Wedding on a week day

Kris058

Are any of you worried that if your wedding is on a week day people you invite won't show up? This has been heavy on my heart because i am looking at the cost of the wedding. How do you prevent disappointment?

angele4200

Our wedding was on a Friday, and we had no unplanned no shows. We had about 80% attendance, which is pretty typical I think.

emarston1

You prevent disappointment by adjusting your expectations.  Weekday weddings are inconvenient, there is no doubt about it.  Be excited for those that show but do not hold resentment for the ones that don't.

If you choose to have a weekday wedding, you need to be ok with the fact that people won't show.  If you don't think you will be ok with that, try finding a way for a weekend wedding (although that still wouldn't guarantee the people you want to be there, will be there.)

Simply Fated

" How do you prevent disappointment?" 1) Lower your expectations. 2) Prepare for the worst. (But hope for the best) 3) Accept that you can't control every outcome. 4) Get ready to go with the flow. 5) Know that you can just laugh everything off.

NcsuPsych

Hakuna Matata

MrsBee11

I don't necessarily consider Friday to be a weekday wedding, since most people are off the next day. But even so, I think as long as you have the wedding in the evening and give your guests plenty of notice, you should be ok.

Our wedding was on a Friday evening. We invited about 175 people and got 130 or so RSVPs. So at that point, we were pretty clear on the amount that was showing up. In our case, the people that couldn't attend were either long distance or away at school. It had nothing to do with the fact that it was a Friday night. It ended up that 4 of those that had RSVP'ed didn't show up anyway, which was fine. We had a blast, regardless.

It really depends on your guests. I'd say Friday nights are ok. But a Wednesday night, probably not so much.

LizziebeeUT

MY FI and I talked a lot about having a weekday wedding, for my sister's sake, but the conclusion we came to is that it just wouldn't work for us, or most of our guests.

We just figured if we did a weekday wedding we would have to do it later in teh evening as most of our friends work at the bank and wouldn't be able to get the day off work. If that were the case than we would serve a full meal because its kind of odd to do finger food in the evening, and that would just cost too much for us.

Plus, take into account that you'll probably have les out of town guests coming because they won't be able to get two-three days off.

Don't get discouraged though, these are just things to keep in mind. If you absolutely want a weekday wedding, than maybe just plan a smaller, more intimate wedding.

shaina925

My wedding is on a Thursday.  This is because if we did it on a Saturday it would be three times as much.  People need to understand if you are trying to save money.  My Aunt gave me a little bit of a hard time about it, but I was like... really?  Your my Aunt... you shouldn't care what day your only neice's wedding is!  There may be a few who can't come since it is mid-week, but the people who we want there most will be able to attend.

minionlover

We are Getting married on a Thursday. No one has given a hard time but then again we are only inviting about 20 people. As others said you are going to have to prepare yourself for people giving you crap about it and the fact that people won't go.

blgrout

My cousin's daughter got married on a Thursday so she could honor her grandparents wedding anniversary.  They did have a lot of people who could not make it that were from out of town (me and FI included), but they didn't have any unexpected no-shows, and they said close to 75% of the people they invited came.  I think it's NBD.  But if you do have your wedding on a weekday, know that not everyone will be able to make it.

random4180

Ours is on a Wednesday for several reasons- it's our fifth anniversary, it's about 1/3 of the cost of a Saturday wedding and 1/2 the cost of a Friday or Sunday wedding, and I cleared it with our VIPs first. Among our VIPS are teachers, students, and people who work jobs where Saturday is not an automatic day off and are often harder to get off (mom's an RN and one brother's an EMT.) 

Personally, I would like a smaller wedding (our venue DOES fit everyone we're inviting and as per usual, we are still planning on 100% attendance) but with the guest list hovering around 160 and me not knowing half of them (he has lots of extended family,) I wouldn't mind it being a smaller get together. His family can attend, my family can attend, we don't plan on partying late into the night, and at the end of the day it's just the beginning of our married life. There will be plenty of opportunities to host people as a married couple!