So my brother got engaged a few weeks ago (yay!) and I couldn't be more excited for him. He leaves in a few weeks to be deployed until late July. Due to his deployment, my FI and I pushed our wedding back until September (to give a few weeks of cushion) so that he could be there; it was important to my whole family. Today while browsing through facebook, I see that my soon to be SIL has posted something about wanting to plan for August instead of Spring '13 because she will 'burst' if she has to wait that long. The problem is where our family lives. I live in AR but am getting married 3 hours away, he lives in NC, and my sister lives in Florida. Every person in my family will have to travel for both of our weddings so to put them just a few weeks apart will make most have to choose which one to go to, including myself. I will be pretty hurt if I can't attend my brothers wedding, when we did everything we could so he could attend mine (not that its to keep score, I just want to be there to support him like he is for me). I sent him a text and he said that last he thought was still the spring. I voiced my concerns but then he never responded. Do I just wait it out, or do I politely just bring up my concern to his FI? I feel like a jerk saying something. TIA!