Seating the Families

JenniferC2010

In traditional ceremonies, I've read, that the MOG and MOB are seated just before the ceremony is started. I'm having an intimate wedding and only 1 attendant each. Who seats the MOG and MOB? Both mothers are currently single so I don't have spouses to seat them.

Would it be odd to have them as part of the processional and have the best man come in with the MOG and then the MOH seat the MOB? Then FI and I could come in together.

Should we skip that altogether and just have them already seated when they arrive?

Thoughts?

trix1223

The MOG and MOB are, I presume, perfectly capable of walking down an aisle themselves.  They don't need to be "walked".

Have your FMIL walk in to her seat.  Then have your mother walk in to her seat. 

Then start your processional.

trix1223

I just noticed that your wedding is over a year away.  This really isn't something that needs to be decided, or even thought about now.

In the 14 months until your wedding, either or both  women could be in a relationship and that makes this a moot point.

There's really no need at all to be thinking about how they get to their seats until, literally, the rehearsal.

Let this go.

skippylouwho

Have the groom escort his mother in and then go back out to line up for the processional.

Have the bestman escort your mother in and then go back out to line up for the processional.

girl2bewed

I think its perfectly find for the mothers to walk down by themselves, either one at a time or both of them together.

mbcdefg

Ask them what they want to do.

DH's mom is deceased, and his dad preferred not to be a part of the processional (gets nervous when people are looking at him). FIL was seated up front before things began, and DH and the Best Man were in the sacristy (little room behind the church altar). My brother was our groomsman and he waited in the back of the church until the limo with me, my parents and bridesmaids arrived. DH and Best Man came out onto the altar with the priest once the music started, my brother escorted our mom down the aisle and took his place with the guys, then the BMs walked down and then my dad and I walked down.

jwinhold

You can think about things as early as you want! Don't listen when people tell you not to think of things because you have time because honestly, if you put it in the back of your mind, sure enough it'll be a few weeks before the wedding and you've forgotten it!

Try this:
1 - Ask them if they'd like to be a part of your processional, if that is something you would want.
2 - If they'd like to, have them walk out first, then your MOH/BM or however order you want, then you.
3 - If you want them to be seated though - you have more options. You can have any cousins or brothers or friends escort them (make sure they're wearing a suit or similar attire), or they can just simply walk in alone and sit in their seats.
Then you can start your processional.

**If you want them to feel more like part of the bridal party, I suggest having them walk in when music starts, then your MOH, then you.

Hope it helps!

JenniferC2010

Thanks ladies! Thank you also for 'allowing' me to think about these 'trivial' things whenever in my planning I'd like. So @trix1223, I understand your opinion, I really do but it might have been easier to just answer the question than tell me it's not time for me to know because I have a year yet.

I'm all about the little things right now. The big things are mostly taken care of so the little things are what I'm dreaming about, wondering and just musing about.

I guess I didn't realize (duh) that the Mothers could just seat themselves. I like having the Groom and Best Man do that too. That may very well be what I'll ask them to do unless they (the Mothers) have other preferences.

And no, they are likely not going to be in relationships  (more details than necessary in this thread).

Thanks again.