I grew up in a not-so-great situation. My brothers were abusive (verbally and physically), my mom made excuses for their behavior, and my dad was always at one of his two full-time jobs. FDH knows this, of course, and has been a support MOST of the time when things come up.
I've been in therapy for a while because of all of the aforementioned family issues. I've learned that some of my trust issues stem from the childhood and grew during all of the crappy relationships I had in high school and college (I dated people similar to my family because it was all I knew). I am learning how to not allow these trust issues to interfere with my relationship with FDH, but unfortunately sometimes he is still effected by them. Of course, he doesn't enjoy when that happens.
Last night, I was starting to share something that I had realized/learned this week in therapy. It was essentially that I look at the world through glasses tinted with mistrust, disappointment, fear, etc. and even though he is completely different than anyone I've ever been close to, it still will take me time to clean the glasses off and see the world without those negative things.
I had barely gotten two sentences out about how sometimes I don't trust him, whether it's in relation to getting things done around the house like he says he will, or something more serious. He responded with, "Your trust issues are NOT MY problem." I walked away, thinking "it actually is, since this is a partnership."
This was last night and I'm still hurt about it. Most of the time, he's supportive. I need him to be supportive 100% of the time. I am not the type to bury my feelings and he tends to be that way. He has gotten better about sharing things with me, but I feel like I can't live my entire life without someone who is my PARTNER.
What do y'all think?