Bouncer

moniquenelson

I want to know if its rude to have a bouncer at the reception or someone to ensure that only invited guests attend the reception

emarston1

I have to ask why you are concerned with people crashing your wedding?  Do you think this is a realistic possibility?

achiduck

I'm with the PPs. Why are you expecting crashers?

moniquenelson

Well its not that im connected wth persons who are going to crash the event i just want to ensure that all goes well and the amount of persons i pay for at the reception are the amount of persons that are catered for.

emarston1

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_bouncer?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:2084ecd0-d47c-4f27-af89-bbc2461b04b1Post:c0de8f98-065a-42a2-8e2d-14445209c436">Re: Bouncer</a>:
[QUOTE]Well its not that im connected wth persons who are going to crash the event i just want to ensure that all goes well and the amount of persons i pay for at the reception are the amount of persons that are catered for.
Posted by moniquenelson[/QUOTE]
I would say don't worry about it.  Unless you have a legitmate reason for believing this could happen to you, I would save the money.  The amount you would spend on extra security would be more than what a couple of crashers would eat/drink most likely.

AdeleDazeem

There was another private event going on the night of our AHR.  Our venue was a permanently moored ship and the outdoor decks served as large party spaces.  My husband and I wanted to take a picture up by the ship's wheel, which was on their deck.  The people at that party completely freaked the eff our when we tried to go up there.  "You don't belong here!  Go back to your own party!"  How pleasant.

Later that evening, some people hugged us and both my husband and I were like "who the hell are those people?"  They heard, laughed and said "We're from the other party!  We wanted a picture with the bride down here."  We gave them a pic and told them to go back to their own party.

What's my rambling point?  Don't be anal-group A up there... but, definitely question anyone you don't know.  If you have concerns, ask the venue staff to escort them away.

goobersinlove

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_bouncer?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:14Discussion:2084ecd0-d47c-4f27-af89-bbc2461b04b1Post:c0de8f98-065a-42a2-8e2d-14445209c436">Re: Bouncer</a>:
[QUOTE]Well its not that im connected wth persons who are going to crash the event i just want to ensure that all goes well and the amount of persons i pay for at the reception are the amount of persons that are catered for.
Posted by moniquenelson[/QUOTE]

I still don't understand... you say your are not <em>connected</em> (concerned?) with [crashers], but you want to ensure that, essentially, no one shows up that that isn't on your final RSVP guest count (which is the number you give to your caterers)? That seems like the same thing. Or is it that you think a significant number of people might RSVP "no" causing you to submit a lower head count to your caterer, and then everyone who said "no" actually shows up after all?

And as far as "all goes well" - are you worried about bar fights, etc.?

I guess I still don't see a legitimate need for a bouncer.  Remember that a bouncer's job is to end someone's evening by either turning them away from the party or physically removing them from the party.  Is that the kind of thing you want happening at your reception?

RamonaFlowers

You're either worried about people crashing the wedding, or you're not.

Either way: it's your money, do what you want with it. I personally wouldn't hire somebody unless I had a very real reason to believe somebody would show up uninvited.

Gabrielle76

Are crashers a big risk at your venue? Is it a big hotel, where there will be lots of people milling around, who might take it into their heads to crash, or someplace more private, and out of the way?

I wouldn't worry about a bouncer, more than likely, no one will crash.  Worst case scenario, even if a few people crash, a few guests will have been no shows, and they can make sure the meals don't go to waste.  In all seriousness I wouldn't worry about it. 

MyNameIsNot

Have assigned seating and have someone from the venue staff available to assist guests with finding their seats.  

BrittneyRN

I have this image of an extremely tall, large man standing at the door to your venue with a stern look, saying "I need to see your invite." Thats not what I'd want at my wedding! I assume with a bouncer you'd have to have Simeon way of verifying that the guest was invited. I think that would be awkward for your guests.