Weirdest Invite ever?

mrsrichard33

Ok so I just recieved an invitation for a friends wedding. It says the Ceremony starts at one and cocktails are at 530 follwed by dinner at 630 and then the dance at 830.

What will us out of town guests do from about 2 until 530!? Is this a normal thing to do? Am I crazy?

Also, the reply card states
 " Will be there with bells on"
" Will be there but no so sure about the bells"
and then lastly., " Will not be there but heard about the bells"

WTF? What is with all the bells. To me option 1 states "yes we will be there and we are super excited about it"

Option 2 says " yea we will be there but we aren't too excited.

And last one says "nah we wont be there but heard about the hype"

Anyone????

NcsuPsych

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[QUOTE]Ok so I just recieved an invitation for a friends wedding. It says the Ceremony starts at one and cocktails are at 530 follwed by dinner at 630 and then the dance at 830. What will us out of town guests do from about 2 until 530!? Is this a normal thing to do? Am I crazy? Also, the reply card states  " Will be there with bells on" " Will be there but no so sure about the bells" and then lastly., " Will not be there but heard about the bells" WTF? What is with all the bells. To me option 1 states "yes we will be there and we are super excited about it" Option 2 says " yea we will be there but we aren't too excited. And last one says "nah we wont be there but heard about the hype" Anyone????
Posted by mrsrichard33[/QUOTE]

Oh Geez. . . and this ladies and gents, is why you don't have gaps between ceremonies and receptions!

I'm assuming you're going to be an OOT guest for this wedding. Are the locations near the hotel or wherever you're staying at? Are there any interesting things to do nearby? That really sucks that the couple made the gap. I wish I had more suggestions for you OP.

As far as the bells go. . I think the couple was trying way too hard to be cute. That sounds obnoxious though, IMO.

mrsrichard33

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[QUOTE]Gaps suck!    They need to be prepared for a lot of people to skip the ceremony and come to the reception only or go to the ceremony and not the reception.  They've made it inconvenient for their guests and are taking up a whole day with their gap.<strong> I am not a fan of cutesy response card wording.  A simple will attend/will not attend gets the job done.</strong>
Posted by ILoveMilkDuds[/QUOTE]


Exactly! lol Isn't that weird though. What does the second line even mean?

MyNameIsNot

I'm guessing that option two is for people that don't want to go (and who would with a gap like that?), but feel obligated to.  

This wedding will probably be a pain.  I would certainly skip the ceremony, possibly the whole thing, depending on your schedule and whether you'd have to travel.  

mrsrichard33

Oh I forgot to add, this is the girl who dropped out of my wedding because she wanted to get married 3 weeks before me, and said it would be too much to be in 2 weddings in one summer. (which is fine.) I would feel bad if I didnt go to her wedding. Im too much of a nice person lol. But this will be a pain

mrsrichard33

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[QUOTE]In Response to Weirdest Invite ever? : Oh Geez. . . and this ladies and gents, is why you don't have gaps between ceremonies and receptions! I'm assuming you're going to be an OOT guest for this wedding. Are the locations near the hotel or wherever you're staying at? Are there any interesting things to do nearby? That really sucks that the couple made the gap. I wish I had more suggestions for you OP. As far as the bells go. . I think the couple was trying way too hard to be cute. That sounds obnoxious though, IMO.
Posted by NcsuPsych[/QUOTE]


We are out of town guests but we wont be staying at a hotel. We live about an hr away so we will be going home the ngiht of. But we live too far away to just go home for the 4 hr gap between stuff.

NcsuPsych

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Weirdest Invite ever? : We are out of town guests but we wont be staying at a hotel. We live about an hr away so we will be going home the ngiht of. But we live too far away to just go home for the 4 hr gap between stuff.
Posted by mrsrichard33[/QUOTE]

Ick, that sucks. Good luck with the decision about to go or not.
You should totally wear bells. ;)

MyNameIsNot

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[QUOTE]Oh I forgot to add, this is the girl who dropped out of my wedding because she wanted to get married 3 weeks before me, and said it would be too much to be in 2 weddings in one summer. (which is fine.) I would feel bad if I didnt go to her wedding. Im too much of a nice person lol.<strong> But this will be a pain</strong>
Posted by mrsrichard33[/QUOTE]

<div>Ha!  Option two is for you!  </div>

NeedWeddingFavors

To me, it seems they don't actually want everyone at their ceremony. This sounds like a poorly planned wedding. If you really feel obligated to go, I'd skip the ceremony and just show up for the reception, and not feel guilty about the bells....

Nindakay

 That is such a huge gap!  Maybe there will be an open bar?  LOL  Maybe that will make up for it when you get to the reception.

And yes....wear bells.  LOTS of bells.  or GIVE THEM A BELL for their wedding gift. That would seem appropriate!!

vexie

We were OOT guests at a wedding the other year for a wedding that had a large gap like this.  Half the guests ended up on patios around town drinking all afternoon (which wasn't so good since it was a super hot day and an alcohol free reception due to religious reasons.  There were a few drunk guests that night!) We went back the hotel and napped which didn't make it easy to get dressed again for the reception.    Yes, gaps do suck.

mrsrichard33

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[QUOTE]In Response to Weirdest Invite ever? : They're trying to be funny. You're overthinking it. "I'll be there with bells on" is an old saying for, "I'm so excited to be there!" They don't mean bells in the literal sense. They screwed up the last line. It's supposed to be, "Will not be there (we heard about the bells)", which implies you aren't going because bells annoy you or something. I can't stand cutesy response cards like that.
Posted by burntofferings[/QUOTE]

Yes,  I know that is exactly what it means. Therefore, the second option means yea ill be there but i am not excited about it .

Lizzieyounce

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Weirdest Invite ever? : In my pajamas :-)
Posted by edielaura[/QUOTE]

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</div><div>And a glass (or two) of wine.</div>

mtbentley

I have been to one wedding with a big gap like this. It wasn't so bad because a family member had their house open for mingeling and pre-cocktail hour drinks and snacks. I don't know your friend's situation, maybe that was the closest time she could get for the ceremony, but it would have been nice if she had made some kind of arrangement to entertain guests during the gap, or at least provided a list of area attractions. Since she didn't I wouldn't feel bad about just going to the reception, or declining all together if the travel is too much of an inconvenience.

afink07

We're having a gap between our ceremony and reception but the reception is at a hotel that most of the oot guests are going to be staying at. Plus it's in a small town square area where there is a park, movie theater, resturants/bars, and small boutiques. Our ceremony is at 1 and will be about an hour or so (catholic mass wedding) and then the reception will start with a cocktail hour at 4:30 so it's not a terribly huge gap and like i said there is alot to do.