One of my best friends is newly engaged and sent me a Save the Date for her post wedding barbeque. On the invitation it reads, "We will miss you at our private wedding.". Funny, because I was not invited... I just think it's a rude wording to say that "hey, you weren't invited but come to our picnic". Am I being spiteful? I am doing the same type of small wedding/big party for my wedding next year but my fiance and I are wording ours a lot differently.