to be clear, I'm not having second thoughts, but I was wondering...

jmucheech21

I am marrying my first serious boyfriend as well.  I dated a bit here and there in college, but this is the first man I have spent any serious amount of time with and definitely my first love.  I've thought about that A LOT!  But then, I know I am always that way.  I have never been very good at making decisions, because I am SO OVERLY ANALYTICAL.  I always look at every possible side of everything and second guess everything I do until I am sure it is failproof!  I have to admit, I have spent a lot of time thinking "I know I love him.. and I know how happy we are and how happy he makes me, but what if I am doing the wrong thing.. what if I just don't have enough experience to know for sure that I know for sure." 

I've talked to him about this many times and he is very supportive about it.  I know I don't want to be with anyone else, I just don't want to make a bad decision and then end up getting divorced.  I think its also nervous to wonder about things and I think doubts are pretty common.  I never doubt my love for him or that right now it feels like I want to spend the rest of my life with him.. what I doubt is all the other friends I've had that were 100% sure and so happy and so in love that are now in divorce court.  I'm scared that they were so sure and I am so sure, but yet somewhere something went wrong for them.  I don't want that to happen to me.

So, anyway, that's my long way of saying that I am marrying my first love.  I am his third love (he was engaged to a girl he had been dating for 11 years that didn't work out and then he was married for 11 years and got divorced).  I do sometimes have doubts not in me or him but in humanity in general and the way people change and grow apart even when they never wanted or intended to.  I think you just have to do what is right for you.. and it sounds like you know what is right.  

Judith233

I am marrying my first "real" boyfriend as well.  I just knew when I met him, I wanted to be a better person and help him see his goals in life get reached.  As so many other have said, when you know, you know.

My grandparents met in kindergarden, dated in high school & thorugh WWII when my grandfather was overseas, and this past April celebrated 64 years together.  They still hold hands and give each other doey-eyed looks.  If they weren't my grandparents I'd probably be slightly grossed out, but when it's right, it's right.

stephdonjon

Sometimes you just get lucky and find that special someone the first time around. If someone is completely compatible with you and you really care about each other, then that's wonderful. All the more power to you if you didn't have to experience a few stikeouts along the way. My mom was the only woman my dad ever dated, and they've been married going on 30 years now.

samijogen

I'm going to marry my first everything boyfriend too. I use to be concerned about not being experienced with dating others (and therefore how do i know what i really want) sort of thing. But then i thought of that phrase "if it's not broke, don't fix it." I'm happy with my FI and i don't want to be with anyone else so... who cares if i'm not "experienced." You can only do what makes you happy. When you're not happy is when you need to worry.

golden1215

As much as I adore my FI, in all honesty, I think had I of married my first HS bf (who I did date for 4 years) I would have been just, or close to, as happy.  He has a great life now so I'm super happy for him, but to say "I couldnt imagine life with anyone but FI" isnt so in my case.  I could imagine it, I just dont choose to live it.

andorier

I am marrying my first and only love as well. We met when we were 16, dated long distance for a while, then finally lived in the same city for a bit and now live together. I think it's rare to find someone that you're not only compatible with but someone you see yourself spending the rest of your life with. I would never look any further than the amazing person I already have in my life... you and I  were just lucky enough to find them early on!

Theresa626

Depends. How old are you?  How long have you been dating?  If you are over 25 and he is your first boyfriend, I think it's fine.  If you are 21 or 22, I'd say wait a while.  People grow and change immensely in their young twenties and you want to make sure that you still want and need in a few years what you want now.