MERCEDES AND RICKY

mercedesamerson

 IM GETTING MARRIED OCT 5 OF NEXT YEAR THIS IS GOING TO BE MY FIRST WEDDING AND I KNOW I HAVE 305 DAYS TO GO BUT IS IT NORMALE TO BE SCARED AND THINK THAT THINGS WILL NEVER GET DONE. IM 18 AND HE IS 21 THIS IS A FIRST FOR THE BOTH OF US I NEED HELP

lindsaynewbride10

All I can tell you is good luck. With both the planning and the fact that people are about to start replying asking why you're getting married at 18.

mercedesamerson

OK THANKS ITS A VERY FUNNY STORY THO

MyNameIsNot

It's your first as in you're assuming there will be a second?  

If you calm down and quit screaming, and ask for what you actually need help with, people will help you.  With just a bunch of screaming in one run-on sentence, I can't tell what help you're actually looking for.  

lindsaynewbride10

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_first-timer-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:14Discussion:3f5654e8-0a30-4716-9d52-c2a0ebca8a88Post:ee4b278b-820d-4bdc-b1ff-4c988880efa0">Re: FIRST TIMER</a>:
[QUOTE]OK THANKS ITS A VERY FUNNY STORY THO
Posted by mercedesamerson[/QUOTE]

Well I'm glad that you can get a good laugh out of your engagement, but I hope you understand the commitment and obligation that you're getting yourself into. Your life isn't yours anymore. If you decide to go forward with your engagement, then you have plenty of time to plan. Almost a year.
 
But another issue I have with your OP was that this is your "first time". No kidding? I'd say that the majority of us here were planning our "first" and hopefully only wedding when we first joined. Your calling it your "first time" worries me to make me think you're thinking about doing this multiple times.
**Edited for spelling.

mercedesamerson

NO IM NOT THIS IS GOING TO BE MY ONE AND ONLY WEDDING SORRY FOR THE WORDING ME AND HIM HAVE BEEN TOGETHER FOR 6 YEARS AND ITS TAKEN ME AND HIM ALMOST 2 YEARS TO MAKE SURE THIS IS WHAT WE WAUNTED TO DO BECAUSE I TOLD MY GRANNY BEFORE SHE DIED THAT I WOULD BE LIKE HER AND ONLY MARRY 1 TIME. WHEN WE SAY I DO ITS FOR A LIFE TIME NOT FOR ONLY A COUPLE OF YEARS OR MONTHS DOWN THE ROAD AND THEN THINK WAIT I DON'T WANT THIS ANYMORE THAT'S WHY IT TOOK US THIS LONG TO FIGURE OUT THAT WE WAS READY TO GET MARRIED.

MyNameIsNot

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_first-timer-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:3f5654e8-0a30-4716-9d52-c2a0ebca8a88Post:2c711be0-7c35-4414-b416-0c9018143cca">Re: FIRST TIMER</a>:
[QUOTE]NO IM NOT THIS IS GOING TO BE MY ONE AND ONLY WEDDING SORRY FOR THE WORDING ME AND HIM HAVE BEEN TOGETHER FOR 6 YEARS AND ITS TAKEN ME AND HIM ALMOST 2 YEARS TO MAKE SURE THIS IS WHAT WE WAUNTED TO DO BECAUSE I TOLD MY GRANNY BEFORE SHE DIED THAT I WOULD BE LIKE HER AND ONLY MARRY 1 TIME. WHEN WE SAY I DO ITS FOR A LIFE TIME NOT FOR ONLY A COUPLE OF YEARS OR MONTHS DOWN THE ROAD AND THEN THINK WAIT I DON'T WANT THIS ANYMORE THAT'S WHY IT TOOK US THIS LONG TO FIGURE OUT THAT WE WAS READY TO GET MARRIED.
Posted by mercedesamerson[/QUOTE]

<div>I still have no idea what you are asking for, but my suspicions that you are a troll are quickly being confirmed.</div><div>
</div><div>A piece of unsolicited advice: If you want your first wedding to be your only wedding, don't get married as a teenager.  </div>

QueerFemme

Stop posting all in caps.  Use punctuation (periods, commas, etc.)

Then, wait 5 years before you get married. 

LeenieLane

Oh my lanta....

StephBeanWed61502

If you seriously can't figure out that:

1. punctuation and proper spelling are your friends;

2. capslock on the internet = YELLING and YOU SHOULD STOP DOING IT WHEN PEOPLE ASK YOU TO STOP;

3. you should never, ever use your full name as your username on a public message board, because then people can Google you and find your hilariously badly spelled Twitter feed in 0.3 seconds; and

4. if you want other people's advice you need to actually ask a question;

then you are NOT - let me repeat, ABSOLUTELY NOT - old enough to get married.

Look, if this guy is truly "the one," he's going to be "the one" five years from now too, so what's the rush down the altar?  Wouldn't it be better for both of you to launch your careers and become stable adults before taking on the responsibiities of marriage?  (Hint: the correct answer to this question is "yes.")

rajahmd

Dear lord.

That's all I got. I second the PP that said wait five years. If you've been together for six years, that means you've been together since you were twelve. You still have alot of growing to do. Wait to get married so that you can grow without being chained down to a relationship that potentially may limit your growth.

NcsuPsych

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_first-timer-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:3f5654e8-0a30-4716-9d52-c2a0ebca8a88Post:4ed5f36a-c7a1-4dd1-a913-e26472bccd38">Re: FIRST TIMER</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FIRST TIMER : I still have no idea what you are asking for, but my suspicions that you are a troll are quickly being confirmed.  
Posted by MyNameIsNot[/QUOTE]

A quick search unfortunately says otherwise.
OP, piece of advice, don't use your real name in your username. It's really not a smart idea.

Also, for the love of Santa Claus, STOP TYPING LIKE THIS!

LeenieLane

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_first-timer-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:14Discussion:3f5654e8-0a30-4716-9d52-c2a0ebca8a88Post:3aba5d27-bc17-496f-8a52-667af3a4820a">Re: MERCEDES AND RICKY</a>:
[QUOTE]If you seriously can't figure out that: 1. punctuation and proper spelling are your friends; 2. capslock on the internet = YELLING and YOU SHOULD STOP DOING IT WHEN PEOPLE ASK YOU TO STOP; <strong>3. you should never, ever use your full name as your username on a public message board, because then people can Google you and find your hilariously badly spelled Twitter feed in 0.3 seconds;</strong> and 4. if you want other people's advice you need to actually ask a question ; then you are NOT - let me repeat, ABSOLUTELY NOT  - old enough to get married. Look, if this guy is truly "the one," he's going to be "the one" five years from now too, so what's the rush down the altar?  Wouldn't it be better for both of you to launch your careers and become stable adults before taking on the responsibiities of marriage?  (Hint: the correct answer to this question is "yes.")
Posted by StephBeanWed61502[/QUOTE]

Curiosity killed the cat, so I had to Google. My head literally aches from reading that hot mess.

NcsuPsych

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_first-timer-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:3f5654e8-0a30-4716-9d52-c2a0ebca8a88Post:3aba5d27-bc17-496f-8a52-667af3a4820a">Re: MERCEDES AND RICKY</a>:
[QUOTE]3. you should never, ever use your full name as your username on a public message board, because then people can Google you and find your hilariously badly spelled Twitter feed in 0.3 seconds
Posted by StephBeanWed61502[/QUOTE]

Twitter and FB totally contradict each other, but not on the spelling side of things.

artbyallie

If this were real, which I'm praying it's not, six years would mean you were 12 and he was 15. Which is just gross. Middle-school 'romance' shouldn't count toward years a couple has been together, IMO. Start counting after you turn 18. And what's with the caps?

You know, OP probably didn't understand any of that. So, to communicate properly with her:

WHAT'S WITH THE CAPS-LOCK, CHICK NAMED FOR A CAR?

NYCMercedes

WHAT KIND OF HELP DO YOU WANT

GoodLuckBear14

Why does your FB page say you are already married?

mandi195

Had to join in the fun... Posted on OP FB on 11/7/12 (less than one month ago) in response to OP saying they were getting married....
"Mercedes, you just met this guy this past weekn. Let's not jump the gun. You remember how much you loved your last boyfriend and look what happened"

oh my.

HobokensFury

Here we go again...

artbyallie

<font color="#000000">In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_first-timer-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:3f5654e8-0a30-4716-9d52-c2a0ebca8a88Post:858c24aa-16fe-473b-a3fd-3c0bb0fd0295">Re:MERCEDES AND RICKY</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re:MERCEDES AND RICKY: Technically, the car was named for a person, just wanted to point that out. Otherwise, I agree with all the other posters on basically everything.
Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]

</font><div><font color="#000000">You prompted me to look that up on Wikipedia, where I learned </font><font face="sans-serif" size="2" color="#000000"><span style="line-height:19.200000762939453px;">Mercédès (spelled like that) was the designer's daughter's name. And she was Austrian. Obviously, nowadays, names like Mercedes or Porsche or Lexus are known only as luxury cars and when slapped on innocent baby girls* carry the connotation that their parents will never be able to afford said cars. But you are still correct.</span></font></div><div><font face="sans-serif" size="2" color="#000000"><span style="line-height:19.200000762939453px;">
</span></font></div><div><font face="sans-serif" size="2" color="#000000"><span style="line-height:19.200000762939453px;">ETA: *in America. For all I know, Mercedes could still be a normal girl's name in Austria.</span></font></div>

mcda04

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_first-timer-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:3f5654e8-0a30-4716-9d52-c2a0ebca8a88Post:ceeca185-49ea-4bc5-bf1c-ddc04848e3f6">Re:MERCEDES AND RICKY</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re:MERCEDES AND RICKY : You prompted me to look that up on Wikipedia, where I learned  Mercédès (spelled like that) was the designer's daughter's name. And she was Austrian. Obviously, nowadays, names like Mercedes or Porsche or Lexus are known only as luxury cars and when slapped on innocent baby girls* carry the connotation that their parents will never be able to afford said cars. But you are still correct. ETA: *in America. For all I know, Mercedes could still be a normal girl's name in Austria.
Posted by artbyallie[/QUOTE]

Mercedes, is a <em>very </em>popular name in Mexico. I actually have an aunt named Mercedes. I don't even think my grandparents knew this was a car manuf., she was named after the Virigin of Mercy

<strong>Mercedes</strong> <span style="font-size:smaller;">\m(e)-rce-<a href="http://www.thinkbabynames.com/ending/0/des" rel="nofollow">des</a>, <a href="http://www.thinkbabynames.com/beginning/0/Mer" rel="nofollow">mer</a>-ce<a href="http://www.thinkbabynames.com/ending/0/des" rel="nofollow">des</a>\</span> as a girl's name is pronounced <em>mer-SAY-dees</em>. It is of <a href="http://www.thinkbabynames.com/search/0/spanish" rel="nofollow">Spanish</a> origin, and the meaning of Mercedes is "mercies". Used in reference to the <a href="http://www.thinkbabynames.com/search/0/virgin" rel="nofollow">Virgin</a> <a href="http://www.thinkbabynames.com/meaning/0/Mary" rel="nofollow"><strong>Mary</strong></a>, Santa <a href="http://www.thinkbabynames.com/meaning/0/Maria" rel="nofollow"><strong>Maria</strong></a> de las Mercedes as "Our Lady of Mercies". <a href="http://www.thinkbabynames.com/search/0/literary" rel="nofollow">Literary</a>: the name of the <a href="http://www.thinkbabynames.com/search/0/lost" rel="nofollow">lost</a> <a href="http://www.thinkbabynames.com/search/0/love" rel="nofollow">love</a> of Edmond Dantes in <a href="http://www.thinkbabynames.com/search/0/dumas" rel="nofollow">Dumas</a>'s "The <a href="http://www.thinkbabynames.com/search/0/count" rel="nofollow">Count</a> of Monte Cristo". Also the name of the <a href="http://www.thinkbabynames.com/search/0/german" rel="nofollow">German</a> <a href="http://www.thinkbabynames.com/search/0/luxury" rel="nofollow">luxury</a> <a href="http://www.thinkbabynames.com/search/0/car" rel="nofollow">car</a>, which was named for a <a href="http://www.thinkbabynames.com/search/0/little" rel="nofollow">little</a> girl named Mercedes. Mostly <a href="http://www.thinkbabynames.com/search/0/catholic" rel="nofollow">Catholic</a> use. See also <a href="http://www.thinkbabynames.com/meaning/0/Mercy" rel="nofollow"><strong>Mercy</strong></a>. <a href="http://www.thinkbabynames.com/search/0/actress" rel="nofollow">Actresses</a> Mercedes McCambridge, Mercedes Ruehl.<div style="color:#000000;background-color:transparent;text-align:left;text-decoration:none;border:medium none;">Read more at <a style="color:#003399;" href="http://www.thinkbabynames.com/meaning/0/Mercedes#FuBjrY1OAVkBbXAM.99" rel="nofollow">http://www.thinkbabynames.com/meaning/0/Mercedes#FuBjrY1OAVkBbXAM.99</a> 

OP, you're 18 and engaged fine, but dont get married at 19. I moved in with my bf at 19 and i wish i would've waited. Now i'm a mom of 2 and life is good but we had many struggles; fianancial & emotional. At 19, you're new life is fun and you feel like you can take on the world, you mature as an adult and find your NEW personality. If you're meant to be together, why not wait another 5 years?
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cnf2013

Wahhh, I can't seem to find her FB. Link? I want to see crazy...

freebread03

Aw poor girl spelled her own name wrong on Twitter!  Mercedes, I think you have bigger things to worry about than marriage at this point.  You don't need to get married so young-concentrate on school, finding a stable job, and building your relationship with your boyfriend, and THEN start thinking about getting married.  No need to rush!

artbyallie

I was not making fun of the name, for the record. The connotation I mentioned is discussed in Freakonomics and Mercedes is on the list of names signifying 'lower class.' I do apologize if I inadvertently offended anyone.

mercedesamerson

ok everyone stay off my fb and my aunts keyboard was broken ok yes that was my prom dress sorry if i dont spell right i have a learning problem ok im out of school i have a stable job and who cares what my name means ok i dont really care what anyone has to think ive had a rough life and im happy that someone wants to marry me ok if no one can say anything nice about or to me stay off my thing i only made this thing cause my aunt has one she said it would help. why cant everyone just leave me alone ok i mean im human i make mistakes everyone dose i dont need people i dont even know talking bad about me or what im going to do.

mcda04

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_first-timer-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:3f5654e8-0a30-4716-9d52-c2a0ebca8a88Post:0de685ed-20e2-4832-93c9-6e5522f16198">Re: MERCEDES AND RICKY</a>:
[QUOTE]ok everyone stay off my fb and my aunts keyboard was broken ok yes that was my prom dress sorry if i dont spell right i have a learning problem ok im out of school i have a stable job and who cares what my name means ok i dont really care what anyone has to think ive had a rough life and im happy that someone wants to marry me ok if no one can say anything nice about or to me stay off my thing i only made this thing cause my aunt has one she said it would help. why cant everyone just leave me alone ok i mean im human i make mistakes everyone dose i dont need people i dont even know talking bad about me or what im going to do.
Posted by mercedesamerson[/QUOTE]

A general statement is pretty rude. Some of us actually gave you advice.

What do you need help on? Nerves are normal yes but I still think you should have a longer engagement.

mcda04

What planning stage are you in?
1. Decide on a budget
2. Set the date (unless you're marrying in a church, then you need to meet with the Church FIRST)
3. Create the guest list 
All others are extras but The Knot has a checklist that i found pretty useful.
I didn't have DIY projects so i just hired a florist to do my centerpieces (which i could've gone without), had no favors, I hired a caterer, photographer, and DJ and my venue was BYO alcohol which i supplied for my guests. I had Vodka, Tequila, Wine, Beer and hired bartenders from the venue for $20/hr each.

StephBeanWed61502

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_first-timer-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:3f5654e8-0a30-4716-9d52-c2a0ebca8a88Post:0de685ed-20e2-4832-93c9-6e5522f16198">Re: MERCEDES AND RICKY</a>:
[QUOTE]ok everyone stay off my fb and my aunts keyboard was broken ok yes that was my prom dress sorry if i dont spell right i have a learning problem ok im out of school i have a stable job and who cares what my name means ok i dont really care what anyone has to think<strong> ive had a rough life and im happy that someone wants to marry me ok </strong>if no one can say anything nice about or to me stay off my thing i only made this thing cause my aunt has one she said it would help. why cant everyone just leave me alone ok i mean im human i make mistakes everyone dose i dont need people i dont even know talking bad about me or what im going to do.
Posted by mercedesamerson[/QUOTE]

<div>First of all, if you're naive enough to use what is clearly and obviously your real name as a username on a message board, we're 100% free to use the information <em>you provided to us</em> for whatever purpose we want to use it for, including to look for your Facebook page (which we couldn'tve seen anyway if you'd set it to private instead of public).  Consider this a lesson learned, make yourself a new TK name, and fix your FB privacy settings.</div><div>
</div><div>The bolded is one of the more heartbreaking statements I've ever read on TK.  Getting married to someone just because "hey, he wants to marry me" is a terrible life-plan.  What about whether you want to marry him?  What about whether it makes sense for you to live the (incredibly difficult, statistically likely to lead to divorce) life of a teenaged wife?  If you want to be engaged now, go for it.  But please, for your own sake and for the sake of your future marriage, wait until you're in your early 20s to get married.  A long engagement is no crime - in fact, it can be really valuable for younger couples, as it gives you plenty of time to practice living and working as a team, so you can get the hang of it BEFORE you yoke yourselves to each other for all eternity.</div><div>
</div><div>Also, not to be harsh, but I cannot think of a single career that I would call "stable" that doesn't require significantly better writing and spelling skills than you actually have.  Please, for your own sake, seek out more and better education.</div>

Meghannsix

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_first-timer-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:3f5654e8-0a30-4716-9d52-c2a0ebca8a88Post:1ae7ef2f-1f73-4e68-ba60-dc38b4b1e9b1">Re: MERCEDES AND RICKY</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: MERCEDES AND RICKY : First of all, if you're naive enough to use what is clearly and obviously your real name as a username on a message board, we're 100% free to use the information you provided to us  for whatever purpose we want to use it for, including to look for your Facebook page (which we couldn'tve seen anyway if you'd set it to private instead of public).  Consider this a lesson learned, make yourself a new TK name, and fix your FB privacy settings. The bolded is one of the more heartbreaking statements I've ever read on TK.  Getting married to someone just because "hey, he wants to marry me" is a terrible life-plan.  What about whether you want to marry him?  What about whether it makes sense for you to live the (incredibly difficult, statistically likely to lead to divorce) life of a teenaged wife?  If you want to be engaged now, go for it.  But please, for your own sake and for the sake of your future marriage, wait until you're in your early 20s to get married.  A long engagement is no crime - in fact, it can be really valuable for younger couples, as it gives you plenty of time to practice living and working as a team, so you can get the hang of it BEFORE you yoke yourselves to each other for all eternity. Also, not to be harsh, but I cannot think of a single career that I would call "stable" that doesn't require significantly better writing and spelling skills than you actually have.  Please, for your own sake, seek out more and better education.
Posted by StephBeanWed61502[/QUOTE]

This.  All of it.  Couldn't have said it better myself.  OP, please have enough respect for yourself to understand that at 18, you don't even know what you don't know.