I guess this is somewhat of a get-it-off-my-chest post.
I work full time and make a pretty good salary, not to mention I'm super-happy with my office. FI is still sort of trying to find his place in the career world. He's motivated and always interviewing and trying, but his employment and paychecks are well... unsteady. We've never had any trouble paying our bills or anything and we're always able to maintain our lifestyle, but we haven't been able to get ahead either to pay off some of the small debts we have and save for the wedding.
Therefore, we're probably looking at a 3-4 year engagement (having already been engaged for one year) because we are paying for the wedding ourselves.
While I can't fault FI because I can clearly see that he is motivated to get himself in a better place, I also don't feel like waiting any longer to generate more income for us so we can achieve our savings and debt-paying goals in a more efficient manner. So today, after work, I'm going to interview for a part time waitressing position at an italian restaurant down the street from my office. I figure a few good nights a week would bring in an amount enough to really make a difference.
I'm just sick of not being able to set a wedding date because I don't know when we'll be able to afford it. I get SO DEPRESSED when people keep asking me "so how's wedding planning coming" and "when's your date" and I have to awkwardly deflect it because there ARE no wedding plans and this IS no wedding date.
Did anyone else get a second job in order to help finance their wedding?