I asked a friend that I was very close to for several years before she moved away to be in my wedding party. She seemed excited but eventually declined because of the distance and logistics. She is getting married a few weeks after me.
I knew she wouldn't ask me to be in her wedding party because she has sisters and some incredibly close-knit girlfriends she's known since birth, but I guess I assumed I'd be invited to her wedding... She has been talking wedding plans with me (hers and my own) via facebook, phone, email, etc.
I just found out I'm for sure not invited and I can't help feeling a little crushed. I understand budget, not being family, living far away, not being as close the past year or two as we once were, all the logical reasons for not being invited, but it hurts and I have nobody to talk to about it. We were the best of friends through college and tried to stay in touch after that (it hasn't been that long)... I dunno. I'm just sad.
I almost feel stupid for asking her to be a bridesmaid and knowing her reasons for declining and trying so hard to accomodate her, if she doesn't even feel close enough to me to invite me to her wedding. I know weddings aren't tit for tat, and all the logical reasoning, but that isn't helping my emotions. How can I get over this; because I'd really like to continue being close (or trying) with her?