my FI and i got engaged feb 2012 but decided to have a long engagement so we could get to a better place financially (since we are paying for the wedding ourselves). even though we havent set a date, we have told everyone that it will be this fall, hopefully in october, but we will know for sure in early feb when we make it official.
we just found out yesterday that his brother (who got engaged 2 weeks ago) is planning to have their destination wedding in october too. my FI parents actually said to me that we need to rethink our wedding plans so we dont "burden" everyone with 2 weddings so close together. it was also suggested that we take our honeymoon to jamacia so we are able to attend their wedding.
my FI and i are really upset and hurt that WE are the ones looking inconsiderate and the ones that are EXPECTED to bend. i dont think it's fair. usually we are the bigger people and just go with the flow in order to keep the peace and not create any issues. but i feel this is wrong of them to ask of us, since our intentions were known and have been for the past year. i dont feel like we should back down and just do what makes everyone happy, but i also dont want to have huge issues within the family.
has anyone ever dealt with a situation like this? any advice to offer?