To invite or not to invite?

mklanich

I have a few coworkers that I don't really care for, especially one in particular, a total drama queen who loves the spotlight. In fact, every time I bring up a wedding topic with her around, she talks about her wedding...that was ten years ago. Is it wrong for me not to invite her to my wedding. I don't want to share my spotlight.

Kristin789

I didn't invite anyone from my work, and DH didn't invite anyone from his work.  We are in two community groups outside of work, and we didn't invite anyone from those.

We wanted this to be a family/friend intimate wedding, and those people just aren't family/friends.  We'd never been invited over to their houses, never been out to dinner with them, etc.  So they are just people we KNOW or people we WORK WITH and that's not enough to be invited to a personal, intimate, family wedding.

quotequeen

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_invite-not-invite-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:49f2fb1f-9aef-4b1c-9578-6b4930886838Post:452bbd78-4136-4c17-b576-9802b55156a1">To invite or not to invite?</a>:
[QUOTE]I have a few coworkers that I don't really care for, especially one in particular, a total drama queen who loves the spotlight. In fact, every time I bring up a wedding topic with her around, she talks about her wedding...that was ten years ago. Is it wrong for me not to invite her to my wedding. I don't want to share my spotlight.
Posted by mklanich[/QUOTE]

You don't have to invite them but you really shouldn't be bringing up your wedding around people that you aren't inviting.

SarahPLiz

Quotequeen is right. I am not inviting any coworkers, FI is inviting 2. However, we hang out with these couples outside of work, so they are also close friends. No one in my 2 workout social groups are invited, and they all understand. However, the wedding is only a topic if they specifically ask about it. I don't go volunteering information. 

Roxygrl2002

It's your day. Invite only those you want to be there. I think this applies with co-workers and former co-workers, just as much as it does for family and 'friends'. Don't invtie someone because you feel obligated. You shouldn't feel like avoiding anyone at your wedding on your big day.