Confused

amercer09

I have recently decided on a wedding date. Its on 7/2/2011. I am currently 19 and my SO is 17. We will both be twenty when we get married. We both know this is what we want. We both take good care of each other and he stays at my house on weekends. We currently work together with no problems. I am wondering what reactions from family and others will be. I recently told on of my friends who told my second mom without my permission. I didn't talk to my mom about it yet because i wanted to be creative. Any ideas on how to be creative and what kind of reactions we will get?

Thanks in advance

Kristin789

You should post this on the Etiquette board (much busier than this board) or Maids&Moms which has all sorts of people who know exactly how to handle family issues, etc.

banana468

Are you two ready for the financial responsibilities of marriage?  It's not about the wedding - it's the rest of your life that people are most likely saying you're not ready for yet.

caymans_christy

Maybe my math skills are not what they once were, but how is it possible that someone who is 17 today will be 20 in 18 months...  I think that is impossible.  Banana is right...  marriage is about a lot more than "taking care of each other".  You need to be able to take care of yourself (financially, emotionally, etc.), without fear of your parents' opinions of your choices.

JessAndTrav

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_confused?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:14Discussion:47894443-c483-495f-b0aa-fab80dc45f52Post:6b57006f-1a48-450b-8320-132233d911bc">Re: Confused</a>:
[QUOTE]<strong>You should post this on the Etiquette board</strong> (much busier than this board) or Maids&Moms which has all sorts of people who know exactly how to handle family issues, etc.
Posted by Kristin789[/QUOTE]

Haha. It amuses me that you sent her there for this topic.

MairePoppy

Kristen - very funny.

mscutieri

You realize that if you have to find a way to "tell your mom" about it, you probably aren't mature enough to handle marriage -- which is intended as a forever experience, btw.

aerinpegadrak

If it's really forever, then what's the harm in waiting?  One of my BMs started dating a guy when she was sixteen.  Eight years (and two short breakups) later, they got married.  You're a very different person at 25 than you are at 18, I guarantee.

My sister got married at 20.  But she married the guy she'd been dating before she had an accident that put her in the ICU for two months and still requires reconstructive surgery today.  The guy stuck with her through all of that, and he's a fireman.  They've both extremely mature for their age.

Unless you've already had that sort of life experience, wait.  If this really is the guy you spend the rest of your life with, it doesn't matter if you do the paperwork to make it official in one year or ten.

megk8oz

You do realize you don't get a medal for marrying your prom date, right?

My brother is 18, dating a 19 year old. They've been together for over 2 years now and I truly believe that they are in love and that they have the potential to "go the distance". I aslo truly believe that neither of them is ready to get married. They're both the type of people who never needed to "date around" or "get things out of their system", but they both still live with their parents, are trying to go to college and only work part time. Lately the girlfriend has been "pushing for a ring" and while I love the girl and would love her as a SIL, they are in no position to be married at this time. They need to do things like be able to afford living independently of their parents before they're even close.

My DH started dating a girl in high school, they were together for 5 years and living together for most of that time. They broke up when they were 21, cut to 4 years later, and he's now married to me.

I was in a relationship from ages 19-21, I was engaged to the guy at one point, and if I'd gone through with it, I can assure you, I would have been divorced maybe a year (tops) into the marriage.

If this guy really is The One, he'll still be the one when you're 17, 20, 35, 75, 92, etc. You can wait.