Did kids cry during your ceremony?

shoegal715

This is a spin-off from the I DONT WANT KIDS SCREAMING AT MY WEDDING thread, and the post about whether or not bride to be should tell FSIL and FBIL she doesn't want her nephew there. 

A lot of brides-to-be vocalized that they don't want kids at the wedding because kids can scream during the ceremony etc etc. 

So my question is to the brides who DID have kids at their wedding - how was it? Any screaming babies? Any disruptions during your vows? Did having kids there make any difference? If you could do it over, would you have made it an adult-only wedding?

duckie1905

I have never been to a wedding in which a child, of any age, was just left to scream.  Either the children were very well behaved or the parents took them outside if they started to fuss.

Parents aren't morons.  They know when their children need to be removed.

We had children at our wedding (just a few) ranging from 2 months-6 years.  Apparently one of them did start to fuss during the ceremony but I was so involved in what was going on, I didn't even notice.

People need to chill out with their "screaming children will ruin my ceremony."  I don't really feel that kids belong at a formal reception (the ones that attended ours were a concession to my mother) but I also don't believe that including kids is an automatic recipe for disaster.

edit: I'm sure there are moron parents out there.  I just don't know any that would let their kid fuss during a wedding ceremony.

AdeleDazeem

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[QUOTE] People need to chill out with their "screaming children will ruin my ceremony."  I don't really feel that kids belong at a formal reception (the ones that attended ours were a concession to my mother) but I also don't believe that including kids is an automatic recipe for disaster.
Posted by duckie1905[/QUOTE]

Thank you. 

I'm not even a child lover, but I think all the kids are getting unfairly portrayed here.  And, quite honestly, a bride who comes on here stomping her feet about children *possibly* distrubing "her day" doesn't make me think she's any better than a child herself.

Kids are kids.  Have them or don't have them depending on your type of wedding,  but don't justify it by saying the child will ruin the day.  They won't - promise.

emarston1

Actually my FBIL got married in August and a baby cried throughout the entire ceremony.  I couldn't hear the vows because the baby was crying.  Yes, it was the moronic parent who didn't take the child out but that doesn't change the fact that no one heard them exchange vows.

I'm not endorsing the no kids policy but I just wanted to say that it does happen.

stina93446

We had kids of all ages, at least 5 infants as well. I can't remember honestly if they cried. I know that our best man(DH's brother) had a newborn there and his wife spent plenty of the reception somewhere else. Babies gotta eat and get changed though, right? The only thing I remember about kids was that our rb had to stand in the sun and it was bothering his eyes, so after about 3 minutes of standing up with us, he walked down and sat with his folks.

goheels05

After the ceremony, we went straight to the priest's office to sign our marriage license.  On our way there, we passed one of our guests, rocking her baby in the hall.  She told me that her daughter had started to cry and she didn't want to "ruin" our day.  Her words, not mine.  I didn't even here her daughter cry, and it's a small sanctuary.  I was just so wrapped up in the moment that I was unaware of anything else going on. 

I think most parents know to take their child out if he or she gets restless. 

jesi_nickles

My sister had her wedding in a small echoy chapel. Her goddaughter was allowed to come, although she was under 1 year old. During the ceremony she did start to fuss, and yes her mother did take her out side. Unfortunately, the mother chose not to sit on the end of the aisle that she was sitting in, so I think that her getting up was more of a disruption than the baby.

So yes, while there are well behaved children and parents out there, there are also those that just dont care. The goddaughters mother could have just stayed sitting there, letting her daughter cry, but didn't. And I DO know some mothers that would have.

While I am not against younger children at the ceremony, which is what some people have done at previous weddings I have been at, there are just some events that kids should not be brought to.  The decision is completly up to you and your FI.

Jes

MyNameIsNot

We had a bunch of kids.  I'm not aware of them doing anything during the ceremony, although most of them are over 10, so I wouldn't expect them to throw tantrums.

Like PP, I've been to tons of weddings with children, and have never seen a parent just sit there and let it cry during the ceremony.  If there is someone in particular that you think might do that, I'd remedy it by having the ushers walk over and escort the parent and child back to a quiet space.

jenn.daniel

There were a few toddlers at the last wedding I attended.  I didn't even realize they were there until the reception.  It seemed like they were well-behaved during the reception too, even though it went til about 9:30PM.  I was impressed.