I am having my cousin and both of her children in my wedding party and I am so excited about it! The problem is my aunt, her mother, now thinks this means she gets to pick out the attire for the BMs, FG and RB, and every other detail of the wedding ofr that matter. I just don't know how to let her down gently and so now I find myself trying to avoid her some and that makes me feel even crumbier. I have read everything there is to read on Theknot about how to deal with problem people like this but it still doesn't make it any easier. The worst part though, is when I keep trying to hint at things and my aunt doesn't want to hear what I am saying, I get this little voice in my head that is screaming all of the nasty things I could say and sometimes I think about giving in. I know! That's horrible! But geez, I'm at the point where I could scream. I'm willing to hear ideas, just don't get so upset when I don't agree or rush out to buy your picks! I thought I was being nice by telling all of the wedding party that since I know I am picking about some things and have chosen high ticket items, that I would pay for them. And I told the wedding party that while I want certain dresses and RB tux, I am not worried about their ability to pick out their own hair styles (which I have hired my stylist to come to the house with asistants to do everyone's hair however they choose), shoes and accessories. You would think my aunt is footing the bill for the three of them (her daughter and grandchildren) with her snooty attitude, though. She already planned two wedding for her own kids and it seems like it wasn't enough to satisfy her. I know she just wants her family to all look amazing but I think I have that under control and she can go ahead and butt in on stuff like shoes or out dressing my mom ;oP
Blah, thanks for listening!