had his heart set on singing with me just as I did with him</strong>- how do I break the news without hurting his feelings?
    Posted by OwningAHome1981[/QUOTE]

    Sure, they COULD do those things, but as a guest I would feel even more uncomfortable if I felt like I <em>wanted</em> to get up and do any of those things during the performance. I think it is rude of the hosts to go into it with that mentality.

    In your first post, I thought you said that you didn't feel comfortable with the idea since you would be 'the center of attention'. Now you're saying that you had your heart set on singing with your dad. I'm confuzzled. If you feel uncomfortable, tell him that you'd rather not sing but that he is more than welcome to do so in place of a toast if he wishes.

    What song is it that he wants to sing with you?
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    [QUOTE]Look I get that this is a bad idea- but no one is forced to listen. If they want to go to the bathroom, get a drink, go outside to smoke then by all means go ahead.   If people get uncomfortable, no one is forcing them to listen. The bottom line is dad is paying and he pretty much had his heart set on singing with me just as I did with him- how do I break the news without hurting his feelings?
    Posted by OwningAHome1981[/QUOTE]

    "Dad -   This is my wedding with my future husband.  I would really like the focus to be about that, and not about a performance of any kind.  I know you had your heart set on singing with me like we did when I was little, but I just don't think it's appropriate for my wedding.  Maybe we can do a duet at your next birthday party.  Hey, lets record an album!!   I hope you understand"

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  • OP, let me tell you a story.  I was in a wedding a few years ago.  The MOG told everyone she had a "surprise" for the bride and groom.  She flew a singer from Italy over to sing at their wedding.  He was a professional "Famous" singer, and if you ask me, he was horrible.  Some people loved him, but many HATED IT.  It was loud, no one understood what he was singing, and I ended up with a migraine from it.  After spending a lot of money and time to be there, the last thing I wanted to do was go stand out in the chilly October night waiting for him to stop singing.  I ended up eating only half of my meal and just leaving.

    Dont do it.  Just dont.

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    [QUOTE]OP, let me tell you a story.  I was in a wedding a few years ago.  The MOG told everyone she had a "surprise" for the bride and groom.  She flew a singer from Italy over to sing at their wedding.  He was a professional "Famous" singer, and if you ask me, he was horrible.  Some people loved him, but many HATED IT.  It was loud, no one understood what he was singing, and I ended up with a migraine from it.  After spending a lot of money and time to be there, the last thing I wanted to do was go stand out in the chilly October night waiting for him to stop singing.  I ended up eating only half of my meal and just leaving. Dont do it.  Just dont.
    Posted by button6004[/QUOTE]


    I can almost hear the OP's brain spinning on this one.

    But, Everyone is ASKING me to sing.
    But, my dad REALLY wants to.
    But, it's sentimental to us.
    But, seriously, we are GOOD singers.
    My dad is a performer. He will make it a performance anyway.

    Waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa but, I WANNA !!!!!!!!!!!
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    [QUOTE]I can almost hear the OP's brain spinning on this one.But, Everyone is ASKING me to sing.But, my dad REALLY wants to.But, it's sentimental to us.But, seriously, we are GOOD singers.My dad is a performer. He will make it a performance anyway.Waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa but, I WANNA !!!!!!!!!!! Posted by cmgilpin [/QUOTE]


    Well, that and "We will be singing in English, I've never heard of anyone getting a migraine from singing before, and besides, that was a guy the MOG hired, NOT the bride singing with her dad, SO IT'S TOTALLY DIFFERENT!!!"

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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Singing at my wedding : But why is singing with her dad at her wedding more important than having a "classy" wedding that her guests enjoy? This is a serious question. What is more important than being a good hostess at your wedding reception? No one is saying she will alienate people or that her guests will stop being her friends because she sings at her wedding. We are saying that people will feel uncomfortable and will probably be rolling their eyes on the inside. I guess I just don't understand performances at weddings. I see it on Four Weddings all the time, too, and I'm baffled by it. I feel like fire spinners, hula dancers, and singing performances are better off at a birthday party.
    Posted by Ali092011[/QUOTE]

    No one who loves her is going to not enjoy her wedding just because she sang a song. Expressing the joy in your heart on the day of your wedding matters more than what other people think. I think for her to cave to a need to seem cool like that would be a tragic compromise of her values, if singing is what she really wants to do. And if people roll their eyes, I think they'll survive that ocular exertion.

    Seriously, I do not get this attitude that having what you want and expressing yourself with your wedding-day choices is somehow wrong. No one's day is going to be ruined because they had to listen to a song even if they didn't like it.
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  • One of my friends sang and played the keyboard at her own wedding. It was a cover of what I think was an Evanescence song and dedicated it to her new wife. She is always singing and performing so it wasn't a huge surprise to anyone. I thought it was really sweet and even teared up a bit (I'm a sap). She did it during the toast part of the reception.
  • I lost everything I own in Hurrican Sandy.

    Thanks for the hostility. I hope you all feel real good about yourselves.
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