From the start the FI and I agreed that there will be no children at the wedding/reception. I have an extremely large family and we are keeping our guest list to the absolute minimum meaning parents, siblings, grandparents, aunts, uncles and first cousins who are over the age of 18. Well the FI asked his one cousin to be a groomsman, problem is the cousin lives 11 hours away (driving), he is married and has a daughter who will be around two years old at the time of the wedding. FI wants to make an exception that his cousin may bring his two year old to the wedding, I disagree since this will cause a problem with my family. My mother also pointed out that the wedding would be the first time a lot of the FI's family meets the baby and that having the baby there may draw attention away from wedding and that my mother feels it is the one day in our lives that should completely revolve around the FI and I. What do you think?